Thank u and I do receive the warning. She never said it would be heavenly bliss when poi returns tho. She said there would still be commitment issues for a very very long time. But in my mind, i would rather have my poi in my life with us trying to figure things out instead of us not talking with or seeing each other at all. And yes, ive been on the board long enough. It seems like just abt every two weeks or so another user posts on the board that they are done with psychics because they were all wrong and after holding out hope for a very long time, their poi never came back. So i take it all with a grain of salt. But there have been a few users here who do claim that after a long time their poi did come back. So at this point im hoping im one of the lucky ones. Time will tell. Im willing to give it another year. If nothing changes by then, I will try to let go!
@Professor, if you are anything like me, even if you do “let go” it doesn’t mean someone new will come into your life unless it’s a fated event and connection. I can go on every dating app in existence or go on any number of blind dates and unless me meeting someone is a fated event or connection, no one stands out. Lots of nice guys, even good looking guys, many would be excellent boyfriend or husband material and would make me their priority, but none of them are significant to me. There just isn’t THAT connection. In life, when I’m meant to meet someone who stands out, it just happens. It can take years, actually it usually does take years, but when it happens there is no denying it. When I was “stuck on” my POI that I refer to as H, I randomly walked into a place I had never been with no intention of meeting anyone and right when I walked in there was my POI, who is the subject of most of my posts. It was an instant connection. I could not ignore this connection. I could not stop myself from being interested in him. In a split second I met someone who essentially got me to move on from H. I had been stuck on H from July 2017 until I met C, which was March 2019. Funny thing is that H has returned into my life, while C has not. Both men were meant to come into my life.
So, Professor, as long as you are emotionally balanced and not going off the rails with getting readings, it’s okay if you aren’t letting go or moving on. You’ve heard the warnings and you understand Yona’s shortcomings, but at the same time it doesn’t seem as if you can help the way you feel. Most likely it is a fated connection and whether or not it’s meant to be really doesn’t matter. Some may say I’ve wasted months on my current POI, but perhaps I was supposed to?
I hope the best for you.
This!!!!!!!!!!!! This right here!!!!!!!!!!! I resonated so much with what you just said Yaz. It was pure wisdom. Whether we meet someone or not has zero to do with if we have moved on or let go of someone else. That's just an excuse I feel psychics use when they either don't see anyone else new or when they predict someone else new coming in that doesn't show up. Most of the time when I've met the next man, I was still stuck on someone else holding on. Then that new person and I had a connection and I let go of who I was stuck on. There have been times when I've been single and alone for a few years before the next one appeared. I believe each and every connection we have is fated, destined, and preplanned. There are no coincidences. I've been on dating sites in the past and I've actually never met any of my exes on them. It was all just random meetings, either in an online chat room or in person. However, I have been agoraphobic for the past going on 14 years so each man I've met since being homebound, was always random and never on dating sites. Just before I became agoraphobic, I reunited with an ex from 10 years before, stayed together for 3 years, and then I became homebound, and one day I was looking for a job online back in 2007 and received a random message on Skype out of all places from another man that lived in IRAQ!!!!!!! I thought no way. I knew that relationship wasn't going to last forevermore but I felt I needed to indulge in it. That man ended up relocating to the USA where I live after 14 months of waiting. We stayed together for an additional 8 months and then broke up. The next man I met was totally random on a tagged page that I had back in 2009. He lived right up the street from me. I wasn't quite ready to move on but we were friends for a bit and then lost touch. One year later, that same man re-entered my life and I was ready to give that go. We were together for a bit over a year and then broke up due to cultural issues. About 6 months later, I met another man that lived in the UK in an online chat room, not a dating chatroom, it was a current events chatroom. That man ended up flying out here to visit me and stayed for two months. We were together for about a year and a half and then that broke up because he had two kids that lived in the UK and I couldn't relocate for obvious reasons. With my current ex, we met in that same current events chatroom but were just friends for 3 years as he was married at the time and I was involved with the other UK guy. We also lost touch for about 8 months. That was also 8 months after the UK guy and I broke up and then the friend reappeared and we began a 6 year situationship from the pits of hell. I didn't know he was a covert narcissist at the time, but I sure do now.
One more example is my ex's ex wife. She was married to him for 10 years with two kids together. She wasn't even divorced yet before meeting the man she's with now. She wasn't anywhere near healed from the narcissistic abuse that my ex poured out upon her, yet, she crossed paths with a wonderful man who took in her two children as his own, they bought a house together and even had another child together. Here it is, 6 years later, and they are still going strong.
I said all of that stuff to use as an example of how it really doesn't matter who you're holding on to, whether or not you're fully healed from a past relationship etc etc...........if you are meant to cross paths with another, you will and you won't be looking for it per say. Nothing will be able to stop it and that's pretty much it. I get sooooooooooooo sick and tired of hearing that bullshit excuse of "You haven't met anyone new yet because you're still holding on to your ex and until you let go, you won't meet anyone else". It's nothing but 100% bullshit.
Should we hold on to someone who has treated us poorly time and time again? Probably not. It's damaging to us to do that. At the same time, the heart loves who it loves and the only thing that MIGHT change that, is time. Sorry for the rant. I send love to you all and hope for healing and happiness for everyone <3