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Metaphysical, Spiritual and Psychic Discussions => Keen.com => Topic started by: Love-33 on May 19, 2017, 07:45:03 PM
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Hello all :)
Sorry I know this is probably not the right place to ask this, but as this section is the most read then I thought I'd post it here. I'm starting to have doubts on my boyfriend.
He used to be dating a girl when he was in Australia for a few weeks while he was on long holiday there ( before we started being in a relationship which is pretty recent). Bummer, she was only an expat there and is now back in the U.K. Apparently, they catched up!
I saw this conversation on his phone while he was in the shower:
Her: sorry I may have forgotten to say thank you for the drinks and dinner so...thank you very much.
Him: you're welcome! It was fun catching up. When you get a job you can buy me a drink ( :P). Let's do it again sometime. Goodnight x
Be honest... does it look only friendly to you or does it look like he is interested in reconnection romantically with her
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Doesn't sound like anything happened. Sounds like he's keeping her in the wings just in case. Are you guys having any problems?
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I agree. It sounds like it was just a friendly meeting. However, he should have told you about it BUT you shouldn't be snooping on his phone either. You need to trust him!
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Doesn't sound like anything happened. Sounds like he's keeping her in the wings just in case. Are you guys having any problems?
Well, he apparently paid for her drinks and dinner. If he didn't like her he wouldn't have offered that. Nor would he have suggested seeing her again after this catch up.
This is enough to hurt me.
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If I were you I'd be open about it. Just confess you snooped on his phone, that it was totally inapropriate, but that you are having some weird feelings regarding him seeing that girl. Try and speak from your own emotions, not like you should have this or you that....just say I feel like, or it makes me feel insecure or ..... well you get the idea. If you dont discuss this, this will stand between you and will probably go down hill. If there's no trust there's basically no foundation
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Doesn't sound like anything happened. Sounds like he's keeping her in the wings just in case. Are you guys having any problems?
Well, he apparently paid for her drinks and dinner. If he didn't like her he wouldn't have offered that. Nor would he have suggested seeing her again after this catch up.
This is enough to hurt me.
I'd be freaking out as well so you're normal. I agree you should just sit down and talk with him rationally. He said "let's do it again sometime". That doesn't mean he's interested in her. Just ask him if you're exclusive and if he says no, then you get your butt out there and date someone and let him know about it :)
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I couldn't wait to see him again, I actually just called him. Well to me that's pretty clear. He said:
- I shouldn't have looked his phone
- it was a friendly meeting and nothin happened, just a friendly catch up. But then I asked him why does he plan to "do it again sometime"? (It's not like it was an old friend of his, I would have understood, but here in this case they used to DATE !)He said that (I'm devastated):
" well, maybe because now that she is back I'm confused"
I said: be honest... you like her don't you. Not many people want to see people they have dated in the past again unless they still like them or at least are curious about them and still have some interest".
He said: I wish you wouldnt have seen that. But now that you have, the only thing I can say is I'm lost and confused.
I hung up. I may sound like a crazy person but seriously I don't want to deal with guys like that anymore
Conclusion: my guts were right. I mean it wasn't too hard to guess it. Any man that wants to meet up with a person they used to date and then, after that meet up suggest doing it again, it's obvious that they still have at least a bit of interest
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:( sorry hon.
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So sorry :-( but at least you had the courage to confront him! Major respect for you!! Many of us would be scared to hear what their guts was telling them and therefor dont confront them at all. At least you have enough self worth. Even though it sucks and hurts like hell
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Always listen to your gut........we are more perceptive than we think. Been there in the exact situation. And my intuition was right on. So sorry hon!
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Thanks all... I'm very sad but I'm glad this is happening now (only two months of dating) rather than later.
I'm trying to tell myself that he hasn't cheated but at least I saved myself from being with someone who seemed to want starting to double date and then pick his favorite (I hate double dating).
Even though his date with her was friendly, the fact that he wanted to see her again seemed too weird to me. I call it double dating still. Again, she was not an old friend of his, or anything like that. So to me, they went on an actual date and seems like it looked like it (he paid for her drinks, her dinner... how cool it must have been for her. I'm pretty sure he didn't even tell her he was already dating someone).
Anyway I need to change my mind. Just booked a flight to spend a few days with my family at my hometown. Im leaving tomorrow and will be back in London on tuesday.
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Thanks all... I'm very sad but I'm glad this is happening now (only two months of dating) rather than later.
I'm trying to tell myself that he hasn't cheated but at least I saved myself from being with someone who seemed to want starting to double date and then pick his favorite (I hate double dating).
Even though his date with her was friendly, the fact that he wanted to see her again seemed too weird to me. I call it double dating still. Again, she was not an old friend of his, or anything like that. So to me, they went on an actual date and seems like it looked like it (he paid for her drinks, her dinner... how cool it must have been for her. I'm pretty sure he didn't even tell her he was already dating someone).
Anyway I need to change my mind. Just booked a flight to spend a few days with my family at my hometown. Im leaving tomorrow and will be back in London on tuesday.
The fact he didn't tell you about seeing her tells you something too. :(
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Thanks all... I'm very sad but I'm glad this is happening now (only two months of dating) rather than later.
I'm trying to tell myself that he hasn't cheated but at least I saved myself from being with someone who seemed to want starting to double date and then pick his favorite (I hate double dating).
Even though his date with her was friendly, the fact that he wanted to see her again seemed too weird to me. I call it double dating still. Again, she was not an old friend of his, or anything like that. So to me, they went on an actual date and seems like it looked like it (he paid for her drinks, her dinner... how cool it must have been for her. I'm pretty sure he didn't even tell her he was already dating someone).
Anyway I need to change my mind. Just booked a flight to spend a few days with my family at my hometown. Im leaving tomorrow and will be back in London on tuesday.
The fact he didn't tell you about seeing her tells you something too. :(
Exactly!
(If he did, I would never have agreed anyway lol. What? Catching up with someone you used to date? No way. No point ! unless some interest is-obviously- still here )
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Man, this sucks. I hope it works out for you.
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Also I think I'm overthinking now but when I re-read their conversation... this "Let's do it again sometime. Goodnight x " appears too friendly to me. to send this to a woman with that little cute "x" at the end... this is too cute. I mean none of my male friends say goodbye to me this way.
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Yep too friendly and wants more it seems, left it open for her to come back,.
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Way too friendly. Should have told you about it. Sending a kiss is flirty. They are planning to do it again. He has already shown interest in her, her in him.
Run like the wind, girl, and don't look back.
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Run like the wind, girl, and don't look back.
Ditto to this!!!!
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I'm trying to tell myself that he hasn't cheated but at least I saved myself from being with someone who seemed to want starting to double date and then pick his favorite (I hate double dating).
Yeah, he was going to double date if she had shown interest in having him back.
You are doing the right thing.
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So you guys don't think he is just keeping her around as a plan B in case it doesn't work out with Love-33? That he's definitely going to try to date her at the same time? Just seeing if that's the consensus here. I could be naive.
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So you guys don't think he is just keeping her around as a plan B in case it doesn't work out with Love-33? That he's definitely going to try to date her at the same time? Just seeing if that's the consensus here. I could be naive.
i think he was trying to have his cake and eat it too, if he could get away with it.
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Even if he was just keeping his options open, he shouldn't have hid it from her. That in addition to buying her dinner and drinks and suggesting another meeting....it's enough for me not to trust the guy. I'd be out
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Even if he was just keeping his options open, he shouldn't have hid it from her. That in addition to buying her dinner and drinks and suggesting another meeting....it's enough for me not to trust the guy. I'd be out
Exactly.
I mean would you guys like your guy to invite a girl out for drinks and dinner? And then tell her they should go out again? If you don't mind, then you're weird lol. He is definitely still interested in this girl
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So you guys don't think he is just keeping her around as a plan B in case it doesn't work out with Love-33? That he's definitely going to try to date her at the same time? Just seeing if that's the consensus here. I could be naive.
So inviting someone out for drinks and dinner is not a date for you? It's definitely a date. This girl was not an old friend of his. It's different: they were dating a few months ago. Yes you're Naive lol
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Hey I'm so sorry that happened to you. I can imagine how hurt you must be from that now. I hope you are able to heal and move on to someone who doesn't do something like that and treats you better
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Hey love 33, don't trust this guy ever again. If you guys were in committed relationship he has already shown his true nature. He is just probably been dating you without any serious intentions about future (sorry if I say it hard). May be it was too early for both of you to come to the next level? When I met my BF (now husband) he told me he s in touch with his ex coz she owe him money (thousands of dollars for a car loan through bank under his name). She was paying him little by little every month but could take many years.... But what he had not told me that they were regular in touch. I caught their texts. Ours was also a bit fresh relationship. He clearly said to me he cannot leave her friendship. I was so hurt. But I decided to continue relationship and also tried a bit to keep my options open or at least not too much emotionally attached to him and it took him about 6-7 months to write her a text.... Don't ever text me again my GF does not like it. Just send the money on my address. I can't hurt my GF ( I secretly read their conversations). Sometimes it takes time to built a relationship to a certain level and to bring 100% commitment to table. May be don't break up with him may be bring on the table your relationship boundaries, expectations, clear communication, specificity about being exclusive in all aspects. Emotional development does need sometime. Because this can happen in any relationship and we can't just always run from issues and breakups are not the only issues. Let him come to you and then ask him to be clear and specific. About his and yours needs. If you like him a lot try to meet up and have an open conversation
A few months dating is still a long way to go. I am not taking his side just being how I honestly I feel. If he clearly crossed the boundaries then yes he's not a right guy but honestly your fears are correct. I would also add try meeting him face to face rather then calling. Its important to have eye contacts for such conversations. Best of luck.
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Hey love 33, don't trust this guy ever again. If you guys were in committed relationship he has already shown his true nature. He is just probably been dating you without any serious intentions about future (sorry if I say it hard). May be it was too early for both of you to come to the next level? When I met my BF (now husband) he told me he s in touch with his ex coz she owe him money (thousands of dollars for a car loan through bank under his name). She was paying him little by little every month but could take many years.... But what he had not told me that they were regular in touch. I caught their texts. Ours was also a bit fresh relationship. He clearly said to me he cannot leave her friendship. I was so hurt. But I decided to continue relationship and also tried a bit to keep my options open or at least not too much emotionally attached to him and it took him about 6-7 months to write her a text.... Don't ever text me again my GF does not like it. Just send the money on my address. I can't hurt my GF ( I secretly read their conversations). Sometimes it takes time to built a relationship to a certain level and to bring 100% commitment to table. May be don't break up with him may be bring on the table your relationship boundaries, expectations, clear communication, specificity about being exclusive in all aspects. Emotional development does need sometime. Because this can happen in any relationship and we can't just always run from issues and breakups are not the only issues. Let him come to you and then ask him to be clear and specific. About his and yours needs. If you like him a lot try to meet up and have an open conversation
A few months dating is still a long way to go. I am not taking his side just being how I honestly I feel. If he clearly crossed the boundaries then yes he's not a right guy but honestly your fears are correct. I would also add try meeting him face to face rather then calling. Its important to have eye contacts for such conversations. Best of luck.
We met up yesterday I went to his place. Nothing happened we just talked and when he went to the bathroom he received a text message, it was her. I just looked at the screen and they are meeting up next Monday (which is a public holiday in the U.K.). He preferred to plan something with her than me.
I literally left. I just don't want to try to be with someone who is not 100% into me and is planning dates with another woman.
And he hasn't even tried to contact me afterwards except that: "you left, ok you should have said something at least. All the best"
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I know this situation must be very heartbreaking for you but you should cut him off for your own good , if during that time he figures out what he wants and he comes back you can decide then if you want him. Right now it's best to love yourself and be good to yourself and eliminate things that make you feel bad or sad
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We met up yesterday I went to his place. Nothing happened we just talked and when he went to the bathroom he received a text message, it was her. I just looked at the screen and they are meeting up next Monday (which is a public holiday in the U.K.). He preferred to plan something with her than me.
I literally left. I just don't want to try to be with someone who is not 100% into me and is planning dates with another woman.
And he hasn't even tried to contact me afterwards except that: "you left, ok you should have said something at least. All the best"
What a jerk. Leave him in the trash where he belongs.
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man, dating is hard but he isn't a jerk. Has he said he wanted to be exclusive with you? Many people date at the same time and yes it looks like you were one of two options (that you know of).
If i were you I would have just been honest and said that you saw the text from the corner of your eye and want to know where you stand because you can better use your time with someone who is more interested if he isnt.
Anyways, it's done now and you have your answer. Remember, you could also be put in that situation where you're still trying to figure out who you would rather spend your time with. It doesn't mean that they are bad people, it just means that the connection isnt strong enough, you'll find a better one :.
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I'm so sorry this happened..but good thing it's only a couple of months its not like you guys have been together for years and you just found that out.
Just curious were any of the psychics right about this?
I didn't have any readings about this... I decided to stop readings a little while ago after being so disappointed and hurt by their misleading
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Even if he was just keeping his options open, he shouldn't have hid it from her. That in addition to buying her dinner and drinks and suggesting another meeting....it's enough for me not to trust the guy. I'd be out
agreed 100%. sorry this happened to you Love-33, what a bummer...well on to bigger and better :)
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Even if he was just keeping his options open, he shouldn't have hid it from her. That in addition to buying her dinner and drinks and suggesting another meeting....it's enough for me not to trust the guy. I'd be out
agreed 100%. sorry this happened to you Love-33, what a bummer...well on to bigger and better :)
Thanks. I don't even feel sadness but I'm just disgusted and angry. Because for example when he used to go out with his friends, like a late night, then he used to tell me that he couldn't meet up the following day because he would be hungover and tired. Whereas for this girl, the guy goes to a two-day event in London this weekend and then the Monday is a public holiday, he doesn't say the same to her! he simply said "I'll be so Tired after partying at this two-day event so can we play it by ear? Perhaps do something low key".
Lol. Two days of hard partying and he still is keen to meet her and do something low key but when it's me, he says no straight away
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Even if he was just keeping his options open, he shouldn't have hid it from her. That in addition to buying her dinner and drinks and suggesting another meeting....it's enough for me not to trust the guy. I'd be out
agreed 100%. sorry this happened to you Love-33, what a bummer...well on to bigger and better :)
Thanks. I don't even feel sadness but I'm just disgusted and angry. Because for example when he used to go out with his friends, like a late night, then he used to tell me that he couldn't meet up the following day because he would be hungover and tired. Whereas for this girl, the guy goes to a two-day event in London this weekend and then the Monday is a public holiday, he doesn't say the same to her! he simply said "I'll be so Tired after partying at this two-day event so can we play it by ear? Perhaps do something low key".
Lol. Two days of hard partying and he still is keen to meet her and do something low key but when it's me, he says no straight away
ugh men can be such jerks, I swear. well I agree with others that say best you learn now rather than later on.
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Even if he was just keeping his options open, he shouldn't have hid it from her. That in addition to buying her dinner and drinks and suggesting another meeting....it's enough for me not to trust the guy. I'd be out
agreed 100%. sorry this happened to you Love-33, what a bummer...well on to bigger and better :)
Thanks. I don't even feel sadness but I'm just disgusted and angry. Because for example when he used to go out with his friends, like a late night, then he used to tell me that he couldn't meet up the following day because he would be hungover and tired. Whereas for this girl, the guy goes to a two-day event in London this weekend and then the Monday is a public holiday, he doesn't say the same to her! he simply said "I'll be so Tired after partying at this two-day event so can we play it by ear? Perhaps do something low key".
Lol. Two days of hard partying and he still is keen to meet her and do something low key but when it's me, he says no straight away
ugh men can be such jerks, I swear. well I agree with others that say best you learn now rather than later on.
Yeah. Well he doesn't act like a jerk with her so maybe it's only jealousy that I'm feeling at the moment
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Even if he was just keeping his options open, he shouldn't have hid it from her. That in addition to buying her dinner and drinks and suggesting another meeting....it's enough for me not to trust the guy. I'd be out
agreed 100%. sorry this happened to you Love-33, what a bummer...well on to bigger and better :)
Thanks. I don't even feel sadness but I'm just disgusted and angry. Because for example when he used to go out with his friends, like a late night, then he used to tell me that he couldn't meet up the following day because he would be hungover and tired. Whereas for this girl, the guy goes to a two-day event in London this weekend and then the Monday is a public holiday, he doesn't say the same to her! he simply said "I'll be so Tired after partying at this two-day event so can we play it by ear? Perhaps do something low key".
Lol. Two days of hard partying and he still is keen to meet her and do something low key but when it's me, he says no straight away
ugh men can be such jerks, I swear. well I agree with others that say best you learn now rather than later on.
Yeah. Well he doesn't act like a jerk with her so maybe it's only jealousy that I'm feeling at the moment
not that you know of...
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That is so true. For some reason women believe the man will treat the other girl like a queen. It doesn't happen. A leopard can't change its spots anymore than a jerk can. At some point and some time that man will mistreat that woman the same way he did you, so you should see it as a bullet dodged.
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That is so true. For some reason women believe the man will treat the other girl like a queen. It doesn't happen. A leopard can't change its spots anymore than a jerk can. At some point and some time that man will mistreat that woman the same way he did you, so you should see it as a bullet dodged.
yep!
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That is so true. For some reason women believe the man will treat the other girl like a queen. It doesn't happen. A leopard can't change its spots anymore than a jerk can. At some point and some time that man will mistreat that woman the same way he did you, so you should see it as a bullet dodged.
Very true. I know women who want a married man or a man with a girlfriend, thinking the asshole won't eventually cheat on/deceive them too. It's like HELLO?! Wake the F up!
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Out of all the assholes I've dated, not one has been married or already had a girlfriend that I know of.
I've never understand why anyone would date a married guy knowing that they were married. The chances of them giving up their wife and children to be with a girl they sleep with are extremely slim, and you're setting yourself up for heartbreak. And also yes, even if it did work out with them and they married you, who's to say you won't end up in the same position their ex wife ended up in?
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He has a soft spot for her that's why..it sucks.
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That is so true. For some reason women believe the man will treat the other girl like a queen. It doesn't happen. A leopard can't change its spots anymore than a jerk can. At some point and some time that man will mistreat that woman the same way he did you, so you should see it as a bullet dodged.
I don't know , some people have said that the guy treats the next women better because he finally fell in love or had stronger feelings for her compared to you.
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He has a soft spot for her that's why..it sucks.
Yes I think so too
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Out of all the assholes I've dated, not one has been married or already had a girlfriend that I know of.
I've never understand why anyone would date a married guy knowing that they were married. The chances of them giving up their wife and children to be with a girl they sleep with are extremely slim, and you're setting yourself up for heartbreak. And also yes, even if it did work out with them and they married you, who's to say you won't end up in the same position their ex wife ended up in?
Same. But the thing is, I'm pretty he didn't tell her that he was already dating me/someone. Pretty sure she didn't know.
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That is so true. For some reason women believe the man will treat the other girl like a queen. It doesn't happen. A leopard can't change its spots anymore than a jerk can. At some point and some time that man will mistreat that woman the same way he did you, so you should see it as a bullet dodged.
I don't know , some people have said that the guy treats the next women better because he finally fell in love or had stronger feelings for her compared to you.
If the guy married the first woman then he obviously had very strong feelings for her at one point. The romance in marriages often times simmers down as the years go by, which often influences the wandering eye.
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If the guy married the first woman then he obviously had very strong feelings for her at one point. The romance in marriages often times simmers down as the years go by, which often influences the wandering eye.
I disagree with some of your statement, since I know first hand men have biological clocks and they tick just as loudly as women's do and they don't always have strong feelings for the first woman they marry. Some men feel it's an obligation when the woman gets pregnant and feel the right thing to do at they time, for the child is to get married (not saying I agree with this at all) and Sometimes men feel that their luck has run out and that's all they can get at a certain point. Also, some men (just like women) are married to the ideal of marriage, but still don't commit and fool around, a lot. It's just different for different people.
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If the guy married the first woman then he obviously had very strong feelings for her at one point. The romance in marriages often times simmers down as the years go by, which often influences the wandering eye.
I disagree with some of your statement, since I know first hand men have biological clocks and they tick just as loudly as women's do and they don't always have strong feelings for the first woman they marry. Some men feel it's an obligation when the woman gets pregnant and feel the right thing to do at they time, for the child is to get married (not saying I agree with this at all) and Sometimes men feel that their luck has run out and that's all they can get at a certain point. Also, some men (just like women) are married to the ideal of marriage, but still don't commit and fool around, a lot. It's just different for different people.
Everyone's situation is different, yes, but the man can also just walk away when a woman gets pregnant which I know countless people who have been in that situation. I've known a few couples who did get married due to pregnancy, and they didn't last even a year together. I'm not sure how in this day and age with all of the technology and shortcuts someone could feel they have to take what they can get. You can always meet people at this point especially with the internet and what not. That is unless you're super old-fashioned I guess.
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Out of all the assholes I've dated, not one has been married or already had a girlfriend that I know of.
I've never understand why anyone would date a married guy knowing that they were married. The chances of them giving up their wife and children to be with a girl they sleep with are extremely slim, and you're setting yourself up for heartbreak. And also yes, even if it did work out with them and they married you, who's to say you won't end up in the same position their ex wife ended up in?
Same. But the thing is, I'm pretty he didn't tell her that he was already dating me/someone. Pretty sure she didn't know.
Here's my feeling about that they got with you thinking that they were done and he had feelings for you but she came back around and sparked up his feelings he had for her. Like she's the one that got away and now she's back. :( sorry hon
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Everyone's situation is different, yes, but the man can also just walk away when a woman gets pregnant which I know countless people who have been in that situation. I've known a few couples who did get married due to pregnancy, and they didn't last even a year together. I'm not sure how in this day and age with all of the technology and shortcuts someone could feel they have to take what they can get. You can always meet people at this point especially with the internet and what not. That is unless you're super old-fashioned I guess.
Many people do feel that way based on how they look or thinking/believing they don't have much to offer.
Or if you're super ugly or just have very poor hygiene, those are reasons you can't find anyone. I helped this friend with her quicky dating events and one was for a lock/key thing...the people that would come out to meet someone. I could only pity them. I know plenty of single women wanting a guy and to get married, the entire deal of a dream. I know this one chick who at the age of 38, I think she is now, she still lives with her parents. She is set on one type of particular guy and just have no clue about what is involved with dating. She is a cute girl, but just clueless.
Also, to piggyback more on your comment, I have cousins who's mother never married their father. He was and is still married to someone else. He never left his wife and fathered four children with another woman. The wife never left him either. I don't get it.
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I think when it comes to dating guys tend to date multiple women till they decide which they want to be in a relationship. Its important when we date a guy for us to ask if we are the only person they are dating or if they are dating other women. Hopefully they will be honest. If they say they are dating other women then we should keep our options open.
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I think when it comes to dating guys tend to date multiple women till they decide which they want to be in a relationship. Its important when we date a guy for us to ask if we are the only person they are dating or if they are dating other women. Hopefully they will be honest. If they say they are dating other women then we should keep our options open.
This is so fucked up lol. It's not respectful at all.
I'm originally from France and that's not how it works there
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Lol yeah it sucks , it may just be a cultural thing because here in the U.S that what usually tends to happen. It sucks that you have to ask someone if they are dating other people. You even have to ask if thy have a girlfriend because if you find out later on that they do or they were dating someone else and you scold them they will say "Oh , you never asked so I didn't say anything.
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This is so fucked up lol. It's not respectful at all.
I'm originally from France and that's not how it works there
So there is a guide book of rules on how it's suppose to work in France? I'm not knocking anything, just find it hard to believe men aren't running game everywhere.
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This is so fucked up lol. It's not respectful at all.
I'm originally from France and that's not how it works there
So there is a guide book of rules on how it's suppose to work in France? I'm not knocking anything, just find it hard to believe men aren't running game everywhere.
No, believe it or not, but American men seem to be the worst ones then.
In France and many more countries, dating doesn't even exist. You're either friends, or in a relationship, as simple as that. No games are played. There is no: "i fuck both while I decide which one I prefer".
And this "being exclusive" thing doesn't even exist. From the time you go out with the person, kiss each other like a couple and have sex, you're already exclusive. No childish games.
No wonder why people from overseas moving to the USA are always chocked when they thought they were in a relationship and the guy is like "uhhh no we are still just dating@. I hate it lol it's so fucking strange and what a lack of respect
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I always thought that I was born in the wrong era because I want the traditional relationship. I hate the social media Snapchat relationship bullshit
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I always thought that I was born in the wrong era because I want the traditional relationship. I hate the social media Snapchat relationship bullshit
I find it so hilarious to have that "being exclusive" talk.
I remember the first time I dated an American man when I was living in Boston a few years ago. After a few weeks he asked me if I wanted to be exclusive. I laughed and asked what was that? It was the first time I heard such a ridiculous thing. "Being exclusive" lmao. Like how old are you, come on. What was I to you so far, just an option? Since the beginning I believed we entered a relationship you know. I was shocked. Then I spoke to some friends that I had there at the time and they then taught me how it worked in the states. All these steps you have to go through! Dating seems like a hard task!
I'll never be enthusiastic in this way of dating. For me, from the time you start seeing someone and act like a couple (going out, kisses, sex etc...) it has to be "exclusive". I'm not an object.
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I always thought that I was born in the wrong era because I want the traditional relationship. I hate the social media Snapchat relationship bullshit
I find it so hilarious to have that "being exclusive" talk.
I remember the first time I dated an American man when I was living in Boston a few years ago. After a few weeks he asked me if I wanted to be exclusive. I laughed and asked what was that? It was the first time I heard such a ridiculous thing. "Being exclusive" lmao. Like how old are you, come on. What was I to you so far, just an option? Since the beginning I believed we entered a relationship you know. I was shocked. Then I spoke to some friends that I had there at the time and they then taught me how it worked in the states. All these steps you have to go through! Dating seems like a hard task!
I'll never be enthusiastic in this way of dating. For me, from the time you start seeing someone and act like a couple (going out, kisses, sex etc...) it has to be "exclusive". I'm not an object.
Now its not called dating it's like hanging out... so if they're with other people they can say we were just hanging out we weren't dating it's just total bullshit here.
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I always thought that I was born in the wrong era because I want the traditional relationship. I hate the social media Snapchat relationship bullshit
I find it so hilarious to have that "being exclusive" talk.
I remember the first time I dated an American man when I was living in Boston a few years ago. After a few weeks he asked me if I wanted to be exclusive. I laughed and asked what was that? It was the first time I heard such a ridiculous thing. "Being exclusive" lmao. Like how old are you, come on. What was I to you so far, just an option? Since the beginning I believed we entered a relationship you know. I was shocked. Then I spoke to some friends that I had there at the time and they then taught me how it worked in the states. All these steps you have to go through! Dating seems like a hard task!
I'll never be enthusiastic in this way of dating. For me, from the time you start seeing someone and act like a couple (going out, kisses, sex etc...) it has to be "exclusive". I'm not an object.
RUKM (are you kidding me?), I always questioned dating growing up. I use to ask if he likes me and I like him, why not just be together. What is this bs thing about waiting a certain number of days before you call, all that crap. I never knew it could like you're describing. No wonder the world is so effed up, with the way people create how things are suppose to work. It's messed up and I live/born/raised in the states.
I don't even know what you saying about the snapchat dating...do you mean as a tool to meet people, then yeah I get it, so how is it different from mainstream dating?
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I totally agree.
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I don't even know what you saying about the snapchat dating...do you mean as a tool to meet people, then yeah I get it, so how is it different from mainstream dating?
I don't know what she meant
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I don't think she meant anything specific about Snapchat dating, just as a figure of speech towards how dating works these days with social media skewing how things used to/are supposed to work.
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I don't think she meant anything specific about Snapchat dating, just as a figure of speech towards how dating works these days with social media skewing how things used to/are supposed to work.
EXACTLY my point