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Relationship Psychology Discussions => The Vent => Topic started by: lp1111 on July 02, 2019, 03:01:56 PM
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how long have you been calling psychics?
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Before this last break up it was just like once or twice a year. When we first split in February/March, I went way overboard. The past month I’ve slowed down a lot, and am starting to weed them out. I got a top up from Yona and a general email reading from Kisha that I scheduled last month, but other than that have not bought any readings in a few weeks.
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So to answer your question... I’ve been reading for about 10 years, but only overdid it for a few months (it did more than enough damage though).
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That’s not going to last! Especially if it’s moving that fast normally when things start fast and it ends faster! And from what I can read you’re a great woman so any man knows you’re the type that wants to settle and need a good man. Some men know when the difference between a good woman that’s ready to settle and one that’s not going to expect much. The one that doesn’t have expectations and see things loosely that’s who they choose because it’s less pressure and lighter. I think u should act like u moved on and pamper yourself ! Look good and post cute pics on social media and act like u don’t care !
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Thanks, cteebaby. I tend to agree when I think about it rationally. The part that gets me about it though is introducing their kids. Ugh. To me a guy that gets to meet my baby is someone I am marrying.
That is great advice though, and I’m really trying. That’s a big part of why I haven’t blocked him on social media.. as far as he knows I don’t care at all and I’m living my best life lol. I’ve been traveling a LOT. Going get a massage this weekend. Have been going on dates here and there. Slowly trying to pull myself out of this, but I have some dark days in between.
Also, I want to add. I’ve been reading your updates and truly wish the best for you and your child. We all deserve peace and happiness. 🖤
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Thanks, cteebaby. I tend to agree when I think about it rationally. The part that gets me about it though is introducing their kids. Ugh. To me a guy that gets to meet my baby is someone I am marrying.
That is great advice though, and I’m really trying. That’s a big part of why I haven’t blocked him on social media.. as far as he knows I don’t care at all and I’m living my best life lol. I’ve been traveling a LOT. Going get a massage this weekend. Have been going on dates here and there. Slowly trying to pull myself out of this, but I have some dark days in between.
Also, I want to add. I’ve been reading your updates and truly wish the best for you and your child. We all deserve peace and happiness. 🖤
I’m sorry LPoche.
I’ve been in that same position, that “why her, not me?” Type of situation. It sucks. Especially when you know you’re the better catch for whatever reason. No wrong in saying that either.
And for you, I am shooting a big ol middle finger to all the readers for you. Maybe they will be right later, maybe they were all wrong, idk what or if you have heard from them afterwards but here is the finger (!).
I’m just angry y’all. I hope you feel better, LPoche and I hope this bit of knowledge makes you realizes he has even more cooties now and you want to remain free and clear.
Blessings to you all.
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Lpoche,
You wrote this about Cookie:
"Also, very soon I would be hearing from him and we would definitely be back in communication. I find that so hard to believe though being that he is dating this new girl and seems to be getting more serious with her. Although I will say, this girl does not seem like “wife material” if ya know what I mean. Regardless, I have just had such a hard time believing these predictions are accurate. "
When I first started calling psychics around 2011 I was crying every single day over someone who abruptly cut off communication with me and entered a new relationship. For over two years timelines for them to break up came and went and I was stuck in a depressed state the entire time they were together just waiting and hoping for him and I to reconnect. They eventually broke up and he did come back around but things never became solid between us. He never offered me the commitment I was seeking. I was told he had major emotional issues which is probably true but regardless I never got the solidity I was seeking in a partnership that I wanted with him. Fast forward here we are in 2019 and he still sends me texts almost every day but is yet again in ANOTHER relationship!! I was incredibly in love with this person and never thought I would get over him. At any rate almost every psychic was wrong about him and I. My hope is for other people on this board to concentrate on healing themselves instead of holding on to hope for a person that may or may not come back. It leads to more sadness and disappointment. Keep dating others, staying open, and doing things for yourself that bring you happiness. I do believe that if people are meant to be together eventually they will be. Don't lose hope because if this is not the guy for you, there will be someone. I am very thankful that I did find this board years ago because I have made friendships through this forum so please know that people really do understand here and want to connect with you <3
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Lpoche,
You wrote this about Cookie:
"Also, very soon I would be hearing from him and we would definitely be back in communication. I find that so hard to believe though being that he is dating this new girl and seems to be getting more serious with her. Although I will say, this girl does not seem like “wife material” if ya know what I mean. Regardless, I have just had such a hard time believing these predictions are accurate. "
When I first started calling psychics around 2011 I was crying every single day over someone who abruptly cut off communication with me and entered a new relationship. For over two years timelines for them to break up came and went and I was stuck in a depressed state the entire time they were together just waiting and hoping for him and I to reconnect. They eventually broke up and he did come back around but things never became solid between us. He never offered me the commitment I was seeking. I was told he had major emotional issues which is probably true but regardless I never got the solidity I was seeking in a partnership that I wanted with him. Fast forward here we are in 2019 and he still sends me texts almost every day but is yet again in ANOTHER relationship!! I was incredibly in love with this person and never thought I would get over him. At any rate almost every psychic was wrong about him and I. My hope is for other people on this board to concentrate on healing themselves instead of holding on to hope for a person that may or may not come back. It leads to more sadness and disappointment. Keep dating others, staying open, and doing things for yourself that bring you happiness. I do believe that if people are meant to be together eventually they will be. Don't lose hope because if this is not the guy for you, there will be someone. I am very thankful that I did find this board years ago because I have made friendships through this forum so please know that people really do understand here and want to connect with you <3
This is amazing advice. ❤️
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Lpoche,
You wrote this about Cookie:
"Also, very soon I would be hearing from him and we would definitely be back in communication. I find that so hard to believe though being that he is dating this new girl and seems to be getting more serious with her. Although I will say, this girl does not seem like “wife material” if ya know what I mean. Regardless, I have just had such a hard time believing these predictions are accurate. "
When I first started calling psychics around 2011 I was crying every single day over someone who abruptly cut off communication with me and entered a new relationship. For over two years timelines for them to break up came and went and I was stuck in a depressed state the entire time they were together just waiting and hoping for him and I to reconnect. They eventually broke up and he did come back around but things never became solid between us. He never offered me the commitment I was seeking. I was told he had major emotional issues which is probably true but regardless I never got the solidity I was seeking in a partnership that I wanted with him. Fast forward here we are in 2019 and he still sends me texts almost every day but is yet again in ANOTHER relationship!! I was incredibly in love with this person and never thought I would get over him. At any rate almost every psychic was wrong about him and I. My hope is for other people on this board to concentrate on healing themselves instead of holding on to hope for a person that may or may not come back. It leads to more sadness and disappointment. Keep dating others, staying open, and doing things for yourself that bring you happiness. I do believe that if people are meant to be together eventually they will be. Don't lose hope because if this is not the guy for you, there will be someone. I am very thankful that I did find this board years ago because I have made friendships through this forum so please know that people really do understand here and want to connect with you <3
Brilliantly stated. It hurts like hell to have someone you are interested in or in love with (even worse) pick someone else. JMO, I would move on as much as possible. Just think, would you ever want to be second choice? you deserve better.
When stuff like this happens, I believe it is a higher power directing you to someone better.
I dated a guy for years in my early 20s...I wasn't calling psychics then though. But he would come and go, and he basically told me up front that he wasn't looking for anything serious...and I just kept on wasting my time with him. I finally came to my senses years later, and I regret wasting all my time hoping for something that was never meant to be. He would give me just enough to keep me hanging on. Now I look back and wonder what made me so infatuated and I think it was just the thrill of the chase in a way, wanting what you can't have.
He got engaged to someone else later on...and this was after dating her for only a year or so, while I wasted years of my time with him.
Life it too short, find someone who appreciates you NOW. Just my two cents.
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Luckystar, I’m sorry you went through this. I’m not at a point that I’m holding on to hoping for him anymore. I’ve let go as much as I can because I did not deserve this and do not want someone who would treat me like this. I guess I’m just confused as to WHY I’m treated with so little respect. It’s tough.
And somethingbetter, thank you girl! I agree with the middle finger LOL but in all honesty, I’m mostly to blame. If I’m having to call to psychics to see if someone loves me, I already have my answer. I have completely come to a point where I find his actions disgusting, so hey that’s some closure for me!
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Sawthelight, you are absolutely correct. I would never sit and wait for someone who didn’t see me as worthwhile. I don’t see myself accepting any apology or explanation even if I ever get one. I’m just having a hard time picking myself up at the moment, BUT I’m sure the reason behind all of this will present itself soon enough. I’m just so ready to finally understand the meaning for it.
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Sawthelight, you are absolutely correct. I would never sit and wait for someone who didn’t see me as worthwhile. I don’t see myself accepting any apology or explanation even if I ever get one. I’m just having a hard time picking myself up at the moment, BUT I’m sure the reason behind all of this will present itself soon enough. I’m just so ready to finally understand the meaning for it.
I understand, I truly do..hugs to you..time will make it better. In the meantime, I would block all forms of communication..don't look at the social media with the new girl or whatever..why torture yourself. You deserve better. :D
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Luckystar, I’m sorry you went through this. I’m not at a point that I’m holding on to hoping for him anymore. I’ve let go as much as I can because I did not deserve this and do not want someone who would treat me like this. I guess I’m just confused as to WHY I’m treated with so little respect. It’s tough.
And somethingbetter, thank you girl! I agree with the middle finger LOL but in all honesty, I’m mostly to blame. If I’m having to call to psychics to see if someone loves me, I already have my answer. I have completely come to a point where I find his actions disgusting, so hey that’s some closure for me!
I think we all need to get good and disgusted. That is where I am trying to get to. You mentioned a while back when you first found out about this girl how you were taken aback and felt grossed out and I remember thinking I needed to feel the same.
I am doing everything in my power to feel repulsed by this guy lol. I hope it works and I hope we can all get to that level.
We all deserve that closure.
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I honestly don't even want to know if my first POI is with someone else, I really don't. I just take his lack of communication and behavior while I knew him as closure...that's just me though lol.
If he is with someone else though, she has my sympathies LOL.
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I just want to vent to someone, and feel like I don’t have many people to turn to that I can unload on. Hoping I can get some good vibes and well-wishes from you guys. I was feeling much better the past couple of weeks, until yesterday and today.
All of my readers keep mentioning that my most recent ex is returning. A majority of them say he is the one. I just have a hard time believing this, but that’s neither here nor there. What this really boils down to is I feel so rejected and unable to connect to people.
Recently this guy started dating someone. We have been out of touch, so it’s no surprise and it really isn’t something I should be mad about. My problem is, this girl is just like a step up from a stripper. Literally. She has a picture of her on public social media with her fake boobs showing drinking straight from a bottle of jack daniels. I’m not one to judge but, y’all. I do not understand it at all. He is a grown adult who I would assume wants to settle down. They have met each other’s families, introduced their kids, like fully committed to a serious relationship.
My mentality at this point isn’t even about him. I’m more just at a loss for why my “happily ever after” never comes, and I get left for this. I am not someone who nags, I’m not jealous, I’m a good mom and provide a good life for my daughter and I, and I am attractive... I. Do. Not. Get. It. Obviously I am not going to be everyone’s cup of tea, I’m not perfect nor the best there is out there understandably. But eventually can’t I be SOMEBODY’S preference?! Does anyone else get this?
I went through a very abusive relationship previously, it’s been about 5 years since I left. And I guess I’m just getting to a point that I have been through enough bad, I finally want some good to come into life. Psychics have just been something I’ve turned to for hope, but it’s starting to crush the little hope I had left.
The part where you said why your happily ever after never comes..... I feel you. I KEEP WONDERING THE SAME THING. It is a horrible feeling. I thought i was the only one feeling like that sometimes.
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I honestly don't even want to know if my first POI is with someone else, I really don't. I just take his lack of communication and behavior while I knew him as closure...that's just me though lol.
If he is with someone else though, she has my sympathies LOL.
Haha! I hear ya! I feel like if I didn’t know I would still be holding on to that, “well he has a lot going on and isn’t quite ready” mentality. Which let’s be honest is BS, but it still somehow makes us keep hope.
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The part where you said why your happily ever after never comes..... I feel you. I KEEP WONDERING THE SAME THING. It is a horrible feeling. I thought i was the only one feeling like that sometimes.
I’m sorry you feel that way too. Sometimes it can seem like everyone has it together but you. I guess it’s comforting in a way to know there are plenty others out there in the same boat. Wishing you the same happiness we all deserve.
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I honestly don't even want to know if my first POI is with someone else, I really don't. I just take his lack of communication and behavior while I knew him as closure...that's just me though lol.
If he is with someone else though, she has my sympathies LOL.
Haha! I hear ya! I feel like if I didn’t know I would still be holding on to that, “well he has a lot going on and isn’t quite ready” mentality. Which let’s be honest is BS, but it still somehow makes us keep hope.
Such BS most of the time..that's why a lot of people have their POIs move ahead with someone else.
honestly, unless there is something earth shattering going on in a guy's life, or they are a total player, they will move ahead with someone they want to be with...I just feel that's the reality of it.
Was just browsing Instagram, and saw this:
"If he can goes hours or days without speaking to you, chances are you are not a priority to him. Do yourself a favor and bow out. Never wait around to be chosen"...
So damn true.
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I honestly don't even want to know if my first POI is with someone else, I really don't. I just take his lack of communication and behavior while I knew him as closure...that's just me though lol.
If he is with someone else though, she has my sympathies LOL.
Haha! I hear ya! I feel like if I didn’t know I would still be holding on to that, “well he has a lot going on and isn’t quite ready” mentality. Which let’s be honest is BS, but it still somehow makes us keep hope.
Such BS most of the time..that's why a lot of people have their POIs move ahead with someone else.
honestly, unless there is something earth shattering going on in a guy's life, or they are a total player, they will move ahead with someone they want to be with...I just feel that's the reality of it.
Right! I think the thing that messed me up is there IS something earth shattering going on in his life, so if I didn’t have this I would have kept rationalizing. Regardless, he’s shown me his true colors. Just got to move it along now!
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I honestly don't even want to know if my first POI is with someone else, I really don't. I just take his lack of communication and behavior while I knew him as closure...that's just me though lol.
If he is with someone else though, she has my sympathies LOL.
Haha! I hear ya! I feel like if I didn’t know I would still be holding on to that, “well he has a lot going on and isn’t quite ready” mentality. Which let’s be honest is BS, but it still somehow makes us keep hope.
Such BS most of the time..that's why a lot of people have their POIs move ahead with someone else.
honestly, unless there is something earth shattering going on in a guy's life, or they are a total player, they will move ahead with someone they want to be with...I just feel that's the reality of it.
Was just browsing Instagram, and saw this:
"If he can goes hours or days without speaking to you, chances are you are not a priority to him. Do yourself a favor and bow out. Never wait around to be chosen"...
So damn true.
This is so fkn true! I wish we had like buttons.
Like I told my ex, if you can look at a friend’s snap story you can shoot me a quick hello text. You just don’t give a fuck.
We show people how they can treat us.
Likewise, people show us who they are. Believe them.
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I honestly don't even want to know if my first POI is with someone else, I really don't. I just take his lack of communication and behavior while I knew him as closure...that's just me though lol.
If he is with someone else though, she has my sympathies LOL.
This is exactly how I feel about my recent ex. He seems to think he is the greatest catch ever, constantly brought up his exes who still want to be with him. Took me awhile but I'm like damn they can have you. You are A LOT to handle....
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I just want to vent to someone, and feel like I don’t have many people to turn to that I can unload on. Hoping I can get some good vibes and well-wishes from you guys. I was feeling much better the past couple of weeks, until yesterday and today.
All of my readers keep mentioning that my most recent ex is returning. A majority of them say he is the one. I just have a hard time believing this, but that’s neither here nor there. What this really boils down to is I feel so rejected and unable to connect to people.
Recently this guy started dating someone. We have been out of touch, so it’s no surprise and it really isn’t something I should be mad about. My problem is, this girl is just like a step up from a stripper. Literally. She has a picture of her on public social media with her fake boobs showing drinking straight from a bottle of jack daniels. I’m not one to judge but, y’all. I do not understand it at all. He is a grown adult who I would assume wants to settle down. They have met each other’s families, introduced their kids, like fully committed to a serious relationship.
My mentality at this point isn’t even about him. I’m more just at a loss for why my “happily ever after” never comes, and I get left for this. I am not someone who nags, I’m not jealous, I’m a good mom and provide a good life for my daughter and I, and I am attractive... I. Do. Not. Get. It. Obviously I am not going to be everyone’s cup of tea, I’m not perfect nor the best there is out there understandably. But eventually can’t I be SOMEBODY’S preference?! Does anyone else get this?
I went through a very abusive relationship previously, it’s been about 5 years since I left. And I guess I’m just getting to a point that I have been through enough bad, I finally want some good to come into life. Psychics have just been something I’ve turned to for hope, but it’s starting to crush the little hope I had left.
Hi Lpoche! Not sure how I missed this thread recently, but just read through it and there are some great posts on here!
If it’s any consolation, I can absolutely relate to how you feel, it’s similar to how I feel in my situation. For me, not being wanted fully by my POI has brought up deep-seated issues with feeling rejected. Having never been married and good relationships coming along less often now, I struggle with feeling fundamentally unlovable - even though logically I know that’s ludicrous. My last relationship was on the toxic/abusive side too and I stayed longer that I should have - it definitely highlights my inability to let things go easily even if it’s damaging to me.
I am really sorry that you are struggling with some similar issues - I don’t think I can give any better advice than what’s been given already, so I will just say know you are not alone and hopefully we can all help each other to have strength to fully let go of negative feelings which don’t serve us well, and to keep the faith that someone better WILL come along, because someone who can walk away easily is ultimately not someone who would be a good partner anyway.
Hugs to you!!
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Jen, thanks so much for this message, such sweet sentiments and very well said. Sometimes no advice is needed, just knowing there are others out there in similar places who understand is more than enough. I'm going to spend a few hours at the spa today and hope to come out refreshed and ready for a new week :) I wish you all the healing I hope to get and send hugs right back your way!
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Just wanted to update everyone. I’ve read with all of the big readers, they all said this guy was coming back, he and this girl would fizzle out in September/October etc. I’ve wasted soooo much more money than I’d even like to admit. All to say, I found out today she’s pregnant. She got pregnant in July, one month after they started dating. None of these readers warned me. NONE. I’m absolutely sick, and truly believe everyone is fake.
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Sending you ❤️❤️❤️❤️.
I’m so sorry this happened.
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so sorry....:(
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Just wanted to update everyone. I’ve read with all of the big readers, they all said this guy was coming back, he and this girl would fizzle out in September/October etc. I’ve wasted soooo much more money than I’d even like to admit. All to say, I found out today she’s pregnant. She got pregnant in July, one month after they started dating. None of these readers warned me. NONE. I’m absolutely sick, and truly believe everyone is fake.
I'm so sorry Lp1111. I truly believe the same thing. I believe we just aren't supposed to know certain things about our future. Big hugs. I can't imagine how devastated you must be.
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Thanks guys. It’s going to be a tough road for a bit. I’ve been having a lot of really bad curveballs thrown my way lately. I appreciate your support 💞
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Ugh that is awful - I would be sick as well. Lesser things have thrown me into a spiral. I am thinking of you and I am seeing this as the universe telling you something better is on the way for you <3 HUGS
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I’m so sorry lp. Hopefully this Tower, or however you want to describe it, will open the door for positive things to come in the future. In tarot, the Star comes right after the Tower. The Star is all about inspiration, renewed hope and faith and feeling blessed by the universe. There’s some rough energy out there right now, lots of Five of Pentacles emotions circulating. :-/
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Thanks guys. I hope so because right now it seems the universe is conspiring against me.
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It's all temporary and you will get through this.. patience is the key always :)
Hugs
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I’m happy to announce I may have jumped the gun on posting that everyone was wrong. I will update the thread on each of the readers, but my POI and his “baby momma” broke up the other night. At this point I am unsure if she was lying about being pregnant or if the baby isn’t his, but something very dramatic happened and they have deleted any trace of their relationship from social media, blocked each other, etc. I still haven’t spoken to him, so I’m not sure all of the predictions will be coming true, but a lot of people did pinpoint this breakup. I just did not see this happening after last week. Also - this sounds like a soap opera 😬🤦🏽♀️
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I’m happy to announce I may have jumped the gun on posting that everyone was wrong. I will update the thread on each of the readers, but my POI and his “baby momma” broke up the other night. At this point I am unsure if she was lying about being pregnant or if the baby isn’t his, but something very dramatic happened and they have deleted any trace of their relationship from social media, blocked each other, etc. I still haven’t spoken to him, so I’m not sure all of the predictions will be coming true, but a lot of people did pinpoint this breakup. I just did not see this happening after last week. Also - this sounds like a soap opera 😬🤦🏽♀️
Whoa! I'm waiting to hear more updates.
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Wow 🤞 for you on this.
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Sounds like they're the ones having a rough week now. ;)
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Lol yes! Don’t worry fidget, I think maybe it’s my turn to start a chronicles stream 😝
Thanks guys. I’m not sure what/if I want anything to come out of this, but for now I’m pretty satisfied that things have turned around.
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Lol yes! Don’t worry fidget, I think maybe it’s my turn to start a chronicles stream 😝
Thanks guys. I’m not sure what/if I want anything to come out of this, but for now I’m pretty satisfied that things have turned around.
Good, because my chronicles are at a standstill. I need to live vicariously through others at the moment. Lol