Ya know Sparky, as I discovered the engagement post this morning, I thought of you. It seems to me our stories are very similar... we turned to the boards and to readers about an ex, we were told she would be back, but then the ex gets engaged/married.
I completely agree with you that getting engaged after eight months is rather quick. I mean, she and I discussed getting engaged at length, read a few pre-engagement books, we talked about kids, plans, etc. We were together for eight months when she broke it off. Quite a few of her friends, and her family, were expecting a proposal between the two of us. And I know this means next to nothing as things can change, but she had once told me she wanted to date someone for at least 12-18 months before an engagement.
Now, and I could be totally wrong, but I suspect that she and the guy were at least communicating and hanging out with their circle of friends together before she broke up with me. They've known each other for a few years through church. In January, a month before the breakup, we went out to lunch and she asked me a bunch of questions like "Why do you love me? What do you see in me?" Maybe she was asking these questions because she was genuinely nervous about the topic of marriage. Or, maybe she was considering this guy and she had some guilt - maybe she was looking for a sign of uncertainty within me to use as a form of leverage for a breakup. At the time, I know she was stressed due to work, etc. Before I unfriended all of her friends, one of them posted a picture of a Sunday brunch and my and ex and this guy were sitting next to each other and you could tell in the photo that he was interested in her. This photo was posted in February... so in the same month as the breakup. Moreover, the year before she invited me to a corporate Christmas party, she invited this same guy as her guest the prior year's corporate Christmas party. So, there's no denying that they have some history, whatever history that is.
As I posted earlier, I read with Cookie earlier this month and she was, once again, adamant, that they would not stay together and I would hear from her probably within the next few months. Though she did not give me a concrete time frame. Cookie described this guy's physical appearance very clearly and said, "You could hear something about engagement or marriage, which would disturb you deeply... you could hear something about her living situation changing... but they will not stay together. Something is going to surface which is going to blind side her and break her heart (she has said this in three separate readings)." However, Cookie later stated, "When she does reach out, you are not going to want her any more."
Earlier this month, Kisha said, "Within the next two to four months, she is going to want to have an honest conversation with you. She wants to clear her conscience or let go of some guilt. The guides are saying that she wants to ensure that you two are in a good place." I spoke with a friend this morning and apparently some people, before they get married, reach out to ex's to apologize or clear a guilty conscience? I've no idea... I personally think that's a little weird, maybe? Kisha also suggested that once my ex and this guy split, "The guides are saying she is going to enter a period where she will have to process a lot of stuff. She won't break from this guy and then come straight to you the next day... she is going to take things slow. But she will potentially seek to start over with you." I think that's a little far'fetched at this point, and quite honestly, I am not even sure I would entertain the thought at this point.
