My Story

[chrys]

I am probably going to be hated after my story but I am the "other women".  I didn't really mean to be or start out to be that way. To start off I will let you know that I am married.  I have been with my husband for 8 years.  Right before thanksgiving of last year we got into a huge fight and I left the house very upset.  I went to a local casino where I met up with some friends that were there.  A married couple and a married male friend.  We were all drinking and talking and the male friend asked if anyone wanted to go play pool.  The married couple baled but because I was not ready to go home I went with him.  We shot pool and drank and talked then we went outside to leave and were talking and he called me pretty.  I couldn't help myself so I kissed him and then went home with him to his apt. I had never done anything like this before.  It just seemed that we were so connected.  Our spouses are distant and not very caring.  My husband has never told me that I was pretty.  So it really freaked me out and I just chalked it up to being drunk.  Well over the next few weeks we started hanging out once a week and talking and pretty soon it happened again.  Now it is a full blown fling and I can't seem to stop seeing him. We have both tried.  After it first happened I was so freaked out I started calling psychic source and talking to everyone on there trying to figure out what it all meant.  Now I think I have fallen in love with him and I don't know how he feels about me.  Now I am spending money that I really don't have to talk to other people about how he feels about me.  I think I have read with pretty much everyone on PS and CP and some of them have been very accurate. Things have been a little harder to be able to see him because he lost his license for the next 5 months and I have been worried that he will use this as and excuse to stop seeing me so I have increased my calls to psychics just to find out when the next time I will see him will be.  We never talk about feeling.  He did say once that he loved many things about me.  Once he said that when we divorced our spouses and married each other he would change my mind about my choice in football teams.

Recent Call Reviews
PS Amy*  She told me that I would get to be with him again on Sunday and I was.  She also told me that he was in love with me and would want to get out of his relationship and would start talking to me more in January.  I told her if he hasn't expressed his feelings in a year I don't think he is going to start.
CP Abrielle* She told me also that I would see him in 5-8 days and we did get to connect.  She also told me that he was in love with me and would start to show and tell it more come around the first of the year.
CP Jean* She freaked me out.  She told me that I would be in a solid relationship with someone by Mar 10 and married by the end of next year.  When I told her that I was already married, she just laughed and said we will see.  I don't believe this one at all.

Now it feels like I am stuck calling psychics to try and figure out when I am going to see him again and see how he is feeling about me.  I feel like a complete schmuck but I can't seem to stop seeing him.  I have tried.  Abrielle believes that this is a SM connection. 

[Synergy]

Welcome to the forum!!  Don't worry about being "judged" or hated.  Life is complicated.  Thank you for sharing your story.  I wish you the best and hope you can break the psychic cycle. 

I am probably going to be hated after my story but I am the "other women".  I didn't really mean to be or start out to be that way. To start off I will let you know that I am married.  I have been with my husband for 8 years.  Right before thanksgiving of last year we got into a huge fight and I left the house very upset.  I went to a local casino where I met up with some friends that were there.  A married couple and a married male friend.  We were all drinking and talking and the male friend asked if anyone wanted to go play pool.  The married couple baled but because I was not ready to go home I went with him.  We shot pool and drank and talked then we went outside to leave and were talking and he called me pretty.  I couldn't help myself so I kissed him and then went home with him to his apt. I had never done anything like this before.  It just seemed that we were so connected.  Our spouses are distant and not very caring.  My husband has never told me that I was pretty.  So it really freaked me out and I just chalked it up to being drunk.  Well over the next few weeks we started hanging out once a week and talking and pretty soon it happened again.  Now it is a full blown fling and I can't seem to stop seeing him. We have both tried.  After it first happened I was so freaked out I started calling psychic source and talking to everyone on there trying to figure out what it all meant.  Now I think I have fallen in love with him and I don't know how he feels about me.  Now I am spending money that I really don't have to talk to other people about how he feels about me.  I think I have read with pretty much everyone on PS and CP and some of them have been very accurate. Things have been a little harder to be able to see him because he lost his license for the next 5 months and I have been worried that he will use this as and excuse to stop seeing me so I have increased my calls to psychics just to find out when the next time I will see him will be.  We never talk about feeling.  He did say once that he loved many things about me.  Once he said that when we divorced our spouses and married each other he would change my mind about my choice in football teams.

Recent Call Reviews
PS Amy*  She told me that I would get to be with him again on Sunday and I was.  She also told me that he was in love with me and would want to get out of his relationship and would start talking to me more in January.  I told her if he hasn't expressed his feelings in a year I don't think he is going to start.
CP Abrielle* She told me also that I would see him in 5-8 days and we did get to connect.  She also told me that he was in love with me and would start to show and tell it more come around the first of the year.
CP Jean* She freaked me out.  She told me that I would be in a solid relationship with someone by Mar 10 and married by the end of next year.  When I told her that I was already married, she just laughed and said we will see.  I don't believe this one at all.

Now it feels like I am stuck calling psychics to try and figure out when I am going to see him again and see how he is feeling about me.  I feel like a complete schmuck but I can't seem to stop seeing him.  I have tried.  Abrielle believes that this is a SM connection. 

[divine wishes]

hi. thank you for sharing your story. this is your life and your experience, don't sweat being judged.

[melancholia]

-edit-
Here's the advice I would give to you - decide whether or not you can handle being in love with him and accepting that it's not going to go anywhere now, before it gets any more serious.  The chances of him leaving are very small, and most psychics will either feed you a fairytale of him leaving his wife or, if they're feeling particularly judgmental, will tell you to leave because he's a lying cheating scummy person and you should be doing better.

And honestly, you should be doing better, but that doesn't make him (or you) a scummy person.  But what I will tell you is that if he's going to leave his wife, the only way you'll know for sure is to sit down and have a serious conversation with him about feelings.  And yes, that's terrifying. And yes, there's a very good chance you're going to hear something you don't want to hear.  Do it anyway.  But stop calling the psychics - the married man I was involved with?  Abrielle called him my soulmate too.  Now she's saying my current boyfriend is my soulmate.  It's a meaningless term.  A soulmate is simply someone who was dropped into your life to teach you a lesson and to be taught a lesson by you - that's all. 

-snip-edit-

Take stock of your current life, excluding him.  Are you happy with your husband?  Is your relationship with your husband salvageable?  If so, start working on that and you will get over your current boyfriend.  If not, then focus on getting out of that relationship and spending some time being single, or have fun with the current boyfriend and see where it goes.  But don't put too many expectations on him, because married men are notoriously good at talking and notoriously bad at following through.

I'm not judging you, for the record - I'm just saying all the things I wish someone had said to me four years ago.  The heart wants what the heart wants.  Just make sure that you know what you want, and don't let a psychic string you along giving you false hope and influencing your decisions.

I am probably going to be hated after my story but I am the "other women".  I didn't really mean to be or start out to be that way. To start off I will let you know that I am married.  I have been with my husband for 8 years.  Right before thanksgiving of last year we got into a huge fight and I left the house very upset.  I went to a local casino where I met up with some friends that were there.  A married couple and a married male friend.  We were all drinking and talking and the male friend asked if anyone wanted to go play pool.  The married couple baled but because I was not ready to go home I went with him.  We shot pool and drank and talked then we went outside to leave and were talking and he called me pretty.  I couldn't help myself so I kissed him and then went home with him to his apt. I had never done anything like this before.  It just seemed that we were so connected.  Our spouses are distant and not very caring.  My husband has never told me that I was pretty.  So it really freaked me out and I just chalked it up to being drunk.  Well over the next few weeks we started hanging out once a week and talking and pretty soon it happened again.  Now it is a full blown fling and I can't seem to stop seeing him. We have both tried.  After it first happened I was so freaked out I started calling psychic source and talking to everyone on there trying to figure out what it all meant.  Now I think I have fallen in love with him and I don't know how he feels about me.  Now I am spending money that I really don't have to talk to other people about how he feels about me.  I think I have read with pretty much everyone on PS and CP and some of them have been very accurate. Things have been a little harder to be able to see him because he lost his license for the next 5 months and I have been worried that he will use this as and excuse to stop seeing me so I have increased my calls to psychics just to find out when the next time I will see him will be.  We never talk about feeling.  He did say once that he loved many things about me.  Once he said that when we divorced our spouses and married each other he would change my mind about my choice in football teams.

Recent Call Reviews
PS Amy*  She told me that I would get to be with him again on Sunday and I was.  She also told me that he was in love with me and would want to get out of his relationship and would start talking to me more in January.  I told her if he hasn't expressed his feelings in a year I don't think he is going to start.
CP Abrielle* She told me also that I would see him in 5-8 days and we did get to connect.  She also told me that he was in love with me and would start to show and tell it more come around the first of the year.
CP Jean* She freaked me out.  She told me that I would be in a solid relationship with someone by Mar 10 and married by the end of next year.  When I told her that I was already married, she just laughed and said we will see.  I don't believe this one at all.

Now it feels like I am stuck calling psychics to try and figure out when I am going to see him again and see how he is feeling about me.  I feel like a complete schmuck but I can't seem to stop seeing him.  I have tried.  Abrielle believes that this is a SM connection. 

[Calypso 13]

Well said Somnus!

[sagitira]

being the other woman is terrible...i know as i'm in the same situation sadly...i never planned it and he is not married but he has a gf.. . i've never been in this situation before but i tell you this, 2 years passed and i'm still stuck in the same situation...yes there were promises..did he keep them? no...why? i believe they are too comfortable to leave, if he has been with her longer it's habit, comfort, other obligations that make it hard for them to just up and leave...stupid me for not even thinking about it before i entered this relationship. if i could turn back time..i would run away as far as possible from him.
my advise to you is this - run...cut all contact if you can..with me i cannot even cut contact we work together i have to see him daily and it's extremely painful..if you can..cut contact, it will hurt, but you will heal...2 things can happen:
1. he will realise during the no contact that he does indeed miss you and he will want to be with you, if he says that do not let him in until he does what he promises.
2. he will let you go...it will hurt but eventually it will be best thing that could happen to you...you know why? because you will know he has no intentions to leave the other woman and if you continued with him you will be where i am now - stuck and always the other woman, one who he will not aknowledge in the public or never introduce to his family.
i know it hurts but believe me...i'm going through same now...only now i decided to cut contact, only now after 2 years of crap, back and forth, promises and lot of pain, i am saying enough is enough i cannot continue to hurt myself this way.

those men are players. i learn that much. they are missing something in their relationship and looking for it elsewhere but they are not prepared to leave what they have. i believed psychics for 2 years when they told me he is coming back, they are going to split - 2 years...like and idiot...i am ashamed to say i spent thousands on them. money i will never see again. to hear fairy tales...

someone somewhere posted a website which i am very thankful for i have been reading through people's experiences and guess what, it helped me a lot, and i also saw that usually the other woman are those who lose out i think it's called http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/  thank you who posted it it's great stuff and kept me from messaging him instead i was reading through people's experiences and saw that those men are reallu EUM (emotionally unavailable men).

i'm sorry its probably not what you want to hear but i'd hate to see someone going through what i did and currently am going through. please try to be strong and do not allow him into your life if he still considers you as the other woman. you are priority and deserve to be number one in any relationship.
i wish you all the best

[sagitira]

also want to add..do not listen to what psychics predict. some members here helped me as well and yes some psychics are able to pick up past and current issues but so far predictions wise i don't know if there is any member here who had their full outcome come to pass. so if you do have  a reading maybe ask for current issues but always better to ask the person directly what he feels then base your decisions on that. you will save yourself thousands plus you will also save yourself a lot of grief waiting for predictions to happen only to find out months later that the psychics were wrong. it's a destructive feeling which sent me deep into depression earlier this year. please be wise when relying on predictions.

[hope4love]

I think the others have said it very well so I won't add anything further other than life is complicated and you don't deserve to be judged. I agree that it's a good idea to stop calling readers because we've all been down that road where we get all these wonderful predictions and nothing happens.
Yes, have a good talk with this man and if he's serious, he'll make steps to end his marriage. Otherwise, it will be nothing but heartache and I agree with Somnus about the term soulmate. Soulmates come into our lives to teach us a lesson and we don't always end up with that soulmate. (often a good thing)
If you're unhappy in your marriage, it's important to take an honest look at it. Life is too short to be in a crappy relationship.

[Calypso 13]

Point blank,  readings keep you holding on to something and keep your eyes closed from reality.

There is so much more power in owning the whole situation,  taking a good hard look at it,  and making a decision based on what you see.

Because when you come to the realization that psychics have failed you, it will hurt less.

In the end, I walked away from the guy I originally called about 2 years ago. Yes he came back, but not for a relationship. More like a casual, lets see where this goes, I'm not ready type deal.

uh no...I've grown way too much from that heartbreak to put myself in such a situation.
He wanted a casual relationship.

[Zee]

Point blank,  readings keep you holding on to something and keep your eyes closed from reality.

This is so true and it's in part due to TPReview site which has helped many ween themselves from readings. When you read what others have gone through, when you see that others have been in your place and your life is how you make it, not some reader, you tend to get readings less and less.  I can only speak for myself and that is what has helped me because truthfully readers aren't half of what they claim to be. My belief in them has dwindled soooooo much, I can't even tell you.

I still get the occasional read though.  I use readers to get other options, when I can't make a decision myself, but I am the one to make the final decision and if you find an ethical reader, they may also give suggestions as to a direction that may be more beneficial.

If nothing else from this site, you'll figure out much quicker who the fake and frauds are.