how am i stealing from them when I PAID them ?? and i guess it makes more sense for me to read with fairy tale than accuate readers right? keep wasting more money.
And I did not give them thumbs down. Only time will tell if they are accurate or not. Because i have other readers who are telling me the opposite outcome as the ' negative ' readers.
if doesnt matter what rating you give. what matters is who is right on the outcome. I have given facebook readers five stars and they turned out to be wrong {and yes they are reputable readers} or changed their reading. I have given people FIVE stars on etsy and they turn out to be wrong.
You have said multiple times that you don't pay a lot of the readers, in particular the ones who don't tell you what you want to hear. Bitwine offers three free minutes yes, but those minutes are not supposed to be used for entirely free readings and to bounce reader to reader without paying. Readers see it as you stealing/wasting their time, keeping them from paying clients.... and even call people like you "freebie abusers". They likely block you so you can't come back and steal their time, and some will report you. Excessive abuse of the three minutes might get you blocked from the site as well. I have heard bitwine readers mention they can see some kind of payment reputation status, and if you have a lot of unpaid calls and you show as being poor in payment (it is either poor or low, not sure the exact label), many won't want to take you. So though those three minutes are there, if you abuse that offer, and forget that you are talking to real people behind the screen, it will backfire on you. However, I think at this point it would be a good thing if you get banned, you obviously are not in a healthy pattern or mindset.
As for the ratings. Even when you give the satisfactory ratings it brings down the ranking and rating of the readers on the site and makes them less appealing to other clients, so it hurts their business reputation. So yes, you are punishing them. You also are clearly leaving thumbs up for the readers who tell you what you want to hear, and the satisfactory feedbacks for all those who don't tell you what you want to hear.... so you are clearly biased and punishing the readers, and abusing the rating system due to your self-denial. If you truly wanted to be non-biased and base ratings purely off if what they tell you turns out to be true, then you would not leave a rating at all and wait for the outcomes. It is obvious you just want readers who will feed into your obsession rather than tell you something true.
Here is the thing. There are many "readers" who tell people what they think they want to hear, regardless of the real circumstances. They tell people the man is your twin flame, soulmate, is in love with you but too scared to face it yet, will magically reappear and marry you etc.....they feed you that fantasy because some people (like you) eat it up regardless if it at all relates to the real situation, and also because it protects them against negative ratings from people who don't want to hear anything but what they want to hear (again like you). By going around rewarding the ones who tell you glitter fluff, and punishing those who are honest, you are just further feeding into all of that.
You keep saying you can't tell who is right. All of us who have seen your posts can tell, even without being psychic. You have stated the guy broke up with you years ago, blocked you, has not contacted you, and then recently there was an event that he had the opportunity to talk to you, but avoided you. It is very clear he made his choice a long time ago and has stuck by it. Thus it is obvious which readers are being honest, and which are feeding you what you want to hear. This isn't a case of someone who is going back and forth on you, stalling, who is confused....again, he obviously has solidly made a choice, and you still have not accepted it years later. You now are taking it out on other people. Yes, those readers you are taking time from and giving bad ratings to are real people. I would recommend investing in therapy instead, to help you process and accept the circumstances so that you can move forward with your life and be open to new relationships. This is very unhealthy and damaging... not just to you, but to others as well.