Whoa yes alot of anger here.
The soulmate is about life lessons certainly, and it's painful at times because it happens to make us access our own inner wisdom. It also happens because during this time, we, and the soulmate are supposed to experience personal growth.
When there is separation we are supposed to be living in the NOW. Focusing on ourselves. Learning that we want life on our terms not on the terms others set for us. This is the period of personal growth we are supposed to be experiencing. Turn up the volume, the soul speaks in whispers. Information sent through inner wisdom often comes in subtle way, through symbols, meaningful coincidences, synchronicities, repeated signs or references. We want the big sign but the true soul signs come quietly like that. During a time when there is separation or issues in the soulmate relationship it is to make us grow and go within ourselves and learn. We're supposed to be learning to listen with our hearts not our ears.
And yes live in the NOW.....date other people, go out, enjoy yourself. It's all part of the experience.
Sometimes, the soulmate doesn't do their job and they take a different path. When that happens that is recognized and another soulmate is sent to come in.
The five big soulmate lessons for us to learn is Passion, Purpose, Potential, Pacing (Patience!), and Problem Solving. We are experiencing this relationship to learn at least 1 of these lessons.
None of us should feel we have to apologize for our feelings. This is your experience. If we decide to jump off the path we can....we create our own reality. It doesn't mean we have to be martyrs...it's ok to live our lives and move along....eventually they'll catch up! And really it's not for us to interfere in our soulmates experience...they need to experience these other relationships to move forward also. Sometimes you need to let go of an attachment to make the energy flow and move.
Each of us is individual and needs to experience this in our own way. If we want to date other, date others, some may , some may not want to. Both are ok. As long as you are living in the now and going within yourself and keeping yourself in a position of self awareness, expressing yourself at your highest level, you're doing your spiritual work for yourself...you're learning.
Your personal resonance is created with every free will action you take and every decision you make. It expresses your vibration of the consequences of your own free will choices. Use your own free will wisely when assessing the best way to react to something and pay attention to the intention behind your reaction. What do you want this reaction to resonate and and face yourself honestly. It's not easy but always take the high road. It's all part of us doing our part in this for ourselves!
Grab a friend when you're mad and plot and plan and talk about all the things you want to do....write all over his/her facebook, send texts to his phone, call him/her tell him to go F themselves!....but then laugh and don't do it! Remember any action we take has consequences and can change the energy of our desired outcome.
Besides that, this is their experience...including the new girlfriends, boyfriends, etc...we are not supposed to really be interfering with their experience. They too are experiencing all this for a reason.
If you would be loved, love and be lovable -- Benjamin Franklin
Carefully plant a good seed, you will joyfully gather good fruit. -- Buddha
Peace and Light.
