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sai07:
--- Quote from: Mina on July 27, 2024, 12:25:45 PM ---
Thanks for the update … and apologies for the novel or if long winded
If I may I think you’re going to all or nothing/black and white/absolute thinking… because I do it too! Or at least this how I relate to this. Also congratulations on going so long without a psychic.
Again be kind and gentle to yourself!
Gentle.
Bring in this soft sprinkly gentle kindness acceptance of yourself. All that intensity and care is not a force to “take away” from them- but REFOCUS it back to you.
AND also because this does helps see and feel your value.
So you miss and love your friend and ex. That’s okay! Take the stigma of what you should or shouldn’t/be or feel- aside. Put all the stigma, personal meaning of what it means about you- with kindness. But see if you can observe what you’re making it mean about you; and then gently touch that part of you. I forget I don’t think my thoughts; I first feel them; I embody the sensation of my feelings, then thoughts along with the feelings of rejection… so remember to work backwards. Easier said than done, but it is helpful. So from the embodiment of rejection I am feeling broken and hallow in my chest, then the thoughts come: “men suck, I was used, how could ppl do this to me. Why would any one pick me, etc” AND then touch this part of me from a centered calm place and GENTLE (is this absolute truth- prob not)
Have you done this exercise?
If I was with (my friend/this guy) here right now what would that mean or say about me? If they were texting me right now want to hang out and be with me with me right now: What would be relieved? Or what part of me could feel like I could finally breathe? What would this say about me?
(For me: I’d feel seen, like I can breathe, I am whole. I can also feel my body smile)
And yes the cliche answer is “well how can I give that to myself?” But it isn’t so much figuring out it’s more of this acceptance, allowance for you to be okay to be you. Freely all of you.
If you could see how God values you? See how precious you are, would you be open to allow that in? (And I hope this doesn’t trigger you; I know God concept be rough one here)
I admit I can’t do it all the time… and I’m not always open to it, nor can remember. But that word “open” when rephrased to positive question affirmations “if I could be OPEN to?” it does allow the subconscious not to have so much resistance to that possibility. So putting a pause on what you’re resisting
My therapist gave me this “homework” instead of calling a psychic about: what he’s going do? What’s he thinking about me? What’s he feeling about me? When is he going to call me?
To change “he” to “me”: what am I going to do? What am I thinking about me? What am I feeling about me? When am I going to call me?
And it does have me like “oh!” It is this weird re-parent my inner dialogue.
Refocus your value back to you, with gentleness and kindness.
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Thanks Mina. Yes, I am still taking a faith-based approach. I would be lying if I said I am not praying for both of these people to come back into my life, but I also wonder if the way they were removed was God telling me to move on. I feel extremely lost and confused. It’s great that you found a therapist that can you talk through this with. I feel embarrassed telling anyone I have an addiction problem. I am hurting and sometimes feel like reading out to one or two psychics but I think at this point any false hope would be extremely damaging to the progress I have made with no contact. As I said, it’s a very confusing and challenging period. Thanks for the exercise - will try it - sorry for my lack of enthusiasm, feeling depressed today. But thanks x
jackY:
We got you, Sai. Reach out any time.
--- Quote from: sai07 on July 27, 2024, 09:50:05 PM ---
--- Quote from: Mina on July 27, 2024, 12:25:45 PM ---
Thanks for the update … and apologies for the novel or if long winded
If I may I think you’re going to all or nothing/black and white/absolute thinking… because I do it too! Or at least this how I relate to this. Also congratulations on going so long without a psychic.
Again be kind and gentle to yourself!
Gentle.
Bring in this soft sprinkly gentle kindness acceptance of yourself. All that intensity and care is not a force to “take away” from them- but REFOCUS it back to you.
AND also because this does helps see and feel your value.
So you miss and love your friend and ex. That’s okay! Take the stigma of what you should or shouldn’t/be or feel- aside. Put all the stigma, personal meaning of what it means about you- with kindness. But see if you can observe what you’re making it mean about you; and then gently touch that part of you. I forget I don’t think my thoughts; I first feel them; I embody the sensation of my feelings, then thoughts along with the feelings of rejection… so remember to work backwards. Easier said than done, but it is helpful. So from the embodiment of rejection I am feeling broken and hallow in my chest, then the thoughts come: “men suck, I was used, how could ppl do this to me. Why would any one pick me, etc” AND then touch this part of me from a centered calm place and GENTLE (is this absolute truth- prob not)
Have you done this exercise?
If I was with (my friend/this guy) here right now what would that mean or say about me? If they were texting me right now want to hang out and be with me with me right now: What would be relieved? Or what part of me could feel like I could finally breathe? What would this say about me?
(For me: I’d feel seen, like I can breathe, I am whole. I can also feel my body smile)
And yes the cliche answer is “well how can I give that to myself?” But it isn’t so much figuring out it’s more of this acceptance, allowance for you to be okay to be you. Freely all of you.
If you could see how God values you? See how precious you are, would you be open to allow that in? (And I hope this doesn’t trigger you; I know God concept be rough one here)
I admit I can’t do it all the time… and I’m not always open to it, nor can remember. But that word “open” when rephrased to positive question affirmations “if I could be OPEN to?” it does allow the subconscious not to have so much resistance to that possibility. So putting a pause on what you’re resisting
My therapist gave me this “homework” instead of calling a psychic about: what he’s going do? What’s he thinking about me? What’s he feeling about me? When is he going to call me?
To change “he” to “me”: what am I going to do? What am I thinking about me? What am I feeling about me? When am I going to call me?
And it does have me like “oh!” It is this weird re-parent my inner dialogue.
Refocus your value back to you, with gentleness and kindness.
--- End quote ---
Thanks Mina. Yes, I am still taking a faith-based approach. I would be lying if I said I am not praying for both of these people to come back into my life, but I also wonder if the way they were removed was God telling me to move on. I feel extremely lost and confused. It’s great that you found a therapist that can you talk through this with. I feel embarrassed telling anyone I have an addiction problem. I am hurting and sometimes feel like reading out to one or two psychics but I think at this point any false hope would be extremely damaging to the progress I have made with no contact. As I said, it’s a very confusing and challenging period. Thanks for the exercise - will try it - sorry for my lack of enthusiasm, feeling depressed today. But thanks x
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sai07:
--- Quote from: jackY on July 27, 2024, 09:59:35 PM ---We got you, Sai. Reach out any time.
--- Quote from: sai07 on July 27, 2024, 09:50:05 PM ---
--- Quote from: Mina on July 27, 2024, 12:25:45 PM ---
Thanks for the update … and apologies for the novel or if long winded
If I may I think you’re going to all or nothing/black and white/absolute thinking… because I do it too! Or at least this how I relate to this. Also congratulations on going so long without a psychic.
Again be kind and gentle to yourself!
Gentle.
Bring in this soft sprinkly gentle kindness acceptance of yourself. All that intensity and care is not a force to “take away” from them- but REFOCUS it back to you.
AND also because this does helps see and feel your value.
So you miss and love your friend and ex. That’s okay! Take the stigma of what you should or shouldn’t/be or feel- aside. Put all the stigma, personal meaning of what it means about you- with kindness. But see if you can observe what you’re making it mean about you; and then gently touch that part of you. I forget I don’t think my thoughts; I first feel them; I embody the sensation of my feelings, then thoughts along with the feelings of rejection… so remember to work backwards. Easier said than done, but it is helpful. So from the embodiment of rejection I am feeling broken and hallow in my chest, then the thoughts come: “men suck, I was used, how could ppl do this to me. Why would any one pick me, etc” AND then touch this part of me from a centered calm place and GENTLE (is this absolute truth- prob not)
Have you done this exercise?
If I was with (my friend/this guy) here right now what would that mean or say about me? If they were texting me right now want to hang out and be with me with me right now: What would be relieved? Or what part of me could feel like I could finally breathe? What would this say about me?
(For me: I’d feel seen, like I can breathe, I am whole. I can also feel my body smile)
And yes the cliche answer is “well how can I give that to myself?” But it isn’t so much figuring out it’s more of this acceptance, allowance for you to be okay to be you. Freely all of you.
If you could see how God values you? See how precious you are, would you be open to allow that in? (And I hope this doesn’t trigger you; I know God concept be rough one here)
I admit I can’t do it all the time… and I’m not always open to it, nor can remember. But that word “open” when rephrased to positive question affirmations “if I could be OPEN to?” it does allow the subconscious not to have so much resistance to that possibility. So putting a pause on what you’re resisting
My therapist gave me this “homework” instead of calling a psychic about: what he’s going do? What’s he thinking about me? What’s he feeling about me? When is he going to call me?
To change “he” to “me”: what am I going to do? What am I thinking about me? What am I feeling about me? When am I going to call me?
And it does have me like “oh!” It is this weird re-parent my inner dialogue.
Refocus your value back to you, with gentleness and kindness.
--- End quote ---
Thanks Mina. Yes, I am still taking a faith-based approach. I would be lying if I said I am not praying for both of these people to come back into my life, but I also wonder if the way they were removed was God telling me to move on. I feel extremely lost and confused. It’s great that you found a therapist that can you talk through this with. I feel embarrassed telling anyone I have an addiction problem. I am hurting and sometimes feel like reading out to one or two psychics but I think at this point any false hope would be extremely damaging to the progress I have made with no contact. As I said, it’s a very confusing and challenging period. Thanks for the exercise - will try it - sorry for my lack of enthusiasm, feeling depressed today. But thanks x
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Thanks Jacky x appreciate you
jackY:
Right back at 'cha, woman. xo
--- Quote from: sai07 on July 27, 2024, 11:00:07 PM ---
--- Quote from: jackY on July 27, 2024, 09:59:35 PM ---We got you, Sai. Reach out any time.
--- Quote from: sai07 on July 27, 2024, 09:50:05 PM ---
--- Quote from: Mina on July 27, 2024, 12:25:45 PM ---
Thanks for the update … and apologies for the novel or if long winded
If I may I think you’re going to all or nothing/black and white/absolute thinking… because I do it too! Or at least this how I relate to this. Also congratulations on going so long without a psychic.
Again be kind and gentle to yourself!
Gentle.
Bring in this soft sprinkly gentle kindness acceptance of yourself. All that intensity and care is not a force to “take away” from them- but REFOCUS it back to you.
AND also because this does helps see and feel your value.
So you miss and love your friend and ex. That’s okay! Take the stigma of what you should or shouldn’t/be or feel- aside. Put all the stigma, personal meaning of what it means about you- with kindness. But see if you can observe what you’re making it mean about you; and then gently touch that part of you. I forget I don’t think my thoughts; I first feel them; I embody the sensation of my feelings, then thoughts along with the feelings of rejection… so remember to work backwards. Easier said than done, but it is helpful. So from the embodiment of rejection I am feeling broken and hallow in my chest, then the thoughts come: “men suck, I was used, how could ppl do this to me. Why would any one pick me, etc” AND then touch this part of me from a centered calm place and GENTLE (is this absolute truth- prob not)
Have you done this exercise?
If I was with (my friend/this guy) here right now what would that mean or say about me? If they were texting me right now want to hang out and be with me with me right now: What would be relieved? Or what part of me could feel like I could finally breathe? What would this say about me?
(For me: I’d feel seen, like I can breathe, I am whole. I can also feel my body smile)
And yes the cliche answer is “well how can I give that to myself?” But it isn’t so much figuring out it’s more of this acceptance, allowance for you to be okay to be you. Freely all of you.
If you could see how God values you? See how precious you are, would you be open to allow that in? (And I hope this doesn’t trigger you; I know God concept be rough one here)
I admit I can’t do it all the time… and I’m not always open to it, nor can remember. But that word “open” when rephrased to positive question affirmations “if I could be OPEN to?” it does allow the subconscious not to have so much resistance to that possibility. So putting a pause on what you’re resisting
My therapist gave me this “homework” instead of calling a psychic about: what he’s going do? What’s he thinking about me? What’s he feeling about me? When is he going to call me?
To change “he” to “me”: what am I going to do? What am I thinking about me? What am I feeling about me? When am I going to call me?
And it does have me like “oh!” It is this weird re-parent my inner dialogue.
Refocus your value back to you, with gentleness and kindness.
--- End quote ---
Thanks Mina. Yes, I am still taking a faith-based approach. I would be lying if I said I am not praying for both of these people to come back into my life, but I also wonder if the way they were removed was God telling me to move on. I feel extremely lost and confused. It’s great that you found a therapist that can you talk through this with. I feel embarrassed telling anyone I have an addiction problem. I am hurting and sometimes feel like reading out to one or two psychics but I think at this point any false hope would be extremely damaging to the progress I have made with no contact. As I said, it’s a very confusing and challenging period. Thanks for the exercise - will try it - sorry for my lack of enthusiasm, feeling depressed today. But thanks x
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Thanks Jacky x appreciate you
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sai07:
Hi everyone - just an update - so as you know, I have been cutting back and I am proud to say that I have not been going back to any readers that were wrong and I have not been pursuing new readers, no matter how glowing the reviews are (here or on Keen). Kindly don't suggest anyone to me. I am off that crack. So I feel from that POV my addiction is under control.
The part that's still sucky is I am talking to one reader, it does feel more like therapy at this point but I really don't like the amount I am spending. He has one prediction that is pending for end of Aug. He was nice enough to say not to spend money and to wait until end of Aug for prediction to pass. I don't think his prediction will pass and I have told him numerous times - what I am seeing and what he is saying is not lining up. It would literally be a miracle if it happened and he is "99%" sure of it but yeah, I have legit concerns bc previous predictions of his have not come to fruition, but what he explains to me from a personality and feelings perspective resonates. So my aim is to go reading-free until the end of Aug and see if any of this pans out. If it does not....I will not be going back to this reader for predictions...but I am also not sure how to deal with the emotional fall-out that will happen. You know when you're secretly really hoping the reader is right and then it does not happen? It is such a blow. I am not sure how I will manage it. I am hoping I don't fall into a binge. Maybe I do what 'normal' people do and just go through the emotions and rely on God. It is far too easy to reach out to a psychic and I worry I will relapse.
Re: friend that went MIA, I have accepted that it is what it is. Same with POI. My intention is to dip my feet back into the dating pool in a few weeks via the apps (which I detest), and this time I am not going to readers for any updates on men. I need a fresh start. If someone is not giving me the time or day or mixed signals, I will move on. Not emotionally invest.
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