I have an update. I read with Lady Jenna most recently about a week ago (I've read with her only a handful of times over a couple years), and I asked her about a different (new) poi, and she said that as much as he's attracted/feels a connection to me, he doesn't want anything serious. Which was surprising for me bc we had known each other a long time, and when things started becoming more romantic, it was getting exciting and our dates were fun and I thought we could be on the way to something special.
And sure enough, he called things off today saying he's not ready for anything serious, sigh. So that happened.
When I asked if I'd hear from my main poi I usually ask about, she said most likely in February, but not this month, which so far is correct. She said overall January feels difficult and painful. I guess she wasn't kidding lol.