Great explanation, kickingthehabit! I completely agree. Maybe it's because I have been calling psychics for so long, but I have come to the same realization you describe in your post. I am concerned with the outcome, but I need the tools to get there. Cookie is providing me with those tools. I know a lot of people don't like Aurora, but I like her for the same reason I like Cookie. She makes me feel empowered.
I laughed at something Cookie said yesterday when I spoke with her. She told me that I should rehearse my conversations with the person in question, and that I should picture us running into each other and talking. I laughed not because I thought it was ridiculous, but because I do that! This whole time I thought I was crazy (heck, I probably am), but imagining really helps me. I think she was supposed to tell me that so that I can embrace my own process. It wasn't a mindblowing revelation, but I'm glad she told me that.
BTW, I NEVER ask Cookie questions. I just let her go off and running, and she provides me with what she sees. I sometimes get frustrated because she tells me things that I don't think are relevant. I'm now starting to understand that everything is relevant, and I just need to let her tell me what is coming to her so that I don't taint the reading in any way.
I believe in psychics. I wouldn't be calling if I didn't. At this point, though, I need to really believe in myself. I don't control Chance. I know this. But it is clear that our energy is still intermingled, and I know that if I can focus on the positive and send out inviting energy to him, he will come forward sooner. So many readers have told me this. Aurora even told me to picture him in my head and then picture myself holding my arms out open to him. And she's the one who originally said end of spring for contact, but she told me this last time that it could be sooner if I just stop focusing on my anger and sadness and start focusing on the positive. The minute I got on the phone with Cookie yesterday, she said I was so much better and that she knew I had shed the anger and saddness. She told me that she now sees the doorway for us which is a sign of this new period where he will come forward. I am seeing that the power of positive thinking is working.