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I'm letting go
TulipsAndSunflowers:
Adding to this little monologue here ... I have not had a reading in two weeks. Just when I thought I was doing well, I got a reminder about a reading coming up, which I booked OVER A YEAR AGO! ;D and forgot about! This psychic is meant to be amazing - hence the 1 year wait list. I hope it won't make me spiral out of control again ... my bank account has really appreciated the reduced spending - and so have I ..
jackY:
Definitely let us know how it goes! I hope the wait will be worth it :).
--- Quote from: TulipsAndSunflowers on August 09, 2024, 11:47:11 AM ---Adding to this little monologue here ... I have not had a reading in two weeks. Just when I thought I was doing well, I got a reminder about a reading coming up, which I booked OVER A YEAR AGO! ;D and forgot about! This psychic is meant to be amazing - hence the 1 year wait list. I hope it won't make me spiral out of control again ... my bank account has really appreciated the reduced spending - and so have I ..
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TulipsAndSunflowers:
Thanks, Jacky xx I hope so too... this reader has come HIGHLY recommended, so let's see... Will be updating on here for sure... x
TulipsAndSunflowers:
An update for those who wish to read it. As this post has been viewed quite a few times, I feel like I should write this. To anyone who is having a hard time letting go of your POIs... . you WILL get there, I promise. It just takes time. Allow yourself to be sad, but do not waste your precious time by waiting on predictions to happen. Because, as a lot of us on here have learnt the hard way - they often don't come to pass. And it can hurt even more than the ghosting, rejection etc combined...
I had so many readers give me a fairytale and really believed me and this dude were meant to be. All was perfect for a while - until it wasn't. I already posted about the readers who were right vs wrong and will update even more in due course. I am only updating this thread, because I can see how many lovely people are struggling and getting more and more readings , because it feels better - but the feeling is short lived - so then we try another reader.. and another one .. and forget to actually live our lives.. while our POIs are often out there, living their best lives..
I hate to say this but no one was 100% correct on this POI, but there has been some 75%-80% accuracy (with maybe 2 or 3 readers out of 11-12?). Me and him are now very close, talking regularly, but we are nothing but friends, which will never change (there are circumstances which prevent us from ever being together and it's probably for the better). He has recently been opening up about how badly he feels about hurting me and I really appreciate this. It has also helped me heal - although it still hurts a tad!
His ghosting has been explained and his reasons were valid. He admitted he was not planning on messaging me, because he was a coward (his words) who knew he had let me down and was too afraid to face what he had done. Guys - This all happened because I REACHED OUT. Four months of no contact and most readers' contact predictions were just off... I have to admit that I felt a little humiliated to be reaching out at first (since I was the one who got ghosted...), but then I went for it and just messaged him, because I felt like I deserved closure... got way more than I bargained for by us becoming friends, but guess that's just a nice bonus. I am saying this, because maybe someone on here needs to know that MESSAGING FIRST is NOT a sign of weakness - quite the opposite! And, there is nothing wrong with admitting you are feeling vulnerable. If he isn't messaging and you feel hurt by it - what is the worst that can happen if you reach out first? Rejection? Well... at least that can help you to get your answers and move on.
We often act like we don't have an expiry date, but we all know that that's not the case.... I was sad all summer, such a waste!! ::)
Watching the philosophical videos I shared earlier and delving into numerous older threads on this forum genuinely helped me feel more grounded and reduce my need for constant readings. If you feel an urge to get a reading, I’d highly recommend browsing some of the older posts on here. Many members describe having consulted dozens—sometimes hundreds—of psychics, only to find out that none of them were accurate. Reading stories about people who were advised to 'wait' for years, only for their POIs to move on, marry, or start families, was both eye-opening and quite frankly - heartbreaking. These posts have helped me avoid going down the same path....
dragonflyer:
I am so proud of you being YOU and doing what you really wanted to do!
I would like to quote what Gigi said to Alex in "He is just not that into you"
"You have not won. You're alone. I may do a lot of stupid shit but I'm still a lot closer to love than you are."
You go, Girl!
--- Quote from: TulipsAndSunflowers on November 04, 2024, 08:07:06 PM ---An update for those who wish to read it. As this post has been viewed quite a few times, I feel like I should write this. To anyone who is having a hard time letting go of your POIs... . you WILL get there, I promise. It just takes time. Allow yourself to be sad, but do not waste your precious time by waiting on predictions to happen. Because, as a lot of us on here have learnt the hard way - they often don't come to pass. And it can hurt even more than the ghosting, rejection etc combined...
I had so many readers give me a fairytale and really believed me and this dude were meant to be. All was perfect for a while - until it wasn't. I already posted about the readers who were right vs wrong and will update even more in due course. I am only updating this thread, because I can see how many lovely people are struggling and getting more and more readings , because it feels better - but the feeling is short lived - so then we try another reader.. and another one .. and forget to actually live our lives.. while our POIs are often out there, living their best lives..
I hate to say this but no one was 100% correct on this POI, but there has been some 75%-80% accuracy (with maybe 2 or 3 readers out of 11-12?). Me and him are now very close, talking regularly, but we are nothing but friends, which will never change (there are circumstances which prevent us from ever being together and it's probably for the better). He has recently been opening up about how badly he feels about hurting me and I really appreciate this. It has also helped me heal - although it still hurts a tad!
His ghosting has been explained and his reasons were valid. He admitted he was not planning on messaging me, because he was a coward (his words) who knew he had let me down and was too afraid to face what he had done. Guys - This all happened because I REACHED OUT. Four months of no contact and most readers' contact predictions were just off... I have to admit that I felt a little humiliated to be reaching out at first (since I was the one who got ghosted...), but then I went for it and just messaged him, because I felt like I deserved closure... got way more than I bargained for by us becoming friends, but guess that's just a nice bonus. I am saying this, because maybe someone on here needs to know that MESSAGING FIRST is NOT a sign of weakness - quite the opposite! And, there is nothing wrong with admitting you are feeling vulnerable. If he isn't messaging and you feel hurt by it - what is the worst that can happen if you reach out first? Rejection? Well... at least that can help you to get your answers and move on.
We often act like we don't have an expiry date, but we all know that that's not the case.... I was sad all summer, such a waste!! ::)
Watching the philosophical videos I shared earlier and delving into numerous older threads on this forum genuinely helped me feel more grounded and reduce my need for constant readings. If you feel an urge to get a reading, I’d highly recommend browsing some of the older posts on here. Many members describe having consulted dozens—sometimes hundreds—of psychics, only to find out that none of them were accurate. Reading stories about people who were advised to 'wait' for years, only for their POIs to move on, marry, or start families, was both eye-opening and quite frankly - heartbreaking. These posts have helped me avoid going down the same path....
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