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cj:


me and this guy fell for each other now I feel like all hope is lost for us. 

positivethoughts:
Wow Cjean. I don't even know what to say except I can only imagine how much that must have hurt. Does he know how upset you are? Does he know you are in love with him?

fm:
geez, like what you say in the other post, you have tons of guys waiting for u, maybe just have fun hang out and see what happens, enjoy yourself.

cj:
well I haven't decided what I would do. But yeah in a way I have forgiven him. I need to for myself. It was draining my energy and happiness. I was letting someone else's problem become my own. It wasn't worth it. But forgiving doesn't mean being naive. Love doesn't come with an instruction manual. I have def moved on and fast! lol. You can forgive someone but that doesn't mean you should tolerate everything... We don't have to tolerate what people do just because we forgive them for doing it. Forgiving heals us personally. To tolerate everything only hurts us all in the long run.

Donna told me something so inspiring from her reading. She said: despite the seemingly difficult path  that you've chosen you have to keep going and be open for the unexpected that is against you. Ne calm and patient and its time to start expecting good news.

I know its hard to believe because none of us has come with our great stories of success, but whatever happens...I know that I have my power back. He does mean a lot to me and maybe I do look stupid for forgivinghim, but I am healing myself, and allowing this situation to empower me! Not him or her! So in  the end I will always come out victorious.
 

cj:
 I went on a date with my sm for my bday on Fri the 12th (Abrielle tole me last month that he would pour his heart out on Feb13th. She was a day late but very right. Then Winter and Tatiana told me that on the 2nd week of Feb. he would tell me he cared about me but that his choices have made things complicated. And they were right! Tonight he definitely opened up and told me that he cared about me and he doesn't want to hurt me and he doesn't mean the messed up things he's said when we fought last week. He kissed me on my forehead and played with my hair while dishing his true feelings. So.........finally..not much but a start! + some real predictions that finally came true that I did not expect!

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