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[Nottakingthebait]

Diva, my heart is breaking for you and your pup. I am a huge animal lover too and I know this hurts you. Im so sorry honey!

Thanks for sharing, sun. The financial stress caused from calling psychics is overwhelming. There were times I'd pay rent late just to make that call. At times I would feel pathetic but overall, in your words, what I gained was a life lesson. Within a few months of not calling I was able to take a vacation. A VACATION!! Haha. Not to mention the other little luxuries I've been treating myself to. As many of you know my ex is now living with horsey so that's that. Also, I had asked about my pup to a few readers and they all said he was fine blah blah blah. He's not. He's been in and out of specialists and his vet's office, battery of tests run, etc. I have to put him down this weekend. Just another of multiple things that psychics were wrong about.

[sunandmoon]

Diva, I'm so sorry about your pup! Let me tell you this too, one of my pets got sick this year. Another died, I don't expect a psychic could've picked up on these since it's been 2 years since I called. My point is though, I was considering a CT scan for the one that is sick. It will cost me $1500 plus bloodwork. She also has a heart murmur I have not had checked out yet because I was busy treating the other issue. I'm sure you can image the hell I put myself through thinking of all the $$$$$$$$$$ I wasted on that jerk and now I didn't have it for my girl!!! I was (and still am) beside myself, since I am still making substantial payments on that card. She's "recovered" now, but I honestly have no idea what was wrong with her or if it will come back. I'm at the point of weaning her off a second med and keeping my fingers crossed. I spent over $900 on her in June (which does include food for 2 of them) - all paid cash or out of my checking. But because I have very little savings (because of that damn card!) it has taken me till about now to recover my checking account. Almost 3 months and in November my income will substantially drop until early spring.

I also took a trip this year, first time since 2009 (exbf paid for part of that last trip as we went together). I am still struggling financially but at least I am seeing this bill go down and not up. I am so hoping I'll be in decent shape in 2-3 years. And at my age that really hurts to say.

I never paid the mortgage late but boy was I behind in all my utilities! I even had my electric shut off - I actually had the money the day they shut me off but was so out of it I forgot to pay it. But if I hadn't been so far behind..... ugh! It took me two years to get caught up from all that.

Oh, and I have to laugh - there was a girl my exbf hung out with and I called her Horse! Funny thing is now we get along (me and Horse)

Once again, I am so sorry for you and your pup.    HUGS

(I just remembered, I had TWO die in 2011, when I was still calling. One was my choice, he was declining. The other had a tumor under his jaw and it actually grew so big that it dislocated his jaw! No one picked up on any of these issues)

BTW I was able to see and communicate with my exbf until 2 years ago, while I was calling. I had kept in touch with one of his family members too, and got updates that way. He, intentionally or not, fed me just enough to keep me going and that in addition to the psychics kept me hooked. I am so glad I finally saw the light. I think the longest outcome I ever got was last fall - and it's a year past. If he came back I'd happily kick him to the curb. Because honestly, anyone that treated me that badly for NO reason doesn't deserve my time - despite how I felt when I first joined here! I just fed myself a bunch of lies, he's confused, hurt, conflicted. While he does have issues, he's also pretty smart. Enough said

Also - there were a couple of times I almost called due to my girl. I was so desperate not to waste a ton of money on all these tests if someone could just GUIDE me. I'm so glad I didn't, as that would have been more money wasted. I actually searched a couple of my groups for animal communicators too, but decided to just have some faith in my connection to her and modern medicine. I think if I hadn't called so much before, I may have given it a try.

Sun, what an awesome post and this sounds so much like what happened to me.  I hope everyone reads your post and understands how much "stock" we have placed in these readers only to find that in the end they have our money and we are left picking up the damage all of this has caused.

I am so happy that you have found some peace! Thank you for sharing your experience, I know it touched my heart and hope that it will help someone else too!

You know what? There were a couple of similar posts by others when I first joined her. And they were what made ME think about what I was doing and why. I remember one lady, I think from the UK? Who had spent more than me and I'm pretty sure she lost her house and her job. We pm'd a bit and things she told me were really a slap in the face. I did a lot of soul searching the summer of 2011 and was finally able to open my heart and see the possibilities in others. It was hard, trust me, and it took me so so long to stop waiting for the red flags to appear (my exh was also a piece of work, not as bad as the exbf but still lots of issues). I am so glad that I released myself from the exbf and I didn't even have to do a cord cutting ceremony to do it!   

I hope that what I have said will make others think. I know people won't move on till they're ready, I sure didn't. But sometimes you need to think about what you're doing and what you're getting out of it.

[lioness79]

Oh no, Diva! I am horribly sorry to hear about your beloved dog! As we both know, losing an animal is one of the most excruciating things a person can go through. I'm here if you need to talk 

[sunandmoon]

Do you want another reason why NOT to believe in psychics? I told someone in PM last night that I have maybe 250 documents in my readings folder. Not all are readings, but I have a number that are handwritten - I actually just found a tarot spread in a notebook today that I tossed. Then there were email readings, and readings I got on a forum here and there, and in pm.

Let's be conservative and say I got 250 readings.

Let's also be conservative and say 90% of those said he'd come back, he'd never be out of my life, he'd be stuck to me like gum on my shoe. I'd wager that there were more that said that. And some that didn't were so whacked I discarded them completely - not that they said something I didn't like, but they were truly off the wall. (one tried so hard to prove I was seeking a father figure that he went all the back back to high school boyfriends and kept saying "him! he's just like your father", and he was wrong every time)

I already said I hadn't see or talked to exbf in over 2 years now. But he had 2 fb accounts, I was on one that he rarely used, along with a few other mutual friends. The other account he was more active on, and it had "other friends" and family on it. I had known about that account forever, since I'm the one that helped him set it up when we were together! The funniest thing was when he'd take pix of himself at my house, and post them on the account I couldn't see.

In the last couple of weeks he deactivated the account we are friends on. I found that amusing. I discovered tonight though, that he took most of those mutual friends of ours and moved them to his new account. I can only guess that he sent friend requests to most of them.... some may not have responded and some have locked down friend lists so I can't say for sure. But yep, a bunch of them went over.

So this man that was supposedly a dear friend of mine, the best friend ever, "you will never lose me" (his words) has after all this time cut me out of his life while keeping in touch with these others. And not that I need to keep in touch with him, you know? But if there was ever proof that he is not coming back, I'd say this is it - if he can't even keep me as a "friend" on a site where you don't say much real anyway.

Which means a handful of psychics including the whackos were the only ones that were right. And I sure didn't spend much money on them!

Again, while there may be true psychics out there somewhere, be wary of the ones that tell you what you want to hear and keep pushing timelines out. They want you to call back - it's how they get paid!!!

[BellaLife]

Amen to this....Sunandmoon

From Sunandmoon: Again, while there may be true psychics out there somewhere, be wary of the ones that tell you what you want to hear and keep pushing timelines out. They want you to call back - it's how they get paid!!!