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I'm letting go

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TulipsAndSunflowers:
I'm in the process of letting go of my main POI. I am starting to feel like I may have jinxed it all by getting too many readings... there is a post on this group somewhere, where this person talks about the same thing - how reading too much on one person can ruin it all...
I very much love this POI and most of the psychics I spoke to were SO convincing in telling me how much of a strong connection we have - and how much potential there is for it to grow. This was the very first time EVER my favourite psychics told me that. In the past, they saw everyone else as being temporary and were correct... I believed them this time and was excited about the idea of having found my 'true love'.
But now, we haven't been in contact in almost 4 weeks, and I have been trying to move on ...Whilst we never officially ended things, I love myself enough to know that waiting for him is unhealthy for my soul. Let's be honest here - if they like you, they will want to reach out to you, regardless of how much shit they have going on in their life... So - I deleted his number, removed our photo from my cork board and put it in a box, and have been trying to focus on what is in front of me right now instead.. I feel sad, defeated, disappointed, even angry at myself a little - but that's OK. I know I will be OK someday - been there, done that - used to think some silly ex from the past was the one and I would never get over him - and yet I did- so I am sure I will eventually get over this one, too. I know he will reach out soon, because my birthday is coming up - but I also really dont want to talk to him, because I feel hurt by his silence and don't think I see a way out of this ..
I have also been in some form of a 'hermit mode' for about three weeks now, doing lots of meditating, self-reflection, reading- eating and sleeping lol. Anyway... I wanted to share this video with you guys, I highly recommend it to those of you who cannot let go.. it's painfully correct about how we perceive love and relationship ... and how relying/clinging onto someone is so bad for us AND them...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yah-abKb96g&t=608s
I have also read the book called : The Power of Now - and highly recommend you read it too - or at least the chapter: Enlightened Relationships , starting on page 120. If you message me, I will share pics of the pages if you like. It's been helping me get through the emotional pain. :)
Hopefully it'll help someone as much as it has helped me. I've also not had a reading since I read/watched this! Bought a huge box of strawberries and cherries instead of getting a reading today lol. Money well spent - unlike the ££ I have wasted on psychics since April.  ;)
If anyone is struggling with letting go or over binging on psychics and wants some support, feel free to reach out! we're in this together!!   :-*
I will update my main thread in a month or two, when I know who was right/wrong overall, but somehow I know already what it's going to be...

Chocolate:
Hi. I don’t think you can change or jinx the outcome of something with having readings unless it influences your actions. I think it can affect our abilities to use our own intuition and gut feelings though. Well done for staying strong and not contacting your POI.

The way I think about readings now is I am basically paying someone to tell me a load of crap and deceive me. Why would I do that? There are a few good readers around but usually with relationship stuff they predict happy endings that don’t come true for me.

I had a tough day today but didn’t give in and have a reading. I feel better for saving my money

TulipsAndSunflowers:
Thank you! Well done on not giving in either! Stay strong:))  ;)
I have read a lot since April - and yet only recorded ONE reading out of ... quite a few lol. Why do I always forget to record them...  :o
Thankfully I have kept notes, which helps me stay away from getting more readings!
I think it's just the overall energy/aura/whatever you want to call it that gets affected if one gets too many readings on the same topic... not sure how to explain it, but everything was pretty good UNTIL I started getting all the bloody readings ... It's almost like I am subconsciously trying to sabotage my own happiness.  ::)

Chocolate:
Thank you. I was having readings on the UK site Ask the Answer where you can listen to recorded readings for about a month and get discounts as a Purple Hearts member. This has helped me cut down on readings quite a bit but it still gives me false hope!

I seemed to manage better with relationships before I had loads of readings. I was listening to what partners/POIs were really saying rather than listening to psychics giving me the happy ending and not facing up to the reality of situations

TulipsAndSunflowers:
haven't read on that site, will do my best to avoid them! Are they fairytale readers? Hope you have managed to stay away from readings?

I have, unfortunately, had two readings. Uh oh.  ::) Keen gave me some dollars to spend... and it went from there, but I have spent $70 in total, which isn't so bad. also went to a spiritual workshop today, which was GREAT, and it felt SO nice to spend money on that, but I kinda enjoyed the reading too. No more readings until at least July....  8)!

I feel the same - about managing relationships better when one has no readings.- or at least very limited readings! I feel like if I were paying cash for the readings, it would also make a difference, paying digitally, you don't see th money leaving your account right away, so it doesn't feel as bad - until you open your bank statements ..  :-\

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