Hey. So I mentioned earlier that Yona said to take focus off him
And he’ll come back etc, move on with my life and he’ll want a part of it. Letting go would bring him back etc. Then I confused myself lol. So here are all the snippets about that particular part of my reading (I didn’t want to post the whole thing ) what do you guys think?
In regards to her prediction of an incoming text message; He actually feels quite emotionally detached at that point, you know, it certainly not a game changer. It doesn't change the status quo. But I'm not anxious about that. Because I think well, he’s touching base and keeping that connection to your life. they've got nothing to offer you at the moment. There's a reason for this.
You know, they they don't think that they're treating you badly. You might, I don't know. But they don't. They think they've explained themselves to you. And that actually, they think that they should be this gap. But then they get so far and panic, they don't want to lose the link to you because nothing's changed. They've got nothing to offer you. But I always think that if somebody has a sparkling target or a sparkling goal, it's amazing how they can hurry themselves up, speed things up , make an effort.
sometimes it takes people a while to realize a sparkling thing and how much they really want it. But this is the other reason why I'm heartened that you're shown playing to your strengths ,moving forward ... you're not cutting ties - you don't need to cut ties . But you're not standing still because if you stood still it would fizzle out. I think it would just fizzle out i think that there would be longer and longer gaps in communication and you know you you'd go separate ways so the fact that it's not although they're important, they showed up very very early, even before the predictions .
They don't like to lose out . you know he’s second guessing his decisions and choices anyway he's not sure what he wants. Thats his problem ,not yours ,but the the better your life is going, the happier you are , the less focus toward him, the more uneasy he's going to be about that. My god what if i make a mistake , my God would it have been too late to change things. Yeah, you you have a very good understanding of psychology yourself .
Playing to your strengths is a good thing . It enhances your chances with him anyway the more successful your life the happy you are the more he wants to get in . He is going to want to be a part of that anyway but you know you're not at that point quite yet he certainly isn't still thinking that he's trapped by his current circumstances but he will become resentful slowly, he will break free.
so youre just moving on .. you're not being horrible. You're not issuing ultimatums. But you're also not hanging around.
That lights a fire under his feet . He feels trapped and people can move on with their lives as he's looking at the same four walls of the obstacles.
Me : How would he know that I'm moving on? I'm very subtle. I don't post things about dates , how would he know my life is going good?You don't need to. Hes not a moron. He might be stuck on things and slow to work on his emotions. But he's not a moron, he'll just know. I think they have a radar.
