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Do psychic readings stop us making our own progress?

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jdd2003:
Tjoy, of course it's harder with an ex, but sometimes you just have to be a bit more rational about it. I think often the readings delay the healing process because we become of two minds instead of staying in control and moving forward. I actually think calling about an ex is really counter-productive. I know, I've been there. All it does is make you hold on to something you should be letting go of, whether it's just for now or for good

Smee, I completely agree with you on how readings should be used. But I think it's fair to say that by and large people get readngs done more often when they are in self-doubt or in a crisis. I know I do. But then I start questioning things more and more and I feel my self-esteem has been affected quite badly as I get readings. I think this happens because one becomes remote to the situation, rather than staying in it as it were.

elcaliente:
jdd,
I'm curious.  Why do you feel you are remote to the situation, when you get readings?
In my case, a reading gives me another viewpoint. It permits me to see a situation from another perspective that I am not able to know without.
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Smee, I completely agree with you on how readings should be used. But I think it's fair to say that by and large people get readngs done more often when they are in self-doubt or in a crisis. I know I do. But then I start questioning things more and more and I feel my self-esteem has been affected quite badly as I get readings. I think this happens because one becomes remote to the situation, rather than staying in it as it were.

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jdd2003:
Smee,

Been a rough week (and we're only on Wednesday- WHERE IS THE WEEKEND?!) and I have gone being on 3 second mental delay to a 4.5 second mental delay so I think I didn't express myself correctly.

What I mean is that when we get readings we somehow become less active participants in our lives because we are waiting for something to happen. For instance, is someone is told by a reader that they will be communicating with person x in a 5, the said someone is likely to sit back and become more passive and wait for this event to occur. Instead of living in the now, readings usually lead to people living through the reading. It's just human nature. If someone is told you will speak to so and so in a 2, then that person waits for it to happen. Operative word...waits. If you didn't know that, is it not more likely that you would initiate the conversation yourself?

I just personally feel that readings have taken a lot away from me in terms of being in control of my life and my happiness. I started speaking to psychics in a very difficult point in my life when I was incredibly ill and no one was able to help me. I'd rather not go into detail, but understandably my self-esteem and confidence were shattered. Being at a happy and healthy good point in my life now, I have noticed in the last few months that taking control makes me so much happier. I don't need a (possible) psychic to tell me I will speak to the guy I'm casually seeing now in a 1 because I just get hung up on am I going to hear from him instead of being normal and communicating with him when I want to

elcaliente:
jdd,

I think some circumstances might be quite different than others.  I don't know that I view a reader giving me a "1" for contact as an incentive to "wait" and not make a call myself, because in my circumstance I don't have the option to make contact.  That's not to say that I don't have a phone or active fingers to make the call, mind you, my limitation is because I sense the current mental state of the subject of my desires and I weigh whether contact from me is advisable or not.  Some of that information is garnered from my readings, other is garnered from a history with the individual.

No one in my umpteen readings has ever suggested I not contact.  I have posed the question and received answers like "it might not be advisable" or "it would be better not to", but ultimately the choice is mine.  And I make it based upon a couple of criteria:  How I am feeling in terms of what does my inner voice tell me to do; how I sense he is feeling and what the reader's assessment of the current situation is.  At no time do I disregard any of the three criteria when deciding what I should or should not do.

Although I do know what you are suggesting.  If indivdual A is told that individual B is going to do such and such on date C, then I see that there could be a potential for individual A to change nothing, so that such and such occurs as predicted on date C.  And I can see when that does occur.  I think the only thing I can underscore in this discourse is that the psychic reading is  simply a tool and should not outweigh any intuition or message that you hear from your inner voice.  Psychics are human, they have foibles just like the rest of us, and good ones will always tell you that if something feels right to act on it, even if it contraverts the information they have given you.
--- Quote from: jdd2003 on September 19, 2012, 08:03:54 PM ---Smee,

Been a rough week (and we're only on Wednesday- WHERE IS THE WEEKEND?!) and I have gone being on 3 second mental delay to a 4.5 second mental delay so I think I didn't express myself correctly.

What I mean is that when we get readings we somehow become less active participants in our lives because we are waiting for something to happen. For instance, is someone is told by a reader that they will be communicating with person x in a 5, the said someone is likely to sit back and become more passive and wait for this event to occur. Instead of living in the now, readings usually lead to people living through the reading. It's just human nature. If someone is told you will speak to so and so in a 2, then that person waits for it to happen. Operative word...waits. If you didn't know that, is it not more likely that you would initiate the conversation yourself?

I just personally feel that readings have taken a lot away from me in terms of being in control of my life and my happiness. I started speaking to psychics in a very difficult point in my life when I was incredibly ill and no one was able to help me. I'd rather not go into detail, but understandably my self-esteem and confidence were shattered. Being at a happy and healthy good point in my life now, I have noticed in the last few months that taking control makes me so much happier. I don't need a (possible) psychic to tell me I will speak to the guy I'm casually seeing now in a 1 because I just get hung up on am I going to hear from him instead of being normal and communicating with him when I want to

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jdd2003:
Smee, I completely agree. However, I think you're in a better position than most in that case. i think if things are generally going well it's easier to use readings as a tool. On the contrary, when things are rough, like just after a break up, it's harder to do that and the readings start dictating behaviour or lack thereof. If someone told me yes I could contact someone, but it's not advisable (which by the way in my current situation someone did and luckily I ignored that advice), I would still question it and spend my time questioning is it right or wrong, instead of just going for it. I think unless you're in a good place in your life, it's better to stay away from depending on readings.

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