Sorry but I see it as an example of similar things to come.
I was in a relationship ages ago with a guy who talked crap about his family (bottom dweller crap) and his father had a heart attack, died and he was devastated. I didn't hear from him for a month. No texts, letters, phone calls, nothing and then when he got around to calling me, I'm suppose to be understanding? Understanding of what? That he didn't think enough of me to contact me and tell me anything (it is almost a subconscious thing that he viewed me more as a burden rather than a place of solace).
I understood him going through grieving, but to contact everyone under the sun, not the main person who had his back, spoke volumes to me. I barely took his calls after that and needless to say the relationship fizzled (thank god looking back 'cause I will never go through that crap again) and after about a year, he contacted me saying all this b.s. about how he missed me and all that shyte. I calmly asked that he never contact me again and I just hung up the phone.
Men come up with every effing excuse in the book to do all the right things, except when it involves the woman.
He even has the nerve to not even read your text, turning your concern into something else as if you're hounding him. Your situation irritates me and I don't know either one of you, but his harp on 'give me time' should speak volumes to you as well. I can bet he will eventually get around to calling you and talk about the hard time he has been going through, trying to clear his head, get some things settled, all that mumbo jumbo.
You have to think that at some point in your lives during your relationship if another close person from his side dies, you will be thrown on the backburner again, while he processes his emotions. It's total bullshit to me, but hey you need to do what you feel.
