I know I want to update but I keep trying ... and I dunno what to say it just feels like rants.
I am resolved to move from ex though. I see my brain wants to villain-ize? him. One reader said he’s is seeing multiple ppl- that did make me feel better but not. “Well it’s her problem not mine” - ugh, I can’t even confirm that. All I know is I don’t like who I was when I was chasing him. And I’m done with being that person that pines for him, that calls psychics, that gets anxious... I just want to be done with that life... however, what I left here to pick up are unpaid bills, and no job, and crippling anxiety that wakes me at 3am. Trying to carry on... well I feel empty. Like I dunno if I like pizza anymore or hot chocolate- no, that a lie love those things... yet, something about me feels I’m not the same and what I liked before is well I dunno.
I have the no hope theory about my ex. Yet there is still one more psychic I do want to call... but I kinda feel what she may say... soooo if I know that then why bother? Save my money close the accounts.
Depressed but moving forward,
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For me, viewing him as undesirable in light of all of his negative qualities he's displayed actually does help me to get some real fact-based (as opposed to emotion-based) perspective. So if it helps you to do that or to villainize him, then go for it.
I know part of it is coming to terms with our own actions in all of this. Like for me - how did I enable his self-centeredness for so long? Was I "duped" with nice words that didn't line up to his actions? How did think that binging was going to finally give me the ability to make sense of all of this?
The answer has been within us all along -- for many of us, the answer is that the man (or woman) simply is not able to give us what we need, at least right now.