The Psychic Reviews
Potpourri Boards => Addicted to Psychics => Topic started by: sai07 on January 31, 2024, 11:30:55 PM
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Hi everyone, I just needed a space to share. My Psychic journey began in 2021, wasn't sure about a hot/cold POI, who I recently just broke contact with b/c he went MIA on me for two months straight without explanation. He couldn't explain the absence to me, which was obvious...he was seeing someone else.
Anyways, I have spent so so much on psychics, I'm ashamed of my habit. I do feel like psychics have been a safe space to talk about relationship issues but it has come at a financial expense. It has put me behind on a downpayment on a house as well as credit card payments. I am now at the point where I feel like I should be comfortable letting a POI go vs letting my financial health slip anymore. I want to put myself first. I want to love me more than a POI that is hot/cold.
I just need to trust myself more and accept that there will be more lonely days, more anxiety-ridden days, more days where I am crying over a boy because I have to go through the process vs getting my dopamine hits from readings, and more days where I need to trust myself to leave a POI vs use a psychic to get a read on his 'real' feelings and the 'future'.
I feel disappointed in myself, I want to let go of this habit. I have started reading this thread, if you have had any success getting rid of the addiction, I would love to hear first-hand.
Thank you!
I think we've all been where you are - I for one, still am. I would like to get to the point where I do not need to seek advice from a psychic and spend the amount of money I do, to talk to the ones I feel are most accurate for me.
At times, it feels like the conversations are very helpful - I have a few psychics that I've spoken to that have been instrumental to my growth and healing.
Kisha perhaps most of all - I was devastated when she stopped reading. More so - she was affordable compared to many others - and outstanding in her abilities.
Even so - the most useful reads I had with Kisha were not about love, or general reads on what was ahead, or career reads. It was the self growth and healing readings. I miss those the most - because they held the key to giving up readings once and for all. They were about becoming a whole person - not feeling any longing or need to please others - and not fearing the future. I still listen to those readings. They are still very relevant.
All in all - you won't give up until you heal inside and identify the reason why you call - and start to do the work to release the fears.
I wish I had better advice on how you do that. I struggle with it myself.
Be kind to yourself - calling a psychic isn't a sin. We can forgive ourselves for it and heal and grow X
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Just know you are not alone and dont be too hard on yourself. It sucks but in time we will all heal and hopefully be happy.
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I have been there too. You really deserve better than someone who blows hot and cold with you.
I’ve posted before about trying not to have phone readings and deal with the emotions like anxiety and low self esteem and becoming more resilient. It’s not easy though and I am trying to wean myself off the readings.
If you can go 10 days without a reading you will probably feel better and more in control of your situation. I have tried to distract myself when I want a reading. I tell myself if I can get to 8pm without one I am doing great and then won’t have one that day.
Let us know how you get on
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Hi everyone, I just needed a space to share. My Psychic journey began in 2021, wasn't sure about a hot/cold POI, who I recently just broke contact with b/c he went MIA on me for two months straight without explanation. He couldn't explain the absence to me, which was obvious...he was seeing someone else.
Anyways, I have spent so so much on psychics, I'm ashamed of my habit. I do feel like psychics have been a safe space to talk about relationship issues but it has come at a financial expense. It has put me behind on a downpayment on a house as well as credit card payments. I am now at the point where I feel like I should be comfortable letting a POI go vs letting my financial health slip anymore. I want to put myself first. I want to love me more than a POI that is hot/cold.
I just need to trust myself more and accept that there will be more lonely days, more anxiety-ridden days, more days where I am crying over a boy because I have to go through the process vs getting my dopamine hits from readings, and more days where I need to trust myself to leave a POI vs use a psychic to get a read on his 'real' feelings and the 'future'.
I feel disappointed in myself, I want to let go of this habit. I have started reading this thread, if you have had any success getting rid of the addiction, I would love to hear first-hand.
Thank you!
Get the sites to block you
Wean yourself off
Know that cravings and feeling low are Part of life. The cravings go sway with time. Feeling low youll always have those days.
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Hi everyone, I just needed a space to share. My Psychic journey began in 2021, wasn't sure about a hot/cold POI, who I recently just broke contact with b/c he went MIA on me for two months straight without explanation. He couldn't explain the absence to me, which was obvious...he was seeing someone else.
Anyways, I have spent so so much on psychics, I'm ashamed of my habit. I do feel like psychics have been a safe space to talk about relationship issues but it has come at a financial expense. It has put me behind on a downpayment on a house as well as credit card payments. I am now at the point where I feel like I should be comfortable letting a POI go vs letting my financial health slip anymore. I want to put myself first. I want to love me more than a POI that is hot/cold.
I just need to trust myself more and accept that there will be more lonely days, more anxiety-ridden days, more days where I am crying over a boy because I have to go through the process vs getting my dopamine hits from readings, and more days where I need to trust myself to leave a POI vs use a psychic to get a read on his 'real' feelings and the 'future'.
I feel disappointed in myself, I want to let go of this habit. I have started reading this thread, if you have had any success getting rid of the addiction, I would love to hear first-hand.
Thank you!
Get the sites to block you
Wean yourself off
Know that cravings and feeling low are Part of life. The cravings go sway with time. Feeling low youll always have those days.
CP will never block you - you can leave - but they will let you resurrect your account on a whim - no matter what they say.
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Thanks so much, @Kate! Yes, that's sort of how I have felt as well, it's more therapy in a way. I can talk about things with people in a judgmental or friendly fashion. I think the sad point is when the predictions don't pan out. Then even some of that trust is lost and I feel like an idiot for trusting someone. I haven't found anyone (I use Keen) that has been consistent with predictions, especially big ones like landing a job or commitment. Contact timing is always hit and miss IMO.
@Zipocal, thank you, I hope to be happy and not reliant on something external for happiness, it is a journey.
@Chocolate thank you, yes, I want to go reading-free for the next week! And if I can do that, would be a great success. Re: hot/cold, I know I have an anxious attachment style and need proper therapy for that most likely, I have devoured videos on detachment on YouTube but there is an underlying psychological issue to addiction - which is escaping the current reality - which makes me think, I need to then change my reality if I am that unhappy (which I am).
Thank you for your reply and your support x
Honestly - I think Keen is the worse.. I used it a lot between 2017-2018 - I was grateful at that point to find Cookie and Kisha - they were the standouts in terms of seeing the future. But now Cookie is inaccurate for me on anything other than very short-term predictions. And Kisha has retired... so...
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I once waited for the infamous Cookie, hoping she would provide the correct guidance after speaking with dozens of readers. I found her to be the most "off." Some said "everything she says will make sense in time." None of it did and never has. There will always be someone else to speak with. It's just your choice when you want to stop the process. You are in control.
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Be good to yourself. Like any addiction, there are ups and downs. I find that my best alternative to calling psychics is to do something that I always wanted to try or complete. The sense of accomplishment has outweighed the desire to call. And, or course, for me, my faith has helped me a great deal. Life just seems to go better for me when centered around faith as solutions I never fathomed often become present.
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Be good to yourself. Like any addiction, there are ups and downs. I find that my best alternative to calling psychics is to do something that I always wanted to try or complete. The sense of accomplishment has outweighed the desire to call. And, or course, for me, my faith has helped me a great deal. Life just seems to go better for me when centered around faith as solutions I never fathomed often become present.
Yup so true!
Getting my mind to STOP FOCUSING on what I don’t have and challenge the mind to FOCUS ON WHAT I DO HAVE, what I can do to have fulfilling life BESIDES this… it is challenging to practice but it’s sometimes not about “can’t have reading today, can’t think about POI, can’t think about what psychic said” it’s like my brain is still focusing on the “can’t”. And it’s exactly like the phrase “don’t think about the pink elephants” and well one thinks about pink elephants.
So currently I am saving up for trip in April- I didn’t go to this trip with my friends in Sept to go hot air ballooning, which I use to do, and I didnt go skiing with a friend for their birthday and I just feel like I’m missing out on life. So this next “thing” for me is this do this trip in April- to see Complete Solar Totality … and it focus on that has helped me saved money
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I was successful in breaking the addiction. It was at its worst for me around 2017-2019 ish. I got readings about 3 POI’s whom I was obsessed with. Each relationship fell through due to circumstances that I had no control of. The last POI kept me hanging on by responding to my text messages for a year but not actually taking action to get back together.
Eventually I was fed up after spending thousands and still empty handed. I finally stopped because I just didn’t have faith in the readings anymore.
In the end I moved on from each person, and to this day I now realize that none of them were right for me and I wasn’t even ready to find “the one” at the stage that I was at in my life.
I recently ended my first long term 2 year relationship which was extremely verbally and emotionally abusive. I am single and sometimes lonely but I’ve learned to cope with reality and allow things to play out. Every once in a blue moon I will get a reading, but I wouldn’t spend more than $50 per year on them now.
My advice is to please tell yourself “Why do I want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me? I deserve someone who doesn’t keep me waiting and who is direct about their feelings towards me.”
That was the lesson that I needed to learn above all others. This is 2024. It takes only seconds to send or reply to a text message. If someone really wants to get in contact with you, they’ll do so now. I too made the mistake of waiting months for people to come around, and the psychics only encouraged me by giving the next season’s time frames and telling me the person is scared, confused, blah blah blah.
It wasn’t the people I wanted. I wanted what I imagined the people to be, and none of them were that. Often times we want what we don’t have, and one we have it we realize that’s it’s not what it was cracked up to be.
The right person will one day come into your life and stay. They won’t keep you guessing, or waiting. They won’t ignore you or make excuses about disappearing.
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It took me two years and a half to get over my anxiety.. when I look back I am like.. what was I thinking?? So much financial damage in psychics over a guy.. I look back and I now wish I had all my money back..
My psychic binges are over and I have more financial freedom..
anxiety is one of the worst feelings we could ever have..
but good news is that dark chapter is now behind me..
I am so much happier and now looking for a new job, new career choice.. as I am wanting a more challenging environment..
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I got hooked in 2019. I had a POI I was hooked on and it was really hard. My story is involved but ultimately I recognized a few main things -
1. I wasnt happy in a relationship I was in, which made me seek the validation and attention from the POI;
2. Realized I was addicted to both psychic readings (the future) and POI;
3. In order to move on from POI I needed to let go of the current relationship I was in.
I ended up leaving my marriage , something I never thought was possible, and in doing so I also cut off my POI at the same time. He was never going to leave his gf even though he was quite happy mucking up my life and allowing me to do so. So when I ended marriage, I ended things with POI and he respected that.
I still think of him from time to time, even weekly or monthly. but I do not act on it, I do not call him, text him, or call a psychic on him. we have not had communication since November 2022. not totally true, he contacted me Feb 2023 in middle of the night two nights in a row and I told him I worked hard to move on from two relationships that did not serve me and asked him to not contact me again. that I was finally happy. and he said he would not, and has not. I have gotten a handful of messages to social stories from his good buddy and I am sure its him, but I dont respond to them. just comments here or there.
Getting to that point of leaving my marriage was the most difficult. I ultimately left in Fall of 2022. that was scary, unnerving, brave, hard, everything. but it was the best decision and allowed me to let a new love into my life.
in the same fall of 2022 I met my current long term boyfriend. he is amazing and I will not pretend that meeting him was not a huge factor in helping me move on from POI. but I will say I would never have met him if I had not done the hardest work myself- which was deciding to leave the marriage. the biggest shift absolutely came from my own healing and decision to leave a marriage.
once I did that, once I took the plunge, I was in a position to meet a real someone , someone I could actually be with. not someone in hiding. not someone not committed. but someone who wanted me and wanted to be in a relationship.
while my partner did help me replace my romantic feelings from POI to him, it was ME and MY choices that led me to my bf.
I did a lot of work on trying to break the addiction - I had therapy, I got into reiki, I mediated, I set goals, financial and daily.
I have been where you are and I have come out on the other side.
some things that helped me:
not going to this site as much (I found I was addicted to new stories, new threads, new reviews)
not going on discord
basically blocking things that I felt "enabled" my habit or encouraged or even maintained.
blocking the POI so he could not see my stories ( I was addicted to him seeing my stuff and posting cool shit so he WOULD see)
blocking POI on phone so he couldnt contact
challenging myself to financial goals of not spending on sites
looking at my progress and being proud of how I could search back through keen and see months with ZERO readings!!! HUGE!
in the end, I realized life happens regardless of if its predicted and I have realized no matter what a psychic says, to trust what you SEE not what you hope to hear. bc what they feed you may be true or not, but if the person is not showing you what you deserve, trust them! The right person WILL and you wont need a psychic to tell u anything! <3
good luck!!
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I got hooked in 2019. I had a POI I was hooked on and it was really hard. My story is involved but ultimately I recognized a few main things -
1. I wasnt happy in a relationship I was in, which made me seek the validation and attention from the POI;
2. Realized I was addicted to both psychic readings (the future) and POI;
3. In order to move on from POI I needed to let go of the current relationship I was in.
I ended up leaving my marriage , something I never thought was possible, and in doing so I also cut off my POI at the same time. He was never going to leave his gf even though he was quite happy mucking up my life and allowing me to do so. So when I ended marriage, I ended things with POI and he respected that.
I still think of him from time to time, even weekly or monthly. but I do not act on it, I do not call him, text him, or call a psychic on him. we have not had communication since November 2022. not totally true, he contacted me Feb 2023 in middle of the night two nights in a row and I told him I worked hard to move on from two relationships that did not serve me and asked him to not contact me again. that I was finally happy. and he said he would not, and has not. I have gotten a handful of messages to social stories from his good buddy and I am sure its him, but I dont respond to them. just comments here or there.
Getting to that point of leaving my marriage was the most difficult. I ultimately left in Fall of 2022. that was scary, unnerving, brave, hard, everything. but it was the best decision and allowed me to let a new love into my life.
in the same fall of 2022 I met my current long term boyfriend. he is amazing and I will not pretend that meeting him was not a huge factor in helping me move on from POI. but I will say I would never have met him if I had not done the hardest work myself- which was deciding to leave the marriage. the biggest shift absolutely came from my own healing and decision to leave a marriage.
once I did that, once I took the plunge, I was in a position to meet a real someone , someone I could actually be with. not someone in hiding. not someone not committed. but someone who wanted me and wanted to be in a relationship with me.
while my partner did help me replace my romantic feelings from POI to him, it was ME and MY choices that led me to my bf.
I did a lot of work on trying to break the addiction - I had therapy, I got into reiki, I mediated, I set goals, financial and daily.
I have been where you are and I have come out on the other side.
some things that helped me:
not going to this site as much (I found I was addicted to new stories, new threads, new reviews)
not going on discord
basically blocking things that I felt "enabled" my habit or encouraged or even maintained.
blocking the POI so he could not see my stories ( I was addicted to him seeing my stuff and posting cool shit so he WOULD see)
blocking POI on phone so he couldnt contact
challenging myself to financial goals of not spending on sites
looking at my progress and being proud of how I could search back through keen and see months with ZERO readings!!! HUGE!
in the end, I realized life happens regardless of if its predicted and I have realized no matter what a psychic says, to trust what you SEE not what you hope to hear. bc what they feed you may be true or not, but if the person is not showing you what you deserve, trust them! The right person WILL and you wont need a psychic to tell u anything! <3
good luck!!
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Weaning myself off readings seems to be working for me. I find if I can go 10 days without one there is less chance of me having loads. I try to just have occasional readings with psychics who have their own businesses rather than being on the phone lines. I like having readings and it can be like therapy because the good readers can be so accurate with my situation and I can take the predictions with a pinch of salt so to speak.
At my worst point I spent £700 in a month on readings. Now I don’t have much interest in having readings with so called psychics who predict things that don’t come true.
If I can do this anyone else can wean themselves off the readings and feel more in control of their money or stop readings completely
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I read a post on social media written by a therapist that said something along the lines of rather than looking at the way you handle relationships first consider that you are wasting time on someone who is inconsistent. It’s a good way of looking at it
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My last paid reading was sometime in November and I struggle and want to call th lines myself. It’s a bitch and I know better than some. I spent $30-40k in a short period of time. It’s depressing, and it kills me everyday to think about it. I did say PAID readings… I do use the free AI tarot readings and things like that. I mean I don’t plan my day around them but why the hell is the difference? Some psychics were or are right and maybe just maybe the free AI is right.Psychics are truly an addiction that I know unfortunately to much about. I hope and pray you can quit as I have, at least with paid readings. I came so close this evening to calling a hotline and I was very fortunate that I stopped myself. It’s a rotten addiction, and a very costly one at that. Best of luck.
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Weaning myself off readings seems to be working for me. I find if I can go 10 days without one there is less chance of me having loads. I try to just have occasional readings with psychics who have their own businesses rather than being on the phone lines. I like having readings and it can be like therapy because the good readers can be so accurate with my situation and I can take the predictions with a pinch of salt so to speak.
At my worst point I spent £700 in a month on readings. Now I don’t have much interest in having readings with so called psychics who predict things that don’t come true.
If I can do this anyone else can wean themselves off the readings and feel more in control of their money or stop readings completely
Thanks Chocolate. I have a lot of anxiety when I do not hear from my POI and I desperately want him to commit to me but that is neither in a psychic's power or in my power so I feel I need to turn to faith. I have given up on asking readers about my career because so far no one has gotten it right. But I also feel like a career is somewhat in my control. I know if I put in the effort and time, I will land somewhere. It is different with love.
I am waiting on a POI prediction primarily but the relationship itself gives me anxiety. It's not ideal and I feel obsessive about this person - clearly not healthy and I am struggling to manage this.
I think one pivotal moment for me realizing why I used psychics was this wounded core belief that “I overwhelm ppl that I’m too much”. This is a maladaptive coping mechanism; if I could cope by paying psychic then seeking reassurance from my significant other, or friends, then to overwhelm them- that was the lesser of two evils? And I regret subscribing to that ideology; but I forgive and surrender this too. Inner child work does help with that
And I now realize if I’m going to overwhelm them it’s ok. Is it better? … I’m going to say: probably because being ashamed of being too sensitive was never really the issue- and that part for better or worse it’s who my partner will get. This this who I am.
BUT I am still learning to change how I communicate in relationships and I am still willing to grow and change to not put my self worth on ppl, places, jobs or things
There is power in the serenity prayer.
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It took me two years and a half to get over my anxiety.. when I look back I am like.. what was I thinking?? So much financial damage in psychics over a guy.. I look back and I now wish I had all my money back..
My psychic binges are over and I have more financial freedom..
anxiety is one of the worst feelings we could ever have..
but good news is that dark chapter is now behind me..
I am so much happier and now looking for a new job, new career choice.. as I am wanting a more challenging environment..
Army, thanks for sharing, how did you get over your anxiety? Mine is so bad that I break down into tears.
Ohh darling I am so sorry to hear that… you will pull through.. basically my anxiety went away on its own.. it was all about a boy back in the days.. not knowing what was going to happen.. then the heart break.. then I was in denial.. then anxiety be used I was holding on to so much hope.. then one day BOOM. I confronted the guy.. I turned a sharp corner with the situation then my anxiety disappeared.. I was on a path to healing.. it just went away.. it is hard. It is very hard.. but things get better..with time things get better :)
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Good for you!! You know what did it for me? Looking back over chats and notes and seeing how time and time again, they were all wrong. You are absolutely correct-if a guy wants to really be with you, he will crawl naked over broken glass to make it happen. Point is, there will be no mistaking his intention. The guy who cares about you, wouldn't want you to feel uncertain about the two of you.
Congratulations! Your post put a smile on my face.
Okay so it just wasn't working so I did a few things:
1) I deactivated my keen account & deleted it off my phone as well
2) I deleted all my psychic notes over the past few months so that I cannot reflect and obsess over them
3) I'm not doing the "Oh I will go 7 days without" - nope. I am now committed to just giving up on the psychic calling all together - spent too much money for wrong predictions.
4) Slowly taking my POI off the pedestal, if he loves me, he will come to me. If we are meant to be, things will work out. I'll pray for it but I don't want to destroy my life over it anymore.
Maybe it would be healthy for me to come here less as well, or just document my journey here vs going to the other sections of the forum. But I can't anymore, this addiction is literally ruining me and it all stems from a POI that doesn't care as much as I do and he can just live his life without me if that's the case. I am done, I still love him and pray for him but not in this way.
Ok thanks for reading/ listening! No offence to other people for who this system works, I just haven't personally found success in a single reading and it's an addiction and I recognize it and I need to take control of my life. I can't half-ass it, it's all or nothing.
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Take it day by day- and even that can be hard for me too
Sadly losing hope in relationship that could have been is not a bad thing… that lesson has definitely been hard for me to accept or “allow”. I would say if Falling Love is the best feeling in the world, for me, then Falling Out Love is the most uncomfortable.
Take it day by day
And I use be a good planner but when it comes to emotions and feelings it’s day by day when it comes these particulars.
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Just an update, last month I made a small amount of progress with getting maybe 6-7 readings total. I know that may still sound like a lot but for someone who has had more frequency of readings and who has kept adding and deleting the app and was so anxious, it was a cutback. I still spent quite a bit of money out of anxiety. I deleted the notes of all the advisors except for one. I am interested in seeing what happens but for the rest, it was not worth it. I removed all of them off from my favourites and have zero intentions of going back. I have also not tried any new readers, as addicts usually do...if one doesn't say it right maybe the other will...I don't believe I will hear of a better outcome tbh and I don't think anything anyone will say will be accurate. Most psychics do not get things 100% right and I don't want to play the whack-a-mole game anymore.
I still don't how how to sit in my feelings and accept what is happening around me. I have tried praying, admittedly, I am not there yet spiritually. The only reason I go to readers is b/c I desperately want my POI to be mine. Though for the last couple days, I feel defeated, and feel like a part of me is in denial. I have so much anxiety when he doesn't text. I'm not in the most stimulating job and have been looking for something new for almost a year now. I also have a chronic illness. My POI is my bright spot. He makes the pain better. That said, a part of me is coming to the realization that he may not end up with me, no matter how bad I want it to happen.
I have to be in a better place. Mentally. Physically. Spiritually. I am going to continue working on myself and hopefully somewhere and somehow the right person comes into my life and stays. I know people say, oh you will meet the one, but I have single aunts and single friends into their 40s+ now - amazing women who have not found someone. That scares me. It scares me b/c as wonderful as a person can be, they can end up being alone. You could say people are alone in marriages too, and yes, that's a different struggle. I don't want to compare the two though, they are not exactly the same.
Embracing the uncertainty and the probability of not being with the one you love is scary but also I know psychics won't be able to get me to my end goal. It is going to take an enormous amount of resiliency and mental strength on my part. And that is what I am working on.
The bit about being single into your forties scares me too! Do you think they are single by choice?
And well done one the progress you’ve made. I too quit after small steps.
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I'm in my 60s and am single. I have cats. I pretty much have given up on readings, thank god.
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Just an update, last month I made a small amount of progress with getting maybe 6-7 readings total. I know that may still sound like a lot but for someone who has had more frequency of readings and who has kept adding and deleting the app and was so anxious, it was a cutback. I still spent quite a bit of money out of anxiety. I deleted the notes of all the advisors except for one. I am interested in seeing what happens but for the rest, it was not worth it. I removed all of them off from my favourites and have zero intentions of going back. I have also not tried any new readers, as addicts usually do...if one doesn't say it right maybe the other will...I don't believe I will hear of a better outcome tbh and I don't think anything anyone will say will be accurate. Most psychics do not get things 100% right and I don't want to play the whack-a-mole game anymore.
I still don't how how to sit in my feelings and accept what is happening around me. I have tried praying, admittedly, I am not there yet spiritually. The only reason I go to readers is b/c I desperately want my POI to be mine. Though for the last couple days, I feel defeated, and feel like a part of me is in denial. I have so much anxiety when he doesn't text. I'm not in the most stimulating job and have been looking for something new for almost a year now. I also have a chronic illness. My POI is my bright spot. He makes the pain better. That said, a part of me is coming to the realization that he may not end up with me, no matter how bad I want it to happen.
I have to be in a better place. Mentally. Physically. Spiritually. I am going to continue working on myself and hopefully somewhere and somehow the right person comes into my life and stays. I know people say, oh you will meet the one, but I have single aunts and single friends into their 40s+ now - amazing women who have not found someone. That scares me. It scares me b/c as wonderful as a person can be, they can end up being alone. You could say people are alone in marriages too, and yes, that's a different struggle. I don't want to compare the two though, they are not exactly the same.
Embracing the uncertainty and the probability of not being with the one you love is scary but also I know psychics won't be able to get me to my end goal. It is going to take an enormous amount of resiliency and mental strength on my part. And that is what I am working on.
The bit about being single into your forties scares me too! Do you think they are single by choice?
And well done one the progress you’ve made. I too quit after small steps.
Hey! Thank you - yeah unfortunately it hasn’t been one clean cut-off but lots of little steps and just focusing on manifestation and prayer - things like that. Definitely still a WIP.
I feel some of my friends are single and have never put any efforts in but want someone. I’ve been pretty burned by the dating apps (was on them for five years after an 6- year long on and off relationship) and have been off of them for a couple years now. I honestly don’t know where I would meet someone but if there’s an opportunity to network - even if through work- I’ve been trying to go despite my chronic fatigue. My sickness has gotten in the way of a lot of things. I’ve thought of moving to a new country because I feel my city has not got a good pool of men. And I’d like the change - though in part with work visas and things it’s also luck but that’s my next move. Part of it I think is also God - if he has someone for you, that person will come into your life - I do pray for a partner.
Do you find it easy to meet people/date?
I like you have been on and off the apps with no luck.
I actually had a reading saying I’d meet my partner in my parents home country so I’m planning to go this year. I really believe she’s right.
Other than that I have the worst opportunities for meeting people.
I study from home and I don’t have many friends to go out with.
I have joined meet up but not had much luck there either.
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Just an update, last month I made a small amount of progress with getting maybe 6-7 readings total. I know that may still sound like a lot but for someone who has had more frequency of readings and who has kept adding and deleting the app and was so anxious, it was a cutback. I still spent quite a bit of money out of anxiety. I deleted the notes of all the advisors except for one. I am interested in seeing what happens but for the rest, it was not worth it. I removed all of them off from my favourites and have zero intentions of going back. I have also not tried any new readers, as addicts usually do...if one doesn't say it right maybe the other will...I don't believe I will hear of a better outcome tbh and I don't think anything anyone will say will be accurate. Most psychics do not get things 100% right and I don't want to play the whack-a-mole game anymore.
I still don't how how to sit in my feelings and accept what is happening around me. I have tried praying, admittedly, I am not there yet spiritually. The only reason I go to readers is b/c I desperately want my POI to be mine. Though for the last couple days, I feel defeated, and feel like a part of me is in denial. I have so much anxiety when he doesn't text. I'm not in the most stimulating job and have been looking for something new for almost a year now. I also have a chronic illness. My POI is my bright spot. He makes the pain better. That said, a part of me is coming to the realization that he may not end up with me, no matter how bad I want it to happen.
I have to be in a better place. Mentally. Physically. Spiritually. I am going to continue working on myself and hopefully somewhere and somehow the right person comes into my life and stays. I know people say, oh you will meet the one, but I have single aunts and single friends into their 40s+ now - amazing women who have not found someone. That scares me. It scares me b/c as wonderful as a person can be, they can end up being alone. You could say people are alone in marriages too, and yes, that's a different struggle. I don't want to compare the two though, they are not exactly the same.
Embracing the uncertainty and the probability of not being with the one you love is scary but also I know psychics won't be able to get me to my end goal. It is going to take an enormous amount of resiliency and mental strength on my part. And that is what I am working on.
The bit about being single into your forties scares me too! Do you think they are single by choice?
And well done one the progress you’ve made. I too quit after small steps.
Hey! Thank you - yeah unfortunately it hasn’t been one clean cut-off but lots of little steps and just focusing on manifestation and prayer - things like that. Definitely still a WIP.
I feel some of my friends are single and have never put any efforts in but want someone. I’ve been pretty burned by the dating apps (was on them for five years after an 6- year long on and off relationship) and have been off of them for a couple years now. I honestly don’t know where I would meet someone but if there’s an opportunity to network - even if through work- I’ve been trying to go despite my chronic fatigue. My sickness has gotten in the way of a lot of things. I’ve thought of moving to a new country because I feel my city has not got a good pool of men. And I’d like the change - though in part with work visas and things it’s also luck but that’s my next move. Part of it I think is also God - if he has someone for you, that person will come into your life - I do pray for a partner.
Do you find it easy to meet people/date?
I like you have been on and off the apps with no luck.
I actually had a reading saying I’d meet my partner in my parents home country so I’m planning to go this year. I really believe she’s right.
Other than that I have the worst opportunities for meeting people.
I study from home and I don’t have many friends to go out with.
I have joined meet up but not had much luck there either.
I feel you. I do not like the hookup culture at all, and that's what the past 5+ years of dating has been, I've met men that do not know what they want, very emotionally unavailable. I also felt like I was competing with other girls on the apps for attention. I'd rather find someone organically but that is very hard when you work for a small company and from home. I tried meetup but the pool of people was too different aka people I normally wouldn't date - younger students or people in a different life stage or very different personalities - I also haven't found any of those relationships to be sticky, they have not stuck around. I hope you find someone in your home country or otherwise soon!
That’s why I love readings. I never in a million years imagine I’d meet someone in a different country but realistically it probably is the most viable option as you understand being in a similar situation to me. The reader was adamant she felt something there so who knows.
I hope you find happiness and peace, with or without a partner. :)
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I'm in my 60s and am single. I have cats. I pretty much have given up on readings, thank god.
Do you enjoy being single? I feel very lonely most times and try the whole “enjoy yourself and your time” but after years (I’m almost 40) I’ve decided I can’t hide my feelings and want a partner. It would be a bit more hectic but I’d like to have someone by my side. I have given up on kids and the biological clock though - I have a health condition and at some point I just didn’t want to put that kind of pressure on myself - I could adopt worst case or raise someone else’s but for now ok without kids.
I have one friend that is quite comfortable being alone and I’d never judge that lifestyle - whatever makes you happy. Also that’s great to hear that you’re off readings!!
It used to bother me more when I was younger. But as you age and your hormones change, you don't care as much. I started reading in 2021. I met someone that I thought was going to work out and I was devastated when it didn't. That caused a psychic binge. But now I don't care as much anymore. I do get lonely but that's mostly because I'm a recluse. Interestingly, not one psychic picked up on that fact.
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I was addicted like there is no tomorrow back in 2015 when I was hooked on who I thought was my twin flame. Ended up being all BS and only a TINY handful of readers -- and I went through a LOT -- were honest enough to tell me I was wasting my time and to move on immediately as he was a pig with other women etc. I wish I had listened to that 2% of readers
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Thank you for taking the time to post as some posts have really helped me. Although I'd rather be alone than in an unhappy relationship, I did feel happier and stronger with a special man in my life.
It will never work out with my ex and I, due to his weakness and his toxic family. Bizarrely he's still helping me which I'm grateful for while I'm not well. I don't regret Meeting him as I've learned a lot but I don't want a future with him.
But my fear is that I won't meet anyone special again. I fear I've ran out of time . Getting to know people, taking risks is hard for me. At my age there is baggage too
I wish someone could tell me I'll be OK. I did speak to a wonderful clairvoyant who predicted the exact week I'd meet my ex etc he has passed away now. I'm not prepared to waste money again, but that need to be reassured is still there at times.
Thank you everybody for posting. It really helps knowing people are going through similar
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I was addicted like there is no tomorrow back in 2015 when I was hooked on who I thought was my twin flame. Ended up being all BS and only a TINY handful of readers -- and I went through a LOT -- were honest enough to tell me I was wasting my time and to move on immediately as he was a pig with other women etc. I wish I had listened to that 2% of readers
Same here. Was a nightmare looking back. I try not to be too hard on myself about it.
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I was addicted like there is no tomorrow back in 2015 when I was hooked on who I thought was my twin flame. Ended up being all BS and only a TINY handful of readers -- and I went through a LOT -- were honest enough to tell me I was wasting my time and to move on immediately as he was a pig with other women etc. I wish I had listened to that 2% of readers
Same here. Was a nightmare looking back. I try not to be too hard on myself about it.
Hi Sincity2, how long were you addicted and how did you break the addiction? I have reduced the number of readings but still feel the itch. My readings are also about ONE guy. Literally nothing else. I have given up about asking about career etc. b/c no one has been right.
Also I deleted my keen account (again) as a general update. A part of me has to accept that life will happen and I have to take the good and bad and regulate my emotions.
Hey there. I was addicted for over four years. Spend nauseating amounts of money. I totally stopped over a year ago after realizing how wrong they were about a few different guys and situations. I wish I cd get that money back.
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Thanks for your input SinCity.
I wanted to update the thread and needed a space to vent. Down to one reader and deleted the keen app - though I hope never to open it again. I am giving up on my POI as in, I’m tired of chasing and being second best. If he were truly meant for me and wanted to be with me, his actions would say differently. I’m tired of being kept around like a friend, my attempts to flirt shut down/minimized when he’s the one that originally pursued me and reconnected with me in Nov 2023. I’m still attracted to him but I feel tired and don’t have the mental and physical energy for it anymore. He has been talking to others and I wish them luck. I feel hurt. I haven’t cried over it yet - maybe I will - but there’s nothing to cry over because there isn’t a solid romantic relationship of any sort and I just don’t want another texting buddy. I’d rather have someone who asks me how my day was, misses me when I am away travelling, asks how I am doing and loves me to bits. I don’t know if I will ever get that but I’d rather work towards that than settle for a man that doesn’t see me. I’m just hurt. And if this is the way my psychic journey ends, then great. I don’t want to go back to the apps. I don’t want to sink any more money into this situation.
When you realize your worth and see the light, there is no going back. You are worth everything you want and more. Put yourself first and stop hurting over men who are, in reality, nothing to you. 🩷
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I think that having readings with predictions that don’t come true can be positive. Yes, I’ve wasted my money but it’s got me thinking that I should really use my own judgement and intuition.
There’s some great advice on here from other posters and I am sure you will feel stronger in time 💐
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Sai07, I’m sorry you’re going through a rough time. Would it be helpful if you date casually again? Just to take your mind off this dude and get some positive energy back into your life? Sometimes a change in scenery, a new hobby, hanging out with girlfriends can also be helpful…
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Sai07, I’m sorry you’re going through a rough time. Would it be helpful if you date casually again? Just to take your mind off this dude and get some positive energy back into your life? Sometimes a change in scenery, a new hobby, hanging out with girlfriends can also be helpful…
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Does anyone have any advice on how they distracted themselves when going no contact with POI or when POI ghosted? I am committed to not letting POI not texting me not cause me to break and text them. I’m not playing that game anymore. Any advice during this phase is appreciated. Thank you.
If you have a gym membership, go to the gym whenever you feel the overwhelming urge to reach out. Seriously. Working out is a great “distraction”, it fills your brain with dopamine, and over time, you look smokin’ hot because of it. Then whether or not POI returns, you get all the benefits and likely a new boyfriend. 😉
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I agree gym and exercises helps! Help regulate endorphins
But That’s always a challenge
Get a passion project: hobbies, learning a new language, music something that really gets you going. And I’ve tried asking psychics this like “what would I like doing?” And they would give generals, and the thing is no one knows what you like best but you! So don’t make that mistake I’ve made. And do it challenge yourself to remember what you like to do!
This is probably the hardest thing you’re gonna have to figure out: what do love to do (outside your ex/or poi)? What do I love about my life? What is my purpose in life? And it does hit this existential type of crisis but if you’re really passionate about what you are doing and love it, that does take a hard attention away from your person and energetically it is felt and it is attractive.
Change your environment, routine… if you can’t, rearrange your furniture so instead of waking up and walk left, you go right… and you could hate it and re change it back, but the point is to change your routine for a little bit to build a new habit, to think new thoughts, that don’t lead to thinking about them … at least immediately
Which brings me to I have haven’t finished that book “atomic habits” but it mentions successful habits takes one small change a day, and consistently; versus then to change your whole life immediately and expect follow thru… which often leads to giving up so just focus on changing one small habit. There’s a free YouTube audio version of the book, I highly recommend it, and I should finish it
Pattern interruption
I got thru the winter season singing my intrusive thoughts about calling psychics, or my ex. I sang my intrusive thoughts to pop songs and anything that bothered me. So find a pop song and sing about your feelings (mine was hit me baby one more time by Britney spear; it went something like this “ooops I want to call my ex oh baby baby” and then I found I didn’t need to change much other part of the lyrics. )
Identifying Intrusive thoughts and intrusive feelings
Identifying my intrusive thoughts, for me , questions like: is what’s my ex dating? Or Ugh what does my sister want from me?, feeling angry every time I come from work… feeling angry in general… and the thing about intrusive feelings and thoughts is well they are there, but my response to it what can change if I am willing to observe it. So willing to observe it takes time but so helpful because you can say ok this my Achilles heel to this feeling or thought, but I don’t have to act on it… and THAT observation is a huge start in awareness. I can explain it but then the other battle is not reacting the same way, easier said than done.
A long time ago a therapist said when my mind was going and I needed to call a psychic but couldn’t he suggested I recall the 50 states alphabetically without the internet… and I still use this but have gotten really good at it. I guess things like my favorite actor has been in movies. Things you know but would need a source to check, yet occupy your brain chatter.
Or cleaning! Reorganizing my makeup, or even getting rid of clothes, some kind of spring cleaning project
I think this goes back to the first point but asking yourself “what have I been putting off?” : oil change, organizing bills, salsa class (anything from the mundane to the exciting), planning a trip
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@Mina. Not sure if you have noticed but this forum is called "The Psychic Reviews". Maybe you would need to join another forum for people trying to quit psychics or whatever and stop writing these novels. It just gives people a headache.
Thanks for being fan
Not sure if your noticed but this is the psychic addiction section
Plus
You deleted a bunch of YOUR reviews and I was more then sympathetic towards cause, and I apologize if we got off on the wrong foot
Sorry you’re jelly? Or feel that way
I honestly don’t care if you want to put me down
But I do care that ppl struggle and there is an issue with psychic addiction that has been growing - whether it’s spiritual or impulsive like compulsive spending
I just want that voice heard and help ppl get some kind of normal that doesn’t ruin themselves
Hope you get help
Again thanks for being a fan!
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Ok let's bring this back to my quitting story :P
So I failed miserably this month. I went on binge calls the past two days >.< I feel guilty. But I also feel I needed to talk to someone =(
I can't talk about my situation with anyone else. I have been distancing and not texting my POI and I am hurting. I am in the phase where I am having a hard time accepting that it is in my best interests to move on. I go back and forth with the whole thing.
I don't understand how someone can go from being so loving and genuine and wanting to spend their time with you to talking to multiple other people and giving you the cold shoulder. I also don't believe in the whole, 'get under someone to get over someone else' . At least not in the beginning stages of pulling away from someone you love. That won't make me feel better.
Anyways, my point being, I binged and I am disappointed. I am struggling with fully letting go of this person which is why the binges happened - a couple advisors told me it will get better (but I do not believe them) and one told me there is no future (while I believe her, a part of me does not want to believe her). I don't know how I am going to pray my way out of the hurt, but I can't keep calling advisors.
I worry my intuition and sense of judgement is off too. How could I believe this is the person I was going to marry? And how does a tiny part of me still think this will magically work out? I feel confused and hurt.
Re: prayer, I also am struggling to decide if I want to pray for this person to change and come back into my life or if I want to pray the feelings away :/ Feels like I'm not in a clear state of mind.
Anyways, thanks for listening.
Another person is not the key to your happiness. He’s just another, flawed human being. You deserve more, you deserve to be occupied by better things.
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Just an update - I went through some bad binges over the weekend and up till yesterday and now I feel I have it decently out of my system. The only reason I was calling was for my POI and I have decided to walk away from him so there's no point anymore.
Some psychics have continued to say it's going to work out despite him talking to multiple girls and not talking to me (wtf lol??) and I just cannot continue to see how that will happen. It's a turn off when someone gives someone else attention over you. I also feel if someone gives you THAT much anxiety and makes you go to psychics that much, they're not for you or they're not ready and there's no point in constantly checking if they ever will be ready for you. Everyday that passes, while agonizing, I feel more and more comfortable with my decision to walk away and just let things happen organically in my life. I don't need to know the future, it's just not worth it. All the psychics are half-wrong anyways. I have yet to meet someone that gives you a complete picture and then predicts outcomes accurately.
When I am ready, maybe in a few weeks or a couple months, I will open myself up to dating again.
But I am ready to move on and invest in myself.
There are periods of loneliness. I have to figure those out but the unsurmountable depression - thankfully, is lifting slowly, a bit at a time.
We’ve got each other if that means anything. Reading all these posts just strengthens my resolve. And especially knowing someone else is going through the same emotions as me…uncertainty, loneliness etc.
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Tiny update.
My POI said he would not be in contact with me over socials for the summer. At first, I was a bit shocked and then sad - I'm going to continue to be sad but I talked to someone and they said NC is the right thing. It's funny how God/the Universe works. I was in two situationships - one where the guy ghosted me after talking to me daily for 1.5 years (I have not heard from him in a month). And this second situationship with POI, he also is removing himself from the situation. To me, that is God making room for someone more worthy. It is strange how these two things happened at the same time. God/the Universe has been showing me that my POI is not the right person for me and I have been avoiding it. I really have been. And it is time to course-correct.
I deleted snapchat today (I don't have him on anything else). I've deleted Keen off my phone. My favourite advisor is just a advisor at this point and I have no intention of reading with her again, she flip-flopped and I have sunk a lot of money through the POI detachment process.
I'm also probably not going to come here as much. Part of this detachment is creating new habits for myself. Thank you to every single person that has supported me and shared their advice & experiences, contributed to my threads; your interactions and your inspiring stories and how strongly you hold your self-worth inspire and amaze me.
Sad to see you go but whatever’s for the best. I don’t know why I’m still in this forum either. Maybe as a reminder of what I don’t want to be. All the best xx
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Agreed, but I know I'm still here to share and support. It's probably why we hang :)
Tiny update.
My POI said he would not be in contact with me over socials for the summer. At first, I was a bit shocked and then sad - I'm going to continue to be sad but I talked to someone and they said NC is the right thing. It's funny how God/the Universe works. I was in two situationships - one where the guy ghosted me after talking to me daily for 1.5 years (I have not heard from him in a month). And this second situationship with POI, he also is removing himself from the situation. To me, that is God making room for someone more worthy. It is strange how these two things happened at the same time. God/the Universe has been showing me that my POI is not the right person for me and I have been avoiding it. I really have been. And it is time to course-correct.
I deleted snapchat today (I don't have him on anything else). I've deleted Keen off my phone. My favourite advisor is just a advisor at this point and I have no intention of reading with her again, she flip-flopped and I have sunk a lot of money through the POI detachment process.
I'm also probably not going to come here as much. Part of this detachment is creating new habits for myself. Thank you to every single person that has supported me and shared their advice & experiences, contributed to my threads; your interactions and your inspiring stories and how strongly you hold your self-worth inspire and amaze me.
Sad to see you go but whatever’s for the best. I don’t know why I’m still in this forum either. Maybe as a reminder of what I don’t want to be. All the best xx
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For me it's a spiritual journey and a very helpful resource, so I didn't block it out completely. But I have been in your shoes many times and finally what worked for me is sticking to one (actually two) readers. They were both the only too I felt compassion from. So to wean myself off, I spent more time shadow journaling, writing, drawing, and when I did these things I wrote about the things I would deserve and desire. It helped a lot and may seem like nothing but I now have it under control and again for my it's a growth spiritually for me, so I keep it around.
I'm sorry you feel so lost. I hope you find what works for you.
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Thanks for the update … and apologies for the novel or if long winded
If I may I think you’re going to all or nothing/black and white/absolute thinking… because I do it too! Or at least this how I relate to this. Also congratulations on going so long without a psychic.
Again be kind and gentle to yourself!
Gentle.
Bring in this soft sprinkly gentle kindness acceptance of yourself. All that intensity and care is not a force to “take away” from them- but REFOCUS it back to you.
AND also because this does helps see and feel your value.
So you miss and love your friend and ex. That’s okay! Take the stigma of what you should or shouldn’t/be or feel- aside. Put all the stigma, personal meaning of what it means about you- with kindness. But see if you can observe what you’re making it mean about you; and then gently touch that part of you. I forget I don’t think my thoughts; I first feel them; I embody the sensation of my feelings, then thoughts along with the feelings of rejection… so remember to work backwards. Easier said than done, but it is helpful. So from the embodiment of rejection I am feeling broken and hallow in my chest, then the thoughts come: “men suck, I was used, how could ppl do this to me. Why would any one pick me, etc” AND then touch this part of me from a centered calm place and GENTLE (is this absolute truth- prob not)
Have you done this exercise?
If I was with (my friend/this guy) here right now what would that mean or say about me? If they were texting me right now want to hang out and be with me with me right now: What would be relieved? Or what part of me could feel like I could finally breathe? What would this say about me?
(For me: I’d feel seen, like I can breathe, I am whole. I can also feel my body smile)
And yes the cliche answer is “well how can I give that to myself?” But it isn’t so much figuring out it’s more of this acceptance, allowance for you to be okay to be you. Freely all of you.
If you could see how God values you? See how precious you are, would you be open to allow that in? (And I hope this doesn’t trigger you; I know God concept be rough one here)
I admit I can’t do it all the time… and I’m not always open to it, nor can remember. But that word “open” when rephrased to positive question affirmations “if I could be OPEN to?” it does allow the subconscious not to have so much resistance to that possibility. So putting a pause on what you’re resisting
My therapist gave me this “homework” instead of calling a psychic about: what he’s going do? What’s he thinking about me? What’s he feeling about me? When is he going to call me?
To change “he” to “me”: what am I going to do? What am I thinking about me? What am I feeling about me? When am I going to call me?
And it does have me like “oh!” It is this weird re-parent my inner dialogue.
Refocus your value back to you, with gentleness and kindness.
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We got you, Sai. Reach out any time.
Thanks for the update … and apologies for the novel or if long winded
If I may I think you’re going to all or nothing/black and white/absolute thinking… because I do it too! Or at least this how I relate to this. Also congratulations on going so long without a psychic.
Again be kind and gentle to yourself!
Gentle.
Bring in this soft sprinkly gentle kindness acceptance of yourself. All that intensity and care is not a force to “take away” from them- but REFOCUS it back to you.
AND also because this does helps see and feel your value.
So you miss and love your friend and ex. That’s okay! Take the stigma of what you should or shouldn’t/be or feel- aside. Put all the stigma, personal meaning of what it means about you- with kindness. But see if you can observe what you’re making it mean about you; and then gently touch that part of you. I forget I don’t think my thoughts; I first feel them; I embody the sensation of my feelings, then thoughts along with the feelings of rejection… so remember to work backwards. Easier said than done, but it is helpful. So from the embodiment of rejection I am feeling broken and hallow in my chest, then the thoughts come: “men suck, I was used, how could ppl do this to me. Why would any one pick me, etc” AND then touch this part of me from a centered calm place and GENTLE (is this absolute truth- prob not)
Have you done this exercise?
If I was with (my friend/this guy) here right now what would that mean or say about me? If they were texting me right now want to hang out and be with me with me right now: What would be relieved? Or what part of me could feel like I could finally breathe? What would this say about me?
(For me: I’d feel seen, like I can breathe, I am whole. I can also feel my body smile)
And yes the cliche answer is “well how can I give that to myself?” But it isn’t so much figuring out it’s more of this acceptance, allowance for you to be okay to be you. Freely all of you.
If you could see how God values you? See how precious you are, would you be open to allow that in? (And I hope this doesn’t trigger you; I know God concept be rough one here)
I admit I can’t do it all the time… and I’m not always open to it, nor can remember. But that word “open” when rephrased to positive question affirmations “if I could be OPEN to?” it does allow the subconscious not to have so much resistance to that possibility. So putting a pause on what you’re resisting
My therapist gave me this “homework” instead of calling a psychic about: what he’s going do? What’s he thinking about me? What’s he feeling about me? When is he going to call me?
To change “he” to “me”: what am I going to do? What am I thinking about me? What am I feeling about me? When am I going to call me?
And it does have me like “oh!” It is this weird re-parent my inner dialogue.
Refocus your value back to you, with gentleness and kindness.
Thanks Mina. Yes, I am still taking a faith-based approach. I would be lying if I said I am not praying for both of these people to come back into my life, but I also wonder if the way they were removed was God telling me to move on. I feel extremely lost and confused. It’s great that you found a therapist that can you talk through this with. I feel embarrassed telling anyone I have an addiction problem. I am hurting and sometimes feel like reading out to one or two psychics but I think at this point any false hope would be extremely damaging to the progress I have made with no contact. As I said, it’s a very confusing and challenging period. Thanks for the exercise - will try it - sorry for my lack of enthusiasm, feeling depressed today. But thanks x
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Right back at 'cha, woman. xo
We got you, Sai. Reach out any time.
Thanks for the update … and apologies for the novel or if long winded
If I may I think you’re going to all or nothing/black and white/absolute thinking… because I do it too! Or at least this how I relate to this. Also congratulations on going so long without a psychic.
Again be kind and gentle to yourself!
Gentle.
Bring in this soft sprinkly gentle kindness acceptance of yourself. All that intensity and care is not a force to “take away” from them- but REFOCUS it back to you.
AND also because this does helps see and feel your value.
So you miss and love your friend and ex. That’s okay! Take the stigma of what you should or shouldn’t/be or feel- aside. Put all the stigma, personal meaning of what it means about you- with kindness. But see if you can observe what you’re making it mean about you; and then gently touch that part of you. I forget I don’t think my thoughts; I first feel them; I embody the sensation of my feelings, then thoughts along with the feelings of rejection… so remember to work backwards. Easier said than done, but it is helpful. So from the embodiment of rejection I am feeling broken and hallow in my chest, then the thoughts come: “men suck, I was used, how could ppl do this to me. Why would any one pick me, etc” AND then touch this part of me from a centered calm place and GENTLE (is this absolute truth- prob not)
Have you done this exercise?
If I was with (my friend/this guy) here right now what would that mean or say about me? If they were texting me right now want to hang out and be with me with me right now: What would be relieved? Or what part of me could feel like I could finally breathe? What would this say about me?
(For me: I’d feel seen, like I can breathe, I am whole. I can also feel my body smile)
And yes the cliche answer is “well how can I give that to myself?” But it isn’t so much figuring out it’s more of this acceptance, allowance for you to be okay to be you. Freely all of you.
If you could see how God values you? See how precious you are, would you be open to allow that in? (And I hope this doesn’t trigger you; I know God concept be rough one here)
I admit I can’t do it all the time… and I’m not always open to it, nor can remember. But that word “open” when rephrased to positive question affirmations “if I could be OPEN to?” it does allow the subconscious not to have so much resistance to that possibility. So putting a pause on what you’re resisting
My therapist gave me this “homework” instead of calling a psychic about: what he’s going do? What’s he thinking about me? What’s he feeling about me? When is he going to call me?
To change “he” to “me”: what am I going to do? What am I thinking about me? What am I feeling about me? When am I going to call me?
And it does have me like “oh!” It is this weird re-parent my inner dialogue.
Refocus your value back to you, with gentleness and kindness.
Thanks Mina. Yes, I am still taking a faith-based approach. I would be lying if I said I am not praying for both of these people to come back into my life, but I also wonder if the way they were removed was God telling me to move on. I feel extremely lost and confused. It’s great that you found a therapist that can you talk through this with. I feel embarrassed telling anyone I have an addiction problem. I am hurting and sometimes feel like reading out to one or two psychics but I think at this point any false hope would be extremely damaging to the progress I have made with no contact. As I said, it’s a very confusing and challenging period. Thanks for the exercise - will try it - sorry for my lack of enthusiasm, feeling depressed today. But thanks x
Thanks Jacky x appreciate you
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Good luck sai07! You can do this!! :)
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HUGS, sai!!! PM me if you want to chat. xo
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I’m so sorry you’re going thru this, but also want to share I’m in the same boat. I’m ashamed that I’ve let my anxiety get the best of me, instead of accepting things for what they are and letting it be without control. I’ve spent SO much money. To embarrassing to even share. Psychic addiction is a real thing.
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Got you, woman! Any time :).
HUGS, sai!!! PM me if you want to chat. xo
HUGS JackY - ty for having my back, girl!
Yes I will take you up on your offer and message you when I get some more time this week.
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I have spent untold thousands for many years, Sai. I made it 30 days without psychics in August but it reset when I met a man. Now I am resetting again. My goal is to make it to September 12, 2025. I hope to come back here and post when feeling tempted to get a reading.
THIS IS A VERY HARD ADDICTION TO QUIT.
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Sai, I hadn't logged into this site for many months but your thread spoke so strongly to me. I've rarely felt so affected by reading another person's posts and want to send you empathy and support.
In 2019, started to get readings compulsively. I continued on and off for a few years, but one "POI" in particular was the catalyst who sparked my interest in readings and also the person on whom I spent the most money. So much of what you have written resonates with me. I spent so much time and energy trying to make sense of why a man would tell me that I was his soulmate if he didn't want to fully commit. This would just eat away at me, and sometimes I felt like if I would follow the advice of the psychics, I would do everything "right" and then he would be fully mine. The reality is that there is no answer since many people say things that they don't fully mean. (I would bet that you're a person who does not do that and means what she says.) I would sit around and review the "evidence" for why he MUST be the one for me... he said X, Y, and Z and did A, B, and C... just endlessly seeking reassurance from myself and from readers when, deep down, I knew it wasn't actually going to work.
Psychic addiction is especially cruel because you don't get anything to show for spending thousands of dollars on someone. I mostly read on Keen and also never found someone who was accurate with the bigger picture.
The cold hard truth is that the person for you will not drive you to an addiction with psychics, even if you are an anxious person. He just won't, because he will care for you and reassure you enough to where you don't need to check in with others about it to such an extent.
Like you, I also got to the point where I started using psychics more as therapists than as psychics -- what you wrote about having that nonjudgmental space is so true. Swallowing the financial reality of using them as therapists is tough, though (paying $100 for like a ten minute phone call).
Sit out the urge the best you can when you feel that you need a reading and keep your platform accounts closed, since they prey on impulsivity. Maybe "treat" yourself to a flat-rate reading on occasion that you've booked in advance if you feel that giving up readings altogether is too difficult.
I wish the very best for you, and as cliche as it is to write -- you deserve better.
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I look at the title and reminded of the same: I want to quit too
When I examine my recent good outcome with my love interest… I didn’t always follow the exact psychic advice. I also didn’t follow exact common sense! (I mean that probably could have been done better too) but not every psychic was perfect with the outcome, and it’s still changing. Last night I was about to have a reading and I just couldn’t; I do feel disgusted with myself for wanting one … but sitting with my feelings isn’t always easy either. I can’t point a finger on it, or even label it “is it reassurance? Validation? What feels so uncomfortable that needs soothing? Security? Connection?”
And as I am journaling this morning and redoing some courses “to manifest my ideal relationship” - one question asks what I don’t want to carry into a relationship, who do I need to be to allow that? Who do I need allow my person to be (which may not be my person). to be in good solid relationship?… and short answers it’s my dependency on psychics that's whatt I don’t want in this moving forward. But to quit that is to face my current feelings now and from last night
You know so to be even more brutally honest I also reached out to my person last night and he hasn’t responded yet … despite every psychic saying I have to play slow waiting game, not chase, not be too quick to push … and normally this would turn me into tailspin “well what does he think? Did he like the message? Will he respond back? Well when? How?”and I realized no I also don’t feel hung up on him or an answer that makes or breaks my feelings (or so I say for now) on me. If he doesn’t respond when (from my grounded place) i don’t feel crazy anxious, and I don’t need that kind of relationship…
Just wanted to say so proud of you! And yeah I don’t want carry psychic on either
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I’m so sorry you’re going thru this, but also want to share I’m in the same boat. I’m ashamed that I’ve let my anxiety get the best of me, instead of accepting things for what they are and letting it be without control. I’ve spent SO much money. To embarrassing to even share. Psychic addiction is a real thing.
I feel for you. I totally understand. Outside of the psychic addiction I am, believe it or not, relatively normal. How I have sunk so much $$ and believed in people who just strung me along, I have no idea. I wanted the things I asked about so badly - a promotion, a man who loved me as much as I love him - but the universe has other plans for me it seems. My approach lately has just been prayer, accepting things as they come, trying to detach as much as possible and just sitting through the pain and the anxiety. I wish I could help you. Here anytime you'd like to chat.
Lol I feel this. My affection for psychics is in such stark contrast to the rest of my life and persona. If my friends and family knew I called psychics they would be shocked. I guess I am shocked that I waste money on psychics too. I wonder how much better off I might have been had i invested all the psychic $ into a therapist.
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Hi guys!
The last advisor - the one that predicted a major change at the end of Aug, that prediction is now going into Sept. I don't feel good having spent money today. I feel terrible tbh bc there was no new information, my anxiety just got the best of me. It is not on the advisor but on me. This advisor is actually quite likeable but at the end of the day, I have to do what is best for me and my life. And I want to start building my own intuition again. I am having a hard time seeing the prediction come to life and most of all, I need to pay off the credit card stuff.
So this time, instead of giving myself some grace, I want to really stick to going without a reading. I was reading it takes 2-3 months to break a habit (21 days is actually a myth and perhaps achievable with simpler vices). I don't know if announcing it here is stupid but I am struggling and it is addiction and I am ready to try again with more rigour. I want my life back. I want financial freedom. I want to be able to afford a home and vacations and trips and be comfortable in retirement. Most of all, I want control of myself back.
Did the prediction pass?
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For all the people going through this together atleast you're not hooked on hookers, gambling and drugs or alcohol. Trust me they are even worse. I know someone sold family business bc this person got into gambling and is now running away from debtors. So give yourself a grace. One Day at a time! This is all being part of human good bad and the ugly together. Embrace all of it.
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I look at the title and reminded of the same: I want to quit too
When I examine my recent good outcome with my love interest… I didn’t always follow the exact psychic advice. I also didn’t follow exact common sense! (I mean that probably could have been done better too) but not every psychic was perfect with the outcome, and it’s still changing. Last night I was about to have a reading and I just couldn’t; I do feel disgusted with myself for wanting one … but sitting with my feelings isn’t always easy either. I can’t point a finger on it, or even label it “is it reassurance? Validation? What feels so uncomfortable that needs soothing? Security? Connection?”
And as I am journaling this morning and redoing some courses “to manifest my ideal relationship” - one question asks what I don’t want to carry into a relationship, who do I need to be to allow that? Who do I need allow my person to be (which may not be my person). to be in good solid relationship?… and short answers it’s my dependency on psychics that's whatt I don’t want in this moving forward. But to quit that is to face my current feelings now and from last night
You know so to be even more brutally honest I also reached out to my person last night and he hasn’t responded yet … despite every psychic saying I have to play slow waiting game, not chase, not be too quick to push … and normally this would turn me into tailspin “well what does he think? Did he like the message? Will he respond back? Well when? How?”and I realized no I also don’t feel hung up on him or an answer that makes or breaks my feelings (or so I say for now) on me. If he doesn’t respond when (from my grounded place) i don’t feel crazy anxious, and I don’t need that kind of relationship…
Just wanted to say so proud of you! And yeah I don’t want carry psychic on either
Mina, I'm so sorry that you're struggling. Just like with sai07's posts, your post resonates with me, too. When I was craving a reading, I didn't even know what I was feeling or what I was trying to soothe with the reading (other than anxiety), I just felt this overwhelming compulsion to call.
Re: manifesting... I go through phases with it. Call me cynical, but I think a lot of it comes down to being authentically myself in dating and having confidence with men -- two things I've struggled with. Sometimes the manifesting stuff would get me down because I would feel bad about not being able to force my brain to "live in the end" and would make me blame myself if I didn't do it "right." But then I go through phases of liking it, too.
And I'm not the first to type this on this board, but I think one reason for psychics saying to play the slow game is because they need you not to have a definite answer in order for you to keep calling to get an "answer." At least you reached out and got an answer for yourself.
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I’m so sorry you’re going thru this, but also want to share I’m in the same boat. I’m ashamed that I’ve let my anxiety get the best of me, instead of accepting things for what they are and letting it be without control. I’ve spent SO much money. To embarrassing to even share. Psychic addiction is a real thing.
I feel for you. I totally understand. Outside of the psychic addiction I am, believe it or not, relatively normal. How I have sunk so much $$ and believed in people who just strung me along, I have no idea. I wanted the things I asked about so badly - a promotion, a man who loved me as much as I love him - but the universe has other plans for me it seems. My approach lately has just been prayer, accepting things as they come, trying to detach as much as possible and just sitting through the pain and the anxiety. I wish I could help you. Here anytime you'd like to chat.
Lol I feel this. My affection for psychics is in such stark contrast to the rest of my life and persona. If my friends and family knew I called psychics they would be shocked. I guess I am shocked that I waste money on psychics too. I wonder how much better off I might have been had i invested all the psychic $ into a therapist.
Same. I don't think anyone would guess that I spent thousands on psychics. I'm otherwise okay with money and pretty logical and no BS.
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Hi guys!
The last advisor - the one that predicted a major change at the end of Aug, that prediction is now going into Sept. I don't feel good having spent money today. I feel terrible tbh bc there was no new information, my anxiety just got the best of me. It is not on the advisor but on me. This advisor is actually quite likeable but at the end of the day, I have to do what is best for me and my life. And I want to start building my own intuition again. I am having a hard time seeing the prediction come to life and most of all, I need to pay off the credit card stuff.
So this time, instead of giving myself some grace, I want to really stick to going without a reading. I was reading it takes 2-3 months to break a habit (21 days is actually a myth and perhaps achievable with simpler vices). I don't know if announcing it here is stupid but I am struggling and it is addiction and I am ready to try again with more rigour. I want my life back. I want financial freedom. I want to be able to afford a home and vacations and trips and be comfortable in retirement. Most of all, I want control of myself back.
Did the prediction pass?
No...it didn't - the crazy thing is two psychics has said the exact same thing that by end of Aug it would pass - but it did not. And now we are at nearly the end of Sept :/ So yeah.
Guess your instincts were right. It did not seem feasible. I’m going through something myself, where no matter what the signs say, I’ve put my faith in a readers prediction waiting for it to be correct. How could she not be correct?! She sounded so convincing, so sure! But alas her prediction didn’t pass and it may pass in the next 5 years but who knows! In the meantime I need to live myself, date people (or in my case get married (because I’m Asian)).
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You should be proud of yourself for reaching a new mindset and focusing on a more healthy way of life. It's not easy to stay away from readings that can provide instant gratification or temporary abandonment from our problems. And, that's the challenge....they (readings) seldom pan into anything. What does bear fruit is the groundwork you are laying down now by focusing on your career, health, and other goals. Good luck to you!