Thanks so much Star & Kat....Feel comfortable with where I’m at which is focusing on my work and my child and being a mom and making ends meet and trying to find time to do things I enjoy. Honestly that’s quite a lot right now. I did it before alone... I’ve done it all this time alone... I like myself and don’t feel like I want to be “out there looking” right now.
I went on a few dates with a few different men after my POI and I stopped seeing each other. but for various reasons for each I just wasn’t into them. For good reasons though! One guy seemed to have a really negative vibe and like he had just gotten out of jail. Really aggressive feeling and I ended it as quick as I could. Another guy used a derogatory minority slur. A third guy was just way too far away to really pursue (an hour and a half) for being only meh about. And the fourth just had some serious deep value differences religiously and morals. So even though I liked him I just thought nope these are things that aren’t going to fly in the long run.
So now I’m just done for a while!!
I think if I focus on some personal goals it will help boost my self confidence and maybe then I’ll get back to feeling like looking. Or I won’t.
But yes I felt like Anne was accurate as far as I can tell about the situation and it would be nice if he was thinking of me and if we could reconnect down the road... but I’m not going to pass up an attraction if something comes along. The info I keep getting from Cookie and Anne and almost every other reader I’ve thought could possibly be accurate is that he hasn’t been ready yet ... and it really makes sense to me that that could be actually true considering he and his wife had just separated 2 months before we met.
So maybe it just needs time... like Divine Love said also... so I’m really good with just going with the flow. Maybe someone else will come along for me or maybe not. I don’t know. But I’m good either way. And definitely binge-calling less and less thankfully. But still not out of the woods on that part maybe.