Thank you for sharing your story. 4 years is a long time. I'm hoping my sidetrack from reality will have "only" lasted about a year, that is if I can really stop calling, at least with the frequency that I have been. A year has still equated to MANY thousands of dollars and I'm not a wealthy person, but as much or more as I miss that cash, I miss the time I've wasted.
Lately, I've been learning to think of it like this - each time we make a call, we're pushing 'reset' on our emotions, which are uncomfortable, painful, etc. When we call, and hear, he's still thinking of you, he's just busy, nothing has changed, he's in 'man-time' (WTF is that BTW - any men on this forum that can explain that one?). Anyway, when I start feeling uncomfortable, I call and then wham, RESET. I feel better, I'm back to my happy place of delusion and denial where I can just numb out and keep the fantasy going.
So, it's been about 10 days for me with no calls (that's not too bad for me). More importantly, I don't have the urge - at least for now, to know what 'he' is up to. I'm really starting to not care. And, I did have at least one psychic (Dezi - CP) predict that. "As you move forward with your life" you won't even care about him anymore, won't even wonder - you'll think, that guy was a mess, he fought his feelings from day one"
I'll also point out that she said that this process would take a long time, more than a year, I'd need a lot of patience but that if I could wait, he'd make me happy. Clearly, I don't have that kind of patience. And, she also told me some time ago that if I have the strength to do it I should move on from him. I've been told the same thing by just about all of my psychics actually - that I should move on - so I'm just saying that maybe it's the relationship that I've formed with these psychics, or the way I ask the questions (what's in my best interest to do here?) I don't always get sold the hang on, hang around fairy tale. I've been told plenty to move on. And, for anyone that's not certain about psychics being 'psychic' I do realize that this is just good common sense and advice and one needn't be psychic to give that.
I've said this before recently, but I can't tell you how much the book
"The Dreamer and The Fantasy Relationship" (by Natalie Lue) is helping me. It pretty much nails what many of us are doing with these psychics. She doesn't talk about psychics, but it's the same thing.
