I’m not saying your reading is or isn’t correct but I’m curious what the back story here is? I mean you say your POI is ghosting you. Does she not trust you in someway or was there an argument to make her do this? If POI is closed off how do you know anything she is thinking about work? Maybe she wants to? Just saying these things are just thoughts. Maybe she does want you to be more open and communicating but right now the way you’re trying to communicate isn’t what she feels is “open” Females are emotional creatures and your idea of open isn’t the same as ours.
Back story: I am completely open and communicative we would talk daily about everything. Met a controlling scumbag in her area that made her all the promises in the world. He is an ex boyfriend that promised to help her after she left her husband. She does want more money but has no license, no car, no job, and she is staying with him for a roof over her head but he controls her and is abusive financially and emotionally. She doesn’t leave because he doesn’t hit her. I am more than willing to support in every way:emotionally, financially, physically—but she is afraid of her feelings and doesn’t want to feel right now with so much on her plate. She has to worry about the divorce, finding a job, getting her kids back—but now that this guy has her there he isn’t helping her with any of that. She is embarrassed and afraid to call or communicate with me because she thinks I’ll be angry. Her mom has relayed all of this by the way. Thinks she made a terrible mistake because she went for a rebound with someone she knew and was with before. Good enough or would you like more?
Does her ex bf know that you're trying to help her? What would happen if he did? Because maybe she does want you to reach out but because of her domestic abuse situation, she has to ghost you. You may be offering those things to her but it's hard to leave or accept those things when you feel like you're trapped.
Frozenfox, you’re absolutely right. It’s complicated. She may want me to reach out, and I’ve sent very sporadic messages just asking how she is, if she needs me I’m here. Have not even been seen or looked at. Cleopatra said though “she wants you to be more open to her, she thinks you don’t tell everything to her”. That statement couldn’t be more wrong. Also “if you want to reopen communication I’ll have to be more listening to her and do good actions”. Well of course listening and doing good actions are important in any relationship and I’ve done that completely. What I don’t get is how that reopens communication—seemed like a very generalized statement. Again she may work for some. Too cryptic and a bit off for me.
