Let them

[Mina]

I’m in this new forum called “let them”, and I’ve been attending to my attachment style and I wanted to share this

“I'm slowly learning that even if I react, it won't change anything, it won't make people suddenly love and respect me, it won't magically change their minds.
Sometimes it's better to just let things be, let people go, don't fight for closure, don't ask for explanations, don't chase answers and don't expect people to understand where you're coming from.
I'm slowly learning that life is better lived when you don't center it on what's happening around you and center it on what's happening inside you instead.“

I had this expectation of how things would be and I find myself disappointed but again if I react the same way “call a psychic” “seek the why?” Can I just let my disappointment fully be here without judgement or trying to change it

Ugh 😣 easier said then done
But I think it does help

[sai07]

We live in an age where there is so much instant gratification that I feel people are slowly becoming desensitized. Swipe culture. Social media. Instant dopamine hit. Then onto the next. I feel in all of this, we are losing communication skills and some people simply don't care or don't think deep enough to do the right thing to communicate / to not hurt someone else's feelings.

I feel like I also have to desensitize myself and 'detach' and let go of the 'why'. People simply don't think or do things in their best interests or do what they 'feel' like, sometimes there isn't a deeper meaning.

It's kind of hard focusing on myself and it's boring - I am in an out of my thoughts all day - but I agree that some detachment and 'let them' mentality is needed for inner peace.

[dragonflyer]

Mina, I recently found myself busy with other parts of my life and showed less and less interest in psychic readings and the things for which I've been asking them for help.
I don't know what triggered that change. But I do notice that every time I was dragged back to the old thoughts, there was another voice in my head saying "who the f*k cares?"
I feel if we stop judging the experience we are having at this moment, it's much easier to let it flow through and much faster to get back on track.

There are several youtubers I really like, such as Sammy Ingram. I like her not because of her LOA techniques or her SP/Money/Success videos but her damn amazing SELF CONFIDENCE. If I feel low, I will let her video run in the background and make myself feel better and empowered.

Good luck!

I’m in this new forum called “let them”, and I’ve been attending to my attachment style and I wanted to share this

“I'm slowly learning that even if I react, it won't change anything, it won't make people suddenly love and respect me, it won't magically change their minds.
Sometimes it's better to just let things be, let people go, don't fight for closure, don't ask for explanations, don't chase answers and don't expect people to understand where you're coming from.
I'm slowly learning that life is better lived when you don't center it on what's happening around you and center it on what's happening inside you instead.“

I had this expectation of how things would be and I find myself disappointed but again if I react the same way “call a psychic” “seek the why?” Can I just let my disappointment fully be here without judgement or trying to change it

Ugh 😣 easier said then done
But I think it does help

[Mina]

Mina, I recently found myself busy with other parts of my life and showed less and less interest in psychic readings and the things for which I've been asking them for help.
I don't know what triggered that change. But I do notice that every time I was dragged back to the old thoughts, there was another voice in my head saying "who the f*k cares?"
I feel if we stop judging the experience we are having at this moment, it's much easier to let it flow through and much faster to get back on track.

There are several youtubers I really like, such as Sammy Ingram. I like her not because of her LOA techniques or her SP/Money/Success videos but her damn amazing SELF CONFIDENCE. If I feel low, I will let her video run in the background and make myself feel better and empowered.

Good luck!

I’m in this new forum called “let them”, and I’ve been attending to my attachment style and I wanted to share this

“I'm slowly learning that even if I react, it won't change anything, it won't make people suddenly love and respect me, it won't magically change their minds.
Sometimes it's better to just let things be, let people go, don't fight for closure, don't ask for explanations, don't chase answers and don't expect people to understand where you're coming from.
I'm slowly learning that life is better lived when you don't center it on what's happening around you and center it on what's happening inside you instead.“

I had this expectation of how things would be and I find myself disappointed but again if I react the same way “call a psychic” “seek the why?” Can I just let my disappointment fully be here without judgement or trying to change it

Ugh 😣 easier said then done
But I think it does help

I worked with Scammy Ingram- not a fan, and yes she is very scammy
But she does work for a lot of ppl to empower themselves. Her other coaches are similar but also say really empowering stuff. She is what led me to manifestation burnout, and I think if the inner world is suffering from chronic depression ppl like her style of teaching can make things worse

But I am glad it’s helping you

Edit:
But yes! “Who the Eff cares?!”
“What meaning am I giving this to say about me?”

Something I am learning with therapy, a different manifesting person, attachment theory, etc: what am I making experience say about me?

But with compassion valuing the inner hurts when things do not go with what I wanted or had hoped for- can I sit with the the discomfort, especially problem solvin, and just let it be

[Dejatu]

Mina- this is all so true. The cycle can sometimes be a compulsion, and it’s never ending becuase we don’t sit with the discomfort. Sometimes the emotions also move at lightning speed, not giving ourselves a moment to pause before we seek answers.

Love the quote btw! My go-to phrase has been “sit with it” sit with the hurt, the pain, the anxiety, all of it. Get up, move around, put the phone down. It’s easier said than done but we have to start somewhere!

[lx]

New user here. The discussion of psychic addiction made me realize I was far more dependent on psychics' words about my potential life events than I ever thought I could be. Initially, I believed a few minutes of calls were harmless, as they seemed to relieve my emotional stress. However, the amount kept increasing each month, and I found myself calling psychics whenever I faced emotional uncertainty. Sometimes what they said would trigger me to call even mor- especially if a psychic told me something I didn't like in tone with attitude or hung up right after, which I later learned was subject to the 3-minute review rule on Keen.

One recent month, when I was dealing with a lot of uncertainty, my spending reached a thousand dollars, and it scared me. Thankfully, I found the addiction discussions here and realized that my behavior - seeking emotional comfort and reacting to psychic triggers by making more calls - had made me addicted. I started cutting back on calls the following month, say few mins for a week. I'm still working on reducing my emotional dependency on psychics, but I have begun to regain my emotional balance. Seeking comfort is part of human nature, but I found that relying on psychics wasn't the solution. They ended up causing me more uncertainty and discomfort than the original issues themselves. I will also practice the "sit with it" mindset.

[dragonflyer]

Sorry to hear what you have experienced with her. I never worked with her or any manifestation coaches. I just watch some of those videos from time to time to make myself feel good/empowered. I am 50/50 about the manifestation thing, but do read some of those books and test things little by little in my OWN way.

What I said about "let it flow through" and "don't judge about the current experiences" means I don't associate experiences with old thoughts/beliefs. For example, if someone said mean things to me, I don't victimize myself thinking he/she is so bad to me and he/she is trying to hurt me. If I think that way, I feel I am helping that person to hurt me, and even more than they did. Instead, I acknowledge that discomfort I experienced, but I associate that experience with different statement, like "poor him/her, they are just trying to protect themselves" "there must be some hurt in their heart, so they are releasing the negative emotions" "nothing about me" or something else. So basically, I take myself out of this situation. I don't dwell in that story and let myself soak in that negative feeling/experience. Little by little, things get better. And gradually I find myself hard to be influenced by whatever happen to me. And most importantly, the situation/the other person will become better and nicer magically! If not, they will just disappear from my experience.

Whatever things I don't like happened to me, I feel the discomfort but don't engage. I realize that it's not the things/persons that bothers me, it's my thoughts that are torturing me. And the phrase "who *** cares" definitely helped me. It can snap me out of the negative thinking loop instantly!

Just my personal experience and opinion...

Mina, I recently found myself busy with other parts of my life and showed less and less interest in psychic readings and the things for which I've been asking them for help.
I don't know what triggered that change. But I do notice that every time I was dragged back to the old thoughts, there was another voice in my head saying "who the f*k cares?"
I feel if we stop judging the experience we are having at this moment, it's much easier to let it flow through and much faster to get back on track.

There are several youtubers I really like, such as Sammy Ingram. I like her not because of her LOA techniques or her SP/Money/Success videos but her damn amazing SELF CONFIDENCE. If I feel low, I will let her video run in the background and make myself feel better and empowered.

Good luck!

I’m in this new forum called “let them”, and I’ve been attending to my attachment style and I wanted to share this

“I'm slowly learning that even if I react, it won't change anything, it won't make people suddenly love and respect me, it won't magically change their minds.
Sometimes it's better to just let things be, let people go, don't fight for closure, don't ask for explanations, don't chase answers and don't expect people to understand where you're coming from.
I'm slowly learning that life is better lived when you don't center it on what's happening around you and center it on what's happening inside you instead.“

I had this expectation of how things would be and I find myself disappointed but again if I react the same way “call a psychic” “seek the why?” Can I just let my disappointment fully be here without judgement or trying to change it

Ugh 😣 easier said then done
But I think it does help

I worked with Scammy Ingram- not a fan, and yes she is very scammy
But she does work for a lot of ppl to empower themselves. Her other coaches are similar but also say really empowering stuff. She is what led me to manifestation burnout, and I think if the inner world is suffering from chronic depression ppl like her style of teaching can make things worse

But I am glad it’s helping you

Edit:
But yes! “Who the Eff cares?!”
“What meaning am I giving this to say about me?”

Something I am learning with therapy, a different manifesting person, attachment theory, etc: what am I making experience say about me?

But with compassion valuing the inner hurts when things do not go with what I wanted or had hoped for- can I sit with the the discomfort, especially problem solvin, and just let it be

[sai07]

Sorry to hear what you have experienced with her. I never worked with her or any manifestation coaches. I just watch some of those videos from time to time to make myself feel good/empowered. I am 50/50 about the manifestation thing, but do read some of those books and test things little by little in my OWN way.

What I said about "let it flow through" and "don't judge about the current experiences" means I don't associate experiences with old thoughts/beliefs. For example, if someone said mean things to me, I don't victimize myself thinking he/she is so bad to me and he/she is trying to hurt me. If I think that way, I feel I am helping that person to hurt me, and even more than they did. Instead, I acknowledge that discomfort I experienced, but I associate that experience with different statement, like "poor him/her, they are just trying to protect themselves" "there must be some hurt in their heart, so they are releasing the negative emotions" "nothing about me" or something else. So basically, I take myself out of this situation. I don't dwell in that story and let myself soak in that negative feeling/experience. Little by little, things get better. And gradually I find myself hard to be influenced by whatever happen to me. And most importantly, the situation/the other person will become better and nicer magically! If not, they will just disappear from my experience.

Whatever things I don't like happened to me, I feel the discomfort but don't engage. I realize that it's not the things/persons that bothers me, it's my thoughts that are torturing me. And the phrase "who *** cares" definitely helped me. It can snap me out of the negative thinking loop instantly!

Just my personal experience and opinion...

Mina, I recently found myself busy with other parts of my life and showed less and less interest in psychic readings and the things for which I've been asking them for help.
I don't know what triggered that change. But I do notice that every time I was dragged back to the old thoughts, there was another voice in my head saying "who the f*k cares?"
I feel if we stop judging the experience we are having at this moment, it's much easier to let it flow through and much faster to get back on track.

There are several youtubers I really like, such as Sammy Ingram. I like her not because of her LOA techniques or her SP/Money/Success videos but her damn amazing SELF CONFIDENCE. If I feel low, I will let her video run in the background and make myself feel better and empowered.

Good luck!

I’m in this new forum called “let them”, and I’ve been attending to my attachment style and I wanted to share this

“I'm slowly learning that even if I react, it won't change anything, it won't make people suddenly love and respect me, it won't magically change their minds.
Sometimes it's better to just let things be, let people go, don't fight for closure, don't ask for explanations, don't chase answers and don't expect people to understand where you're coming from.
I'm slowly learning that life is better lived when you don't center it on what's happening around you and center it on what's happening inside you instead.“

I had this expectation of how things would be and I find myself disappointed but again if I react the same way “call a psychic” “seek the why?” Can I just let my disappointment fully be here without judgement or trying to change it

Ugh 😣 easier said then done
But I think it does help

I worked with Scammy Ingram- not a fan, and yes she is very scammy
But she does work for a lot of ppl to empower themselves. Her other coaches are similar but also say really empowering stuff. She is what led me to manifestation burnout, and I think if the inner world is suffering from chronic depression ppl like her style of teaching can make things worse

But I am glad it’s helping you

Edit:
But yes! “Who the Eff cares?!”
“What meaning am I giving this to say about me?”

Something I am learning with therapy, a different manifesting person, attachment theory, etc: what am I making experience say about me?

But with compassion valuing the inner hurts when things do not go with what I wanted or had hoped for- can I sit with the the discomfort, especially problem solvin, and just let it be

I really like the way you described this, dragonflyer.

Re: manifestation, this is a bit off-topic but I do feel it has some merit in terms of visualization and detachment esp when it comes to career/money. I’m not sure it works that well with SP - I mean living in the end … some people they could be waiting for someone for years without any success… that part is scary and I think perhaps detrimental.