I respectfully disagree with a lot of what this woman is saying, although I certainly do agree with what she does say about the "manifesting from the end" versus the wound.
Some of us have had to find love "in the kernel"...AKA we've been thru so much trauma in our lives that we needed to go thru and relate to the TF to "pop out" of that tough kernel.
Eleven years after meeting my TF, I'm still working on self-love and softening my kernel. Sorry lady in the Youtube video, it just takes decades for some of us .... you don't look like you even had to do a year on yourself.
I don't obsess about this TF anymore nor do I pursue him, although sometimes curiosity strikes every now and again as to what we would have been like together. However, I do remember the ultimate purpose and role he played in popping me out of my kernel and how grateful I am for that happening.
'Nuff said.