I feel the exact same way and I'm ready for someone new as well. I've had psychics predict I'd meet someone new "during the holidays" and I was supposed to meet someone in mid November as well. I have had predictions for a whole bunch of different looking guys who were supposed to come in. Nothing has panned out so far and I am also doubtful of these predictions too. I've been thinking back and reflecting lately and I don't know why I have pined for this guy for so long. He really didn't treat me very well and there was a lot of deception going on. Love definitely is blind. It's taken me a long time as well to reach this point, much longer than it should have. So don't feel bad for loving someone who treated you well, I loved someone who didn't!
I don't think that you're being picky 4everyhopeful, I think that everyone should have standards. If you don't have standards, you won't end up in a relationship with someone who is a quality guy. I think that your expectations are very reasonable because I feel the exact same way. I don't think it's a lot to ask if you want someone who is a good person and who cares about themselves and has good hygiene!
What I'm going to try to do (when I eventually meet someone who seems like a decent guy) is that I'm definitely going to be more cautious and take things slower, but I'm still going to give the guy a chance. My situation sounds a lot different from yours, but I'm also scared about giving my heart to someone who is just going to break it. The thing is that the person who broke my heart is one guy out of millions, and it wouldn't be fair for me to think that just because one person broke my heart, that every other guy will. I know that I have to be willing to take a risk and give someone a chance.
When you're feeling lonely, try to think back on everything you've accomplished since you've been apart from your SM. I've realized that I've done a lot and I've been very successful. These are things that I might not have been able to do if I was with my SM, and being with him would have made it a lot harder to do the things that I have done for sure. So, I'm sure that this is the reason why I haven't met anyone who interests me yet. I'm just not interested in anyone! I think it just prevented me from being distracted so I could do what I needed to do. I still believe that everything happens for a reason, even the things that hurt. I also believe that love will find you when you least expect it.
From what I gather from reading all the posts on this forum is that there is a collection of wonderful people here, who have good hearts and good intentions. Love is never easy. Unfortunately we can't choose who to love and who not to love, it just happens. I think at the end of the day though, the people who are good, genuine people, will have love in the end no matter what.