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I want to quit
Beachgal0218:
I got hooked in 2019. I had a POI I was hooked on and it was really hard. My story is involved but ultimately I recognized a few main things -
1. I wasnt happy in a relationship I was in, which made me seek the validation and attention from the POI;
2. Realized I was addicted to both psychic readings (the future) and POI;
3. In order to move on from POI I needed to let go of the current relationship I was in.
I ended up leaving my marriage , something I never thought was possible, and in doing so I also cut off my POI at the same time. He was never going to leave his gf even though he was quite happy mucking up my life and allowing me to do so. So when I ended marriage, I ended things with POI and he respected that.
I still think of him from time to time, even weekly or monthly. but I do not act on it, I do not call him, text him, or call a psychic on him. we have not had communication since November 2022. not totally true, he contacted me Feb 2023 in middle of the night two nights in a row and I told him I worked hard to move on from two relationships that did not serve me and asked him to not contact me again. that I was finally happy. and he said he would not, and has not. I have gotten a handful of messages to social stories from his good buddy and I am sure its him, but I dont respond to them. just comments here or there.
Getting to that point of leaving my marriage was the most difficult. I ultimately left in Fall of 2022. that was scary, unnerving, brave, hard, everything. but it was the best decision and allowed me to let a new love into my life.
in the same fall of 2022 I met my current long term boyfriend. he is amazing and I will not pretend that meeting him was not a huge factor in helping me move on from POI. but I will say I would never have met him if I had not done the hardest work myself- which was deciding to leave the marriage. the biggest shift absolutely came from my own healing and decision to leave a marriage.
once I did that, once I took the plunge, I was in a position to meet a real someone , someone I could actually be with. not someone in hiding. not someone not committed. but someone who wanted me and wanted to be in a relationship.
while my partner did help me replace my romantic feelings from POI to him, it was ME and MY choices that led me to my bf.
I did a lot of work on trying to break the addiction - I had therapy, I got into reiki, I mediated, I set goals, financial and daily.
I have been where you are and I have come out on the other side.
some things that helped me:
not going to this site as much (I found I was addicted to new stories, new threads, new reviews)
not going on discord
basically blocking things that I felt "enabled" my habit or encouraged or even maintained.
blocking the POI so he could not see my stories ( I was addicted to him seeing my stuff and posting cool shit so he WOULD see)
blocking POI on phone so he couldnt contact
challenging myself to financial goals of not spending on sites
looking at my progress and being proud of how I could search back through keen and see months with ZERO readings!!! HUGE!
in the end, I realized life happens regardless of if its predicted and I have realized no matter what a psychic says, to trust what you SEE not what you hope to hear. bc what they feed you may be true or not, but if the person is not showing you what you deserve, trust them! The right person WILL and you wont need a psychic to tell u anything! <3
good luck!!
Beachgal0218:
--- Quote from: Beachgal0218 on February 07, 2024, 05:28:47 PM ---I got hooked in 2019. I had a POI I was hooked on and it was really hard. My story is involved but ultimately I recognized a few main things -
1. I wasnt happy in a relationship I was in, which made me seek the validation and attention from the POI;
2. Realized I was addicted to both psychic readings (the future) and POI;
3. In order to move on from POI I needed to let go of the current relationship I was in.
I ended up leaving my marriage , something I never thought was possible, and in doing so I also cut off my POI at the same time. He was never going to leave his gf even though he was quite happy mucking up my life and allowing me to do so. So when I ended marriage, I ended things with POI and he respected that.
I still think of him from time to time, even weekly or monthly. but I do not act on it, I do not call him, text him, or call a psychic on him. we have not had communication since November 2022. not totally true, he contacted me Feb 2023 in middle of the night two nights in a row and I told him I worked hard to move on from two relationships that did not serve me and asked him to not contact me again. that I was finally happy. and he said he would not, and has not. I have gotten a handful of messages to social stories from his good buddy and I am sure its him, but I dont respond to them. just comments here or there.
Getting to that point of leaving my marriage was the most difficult. I ultimately left in Fall of 2022. that was scary, unnerving, brave, hard, everything. but it was the best decision and allowed me to let a new love into my life.
in the same fall of 2022 I met my current long term boyfriend. he is amazing and I will not pretend that meeting him was not a huge factor in helping me move on from POI. but I will say I would never have met him if I had not done the hardest work myself- which was deciding to leave the marriage. the biggest shift absolutely came from my own healing and decision to leave a marriage.
once I did that, once I took the plunge, I was in a position to meet a real someone , someone I could actually be with. not someone in hiding. not someone not committed. but someone who wanted me and wanted to be in a relationship with me.
while my partner did help me replace my romantic feelings from POI to him, it was ME and MY choices that led me to my bf.
I did a lot of work on trying to break the addiction - I had therapy, I got into reiki, I mediated, I set goals, financial and daily.
I have been where you are and I have come out on the other side.
some things that helped me:
not going to this site as much (I found I was addicted to new stories, new threads, new reviews)
not going on discord
basically blocking things that I felt "enabled" my habit or encouraged or even maintained.
blocking the POI so he could not see my stories ( I was addicted to him seeing my stuff and posting cool shit so he WOULD see)
blocking POI on phone so he couldnt contact
challenging myself to financial goals of not spending on sites
looking at my progress and being proud of how I could search back through keen and see months with ZERO readings!!! HUGE!
in the end, I realized life happens regardless of if its predicted and I have realized no matter what a psychic says, to trust what you SEE not what you hope to hear. bc what they feed you may be true or not, but if the person is not showing you what you deserve, trust them! The right person WILL and you wont need a psychic to tell u anything! <3
good luck!!
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Chocolate:
Weaning myself off readings seems to be working for me. I find if I can go 10 days without one there is less chance of me having loads. I try to just have occasional readings with psychics who have their own businesses rather than being on the phone lines. I like having readings and it can be like therapy because the good readers can be so accurate with my situation and I can take the predictions with a pinch of salt so to speak.
At my worst point I spent £700 in a month on readings. Now I don’t have much interest in having readings with so called psychics who predict things that don’t come true.
If I can do this anyone else can wean themselves off the readings and feel more in control of their money or stop readings completely
sai07:
--- Quote from: Chocolate on February 10, 2024, 09:45:42 AM ---Weaning myself off readings seems to be working for me. I find if I can go 10 days without one there is less chance of me having loads. I try to just have occasional readings with psychics who have their own businesses rather than being on the phone lines. I like having readings and it can be like therapy because the good readers can be so accurate with my situation and I can take the predictions with a pinch of salt so to speak.
At my worst point I spent £700 in a month on readings. Now I don’t have much interest in having readings with so called psychics who predict things that don’t come true.
If I can do this anyone else can wean themselves off the readings and feel more in control of their money or stop readings completely
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Thanks Chocolate. I have a lot of anxiety when I do not hear from my POI and I desperately want him to commit to me but that is neither in a psychic's power or in my power so I feel I need to turn to faith. I have given up on asking readers about my career because so far no one has gotten it right. But I also feel like a career is somewhat in my control. I know if I put in the effort and time, I will land somewhere. It is different with love.
I am waiting on a POI prediction primarily but the relationship itself gives me anxiety. It's not ideal and I feel obsessive about this person - clearly not healthy and I am struggling to manage this.
Chocolate:
I read a post on social media written by a therapist that said something along the lines of rather than looking at the way you handle relationships first consider that you are wasting time on someone who is inconsistent. It’s a good way of looking at it
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