I am a life path 9 and the ex is 22/4
This is what the website says:
The successful pairing of these two numbers is very rare, and important differences will have to be addressed and accepted by both of you if you want this relationship to last. The two numbers usually don't connect, and rarely see eye to eye. If you have a successful relationship, this usually indicates that other numbers in your numerological chart play a significant enough of a role to overcome this particular incompatible combination.
No wonder the relationship was always followed with growing pains and the heart hurting