I want to quit

[sai07]

For all the people going through this together atleast you're not hooked on hookers, gambling and drugs or alcohol. Trust me they are even worse. I know someone sold family business bc this person got into gambling and is now running away from debtors. So give yourself a grace. One Day at a time! This is all being part of human good bad and the ugly together. Embrace all of it.

That's true. I think I did gamble away the money though. But you're right in that we need to give ourselves some grace. Thanks for the support!

[russianred]

I look at the title and reminded of the same: I want to quit too

When I examine my recent good outcome with my love interest… I didn’t always follow the exact psychic advice. I also didn’t follow exact common sense! (I mean that probably could have been done better too) but not every psychic was perfect with the outcome, and it’s still changing. Last night I was about to have a reading and I just couldn’t; I do feel disgusted with myself for wanting one … but sitting with my feelings isn’t always easy either. I can’t point a finger on it, or even label it “is it reassurance? Validation? What feels so uncomfortable that needs soothing? Security? Connection?”

And as I am journaling this morning and redoing some courses “to manifest my ideal relationship” - one question asks what I don’t want to carry into a relationship, who do I need to be to allow that? Who do I need allow my person to be (which may not be my person). to be in good solid relationship?… and short answers it’s my dependency on psychics that's whatt I don’t want in this moving forward. But to quit that is to face my current feelings now and from last night

You know so to be even more brutally honest I also reached out to my person last night and he hasn’t responded yet … despite every psychic saying I have to play slow waiting game, not chase, not be too quick to push … and normally this would turn me into tailspin “well what does he think? Did he like the message? Will he respond back? Well when? How?”and I realized no I also don’t feel hung up on him or an answer that makes or breaks my feelings (or so I say for now) on me. If he doesn’t respond when (from my grounded place) i don’t feel crazy anxious, and I don’t need that kind of relationship…

Just wanted to say so proud of you! And yeah I don’t want carry psychic on either

Mina, I'm so sorry that you're struggling. Just like with sai07's posts, your post resonates with me, too. When I was craving a reading, I didn't even know what I was feeling or what I was trying to soothe with the reading (other than anxiety), I just felt this overwhelming compulsion to call.

Re: manifesting... I go through phases with it. Call me cynical, but I think a lot of it comes down to being authentically myself in dating and having confidence with men -- two things I've struggled with.  Sometimes the manifesting stuff would get me down because I would feel bad about not being able to force my brain to "live in the end" and would make me blame myself if I didn't do it "right." But then I go through phases of liking it, too.

And I'm not the first to type this on this board, but I think one reason for psychics saying to play the slow game is because they need you not to have a definite answer in order for you to keep calling to get an "answer." At least you reached out and got an answer for yourself.

[russianred]

I’m so sorry you’re going thru this, but also want to share I’m in the same boat. I’m ashamed that I’ve let my anxiety get the best of me, instead of accepting things for what they are and letting it be without control. I’ve spent SO much money. To embarrassing to even share. Psychic addiction is a real thing.

I feel for you. I totally understand. Outside of the psychic addiction I am, believe it or not, relatively normal. How I have sunk so much $$ and believed in people who just strung me along, I have no idea. I wanted the things I asked about so badly - a promotion, a man who loved me as much as I love him - but the universe has other plans for me it seems. My approach lately has just been prayer, accepting things as they come, trying to detach as much as possible and just sitting through the pain and the anxiety. I wish I could help you. Here anytime you'd like to chat.

Lol I feel this. My affection for psychics is in such stark contrast to the rest of my life and persona. If my friends and family knew I called psychics they would be shocked. I guess I am shocked that I waste money on psychics too.  I wonder how much better off I might have been had i invested all the psychic $ into a therapist.

Same. I don't think anyone would guess that I spent thousands on psychics.  I'm otherwise okay with money and pretty logical and no BS.

[Notacrystalfreak]

Hi guys!

The last advisor - the one that predicted a major change at the end of Aug, that prediction is now going into Sept. I don't feel good having spent money today. I feel terrible tbh bc there was no new information, my anxiety just got the best of me. It is not on the advisor but on me. This advisor is actually quite likeable but at the end of the day, I have to do what is best for me and my life. And I want to start building my own intuition again. I am having a hard time seeing the prediction come to life and most of all, I need to pay off the credit card stuff.

So this time, instead of giving myself some grace, I want to really stick to going without a reading. I was reading it takes 2-3 months to break a habit (21 days is actually a myth and perhaps achievable with simpler vices). I don't know if announcing it here is stupid but I am struggling and it is addiction and I am ready to try again with more rigour. I want my life back. I want financial freedom. I want to be able to afford a home and vacations and trips and be comfortable in retirement. Most of all, I want control of myself back.

Did the prediction pass?

No...it didn't - the crazy thing is two psychics has said the exact same thing that by end of Aug it would pass - but it did not. And now we are at nearly the end of Sept :/ So yeah.

Guess your instincts were right. It did not seem feasible. I’m going through something myself, where no matter what the signs say, I’ve put my faith in a readers prediction waiting for it to be correct. How could she not be correct?! She sounded so convincing, so sure! But alas her prediction didn’t pass and it may pass in the next 5 years but who knows! In the meantime I need to live myself, date people (or in my case get married (because I’m Asian)).

[sai07]

Hi guys!

The last advisor - the one that predicted a major change at the end of Aug, that prediction is now going into Sept. I don't feel good having spent money today. I feel terrible tbh bc there was no new information, my anxiety just got the best of me. It is not on the advisor but on me. This advisor is actually quite likeable but at the end of the day, I have to do what is best for me and my life. And I want to start building my own intuition again. I am having a hard time seeing the prediction come to life and most of all, I need to pay off the credit card stuff.

So this time, instead of giving myself some grace, I want to really stick to going without a reading. I was reading it takes 2-3 months to break a habit (21 days is actually a myth and perhaps achievable with simpler vices). I don't know if announcing it here is stupid but I am struggling and it is addiction and I am ready to try again with more rigour. I want my life back. I want financial freedom. I want to be able to afford a home and vacations and trips and be comfortable in retirement. Most of all, I want control of myself back.

Did the prediction pass?

No...it didn't - the crazy thing is two psychics has said the exact same thing that by end of Aug it would pass - but it did not. And now we are at nearly the end of Sept :/ So yeah.

Guess your instincts were right. It did not seem feasible. I’m going through something myself, where no matter what the signs say, I’ve put my faith in a readers prediction waiting for it to be correct. How could she not be correct?! She sounded so convincing, so sure! But alas her prediction didn’t pass and it may pass in the next 5 years but who knows! In the meantime I need to live myself, date people (or in my case get married (because I’m Asian)).

I’d like to get married too! I went through the whole “I’m a single independent woman” phase. Yeah sure that’s cool and all but I’d still like a companion. It took me a while to accept that and be comfortable saying it out loud. I’m happy for those people that are happy single - I’m simply not one of them and will do my thing but would love to have someone by my side.

[sai07]

I haven't written here in a while.

I am doing OK.

I feel a bit more calmer with the whole POI situation. Not fully there yet bc I still have anxiety and I miss him.

Anyways, to anyone that this may help with, some things I have been doing to calm my anxiety and focus on other important aspects of my life that need fixing (health and career):
- Journalling
- Exercising
- Prayer (not perfect but making it a part of everyday)
- Therapy (I started therapy to curb back on any emotional spending)
- Living? Saw a few more people than I normally do

There's still a lot of work I need to do to get completely over POI and back into dating - it is tough being emotionally attached to someone so strongly that even when they're not around I wish they were with me. Someone from this site (I will keep the name private) said it best, "prayers will help you where physics cannot". And that has been my mantra.

Also, guys, not a single reader got timing right...he will commit by June....July...Aug...Sept...Oct...next year '25 (maybe) ...what??? lol.
Just kind of kicked me in the ass a bit to rely on a higher power and also to fix my immediate life.

Anyways, hope this helps anyone struggling

[midwest60]

You should be proud of yourself for reaching a new mindset and focusing on a more healthy way of life. It's not easy to stay away from readings that can provide instant gratification or temporary abandonment from our problems. And, that's the challenge....they (readings) seldom pan into anything.   What does bear fruit is the groundwork you are laying down now by focusing on your career, health, and other goals.  Good luck to you!

[sai07]

You should be proud of yourself for reaching a new mindset and focusing on a more healthy way of life. It's not easy to stay away from readings that can provide instant gratification or temporary abandonment from our problems. And, that's the challenge....they (readings) seldom pan into anything.   What does bear fruit is the groundwork you are laying down now by focusing on your career, health, and other goals.  Good luck to you!

Thanks so much, midwest60
You have been one of my inspirations in this journey