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maroonlight:
I was successful in breaking the addiction. It was at its worst for me around 2017-2019 ish. I got readings about 3 POI’s whom I was obsessed with. Each relationship fell through due to circumstances that I had no control of. The last POI kept me hanging on by responding to my text messages for a year but not actually taking action to get back together.
Eventually I was fed up after spending thousands and still empty handed. I finally stopped because I just didn’t have faith in the readings anymore.
In the end I moved on from each person, and to this day I now realize that none of them were right for me and I wasn’t even ready to find “the one” at the stage that I was at in my life.
I recently ended my first long term 2 year relationship which was extremely verbally and emotionally abusive. I am single and sometimes lonely but I’ve learned to cope with reality and allow things to play out. Every once in a blue moon I will get a reading, but I wouldn’t spend more than $50 per year on them now.
My advice is to please tell yourself “Why do I want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me? I deserve someone who doesn’t keep me waiting and who is direct about their feelings towards me.”
That was the lesson that I needed to learn above all others. This is 2024. It takes only seconds to send or reply to a text message. If someone really wants to get in contact with you, they’ll do so now. I too made the mistake of waiting months for people to come around, and the psychics only encouraged me by giving the next season’s time frames and telling me the person is scared, confused, blah blah blah.
It wasn’t the people I wanted. I wanted what I imagined the people to be, and none of them were that. Often times we want what we don’t have, and one we have it we realize that’s it’s not what it was cracked up to be.
The right person will one day come into your life and stay. They won’t keep you guessing, or waiting. They won’t ignore you or make excuses about disappearing.
Army:
It took me two years and a half to get over my anxiety.. when I look back I am like.. what was I thinking?? So much financial damage in psychics over a guy.. I look back and I now wish I had all my money back..
My psychic binges are over and I have more financial freedom..
anxiety is one of the worst feelings we could ever have..
but good news is that dark chapter is now behind me..
I am so much happier and now looking for a new job, new career choice.. as I am wanting a more challenging environment..
Beachgal0218:
I got hooked in 2019. I had a POI I was hooked on and it was really hard. My story is involved but ultimately I recognized a few main things -
1. I wasnt happy in a relationship I was in, which made me seek the validation and attention from the POI;
2. Realized I was addicted to both psychic readings (the future) and POI;
3. In order to move on from POI I needed to let go of the current relationship I was in.
I ended up leaving my marriage , something I never thought was possible, and in doing so I also cut off my POI at the same time. He was never going to leave his gf even though he was quite happy mucking up my life and allowing me to do so. So when I ended marriage, I ended things with POI and he respected that.
I still think of him from time to time, even weekly or monthly. but I do not act on it, I do not call him, text him, or call a psychic on him. we have not had communication since November 2022. not totally true, he contacted me Feb 2023 in middle of the night two nights in a row and I told him I worked hard to move on from two relationships that did not serve me and asked him to not contact me again. that I was finally happy. and he said he would not, and has not. I have gotten a handful of messages to social stories from his good buddy and I am sure its him, but I dont respond to them. just comments here or there.
Getting to that point of leaving my marriage was the most difficult. I ultimately left in Fall of 2022. that was scary, unnerving, brave, hard, everything. but it was the best decision and allowed me to let a new love into my life.
in the same fall of 2022 I met my current long term boyfriend. he is amazing and I will not pretend that meeting him was not a huge factor in helping me move on from POI. but I will say I would never have met him if I had not done the hardest work myself- which was deciding to leave the marriage. the biggest shift absolutely came from my own healing and decision to leave a marriage.
once I did that, once I took the plunge, I was in a position to meet a real someone , someone I could actually be with. not someone in hiding. not someone not committed. but someone who wanted me and wanted to be in a relationship.
while my partner did help me replace my romantic feelings from POI to him, it was ME and MY choices that led me to my bf.
I did a lot of work on trying to break the addiction - I had therapy, I got into reiki, I mediated, I set goals, financial and daily.
I have been where you are and I have come out on the other side.
some things that helped me:
not going to this site as much (I found I was addicted to new stories, new threads, new reviews)
not going on discord
basically blocking things that I felt "enabled" my habit or encouraged or even maintained.
blocking the POI so he could not see my stories ( I was addicted to him seeing my stuff and posting cool shit so he WOULD see)
blocking POI on phone so he couldnt contact
challenging myself to financial goals of not spending on sites
looking at my progress and being proud of how I could search back through keen and see months with ZERO readings!!! HUGE!
in the end, I realized life happens regardless of if its predicted and I have realized no matter what a psychic says, to trust what you SEE not what you hope to hear. bc what they feed you may be true or not, but if the person is not showing you what you deserve, trust them! The right person WILL and you wont need a psychic to tell u anything! <3
good luck!!
Beachgal0218:
--- Quote from: Beachgal0218 on February 07, 2024, 05:28:47 PM ---I got hooked in 2019. I had a POI I was hooked on and it was really hard. My story is involved but ultimately I recognized a few main things -
1. I wasnt happy in a relationship I was in, which made me seek the validation and attention from the POI;
2. Realized I was addicted to both psychic readings (the future) and POI;
3. In order to move on from POI I needed to let go of the current relationship I was in.
I ended up leaving my marriage , something I never thought was possible, and in doing so I also cut off my POI at the same time. He was never going to leave his gf even though he was quite happy mucking up my life and allowing me to do so. So when I ended marriage, I ended things with POI and he respected that.
I still think of him from time to time, even weekly or monthly. but I do not act on it, I do not call him, text him, or call a psychic on him. we have not had communication since November 2022. not totally true, he contacted me Feb 2023 in middle of the night two nights in a row and I told him I worked hard to move on from two relationships that did not serve me and asked him to not contact me again. that I was finally happy. and he said he would not, and has not. I have gotten a handful of messages to social stories from his good buddy and I am sure its him, but I dont respond to them. just comments here or there.
Getting to that point of leaving my marriage was the most difficult. I ultimately left in Fall of 2022. that was scary, unnerving, brave, hard, everything. but it was the best decision and allowed me to let a new love into my life.
in the same fall of 2022 I met my current long term boyfriend. he is amazing and I will not pretend that meeting him was not a huge factor in helping me move on from POI. but I will say I would never have met him if I had not done the hardest work myself- which was deciding to leave the marriage. the biggest shift absolutely came from my own healing and decision to leave a marriage.
once I did that, once I took the plunge, I was in a position to meet a real someone , someone I could actually be with. not someone in hiding. not someone not committed. but someone who wanted me and wanted to be in a relationship with me.
while my partner did help me replace my romantic feelings from POI to him, it was ME and MY choices that led me to my bf.
I did a lot of work on trying to break the addiction - I had therapy, I got into reiki, I mediated, I set goals, financial and daily.
I have been where you are and I have come out on the other side.
some things that helped me:
not going to this site as much (I found I was addicted to new stories, new threads, new reviews)
not going on discord
basically blocking things that I felt "enabled" my habit or encouraged or even maintained.
blocking the POI so he could not see my stories ( I was addicted to him seeing my stuff and posting cool shit so he WOULD see)
blocking POI on phone so he couldnt contact
challenging myself to financial goals of not spending on sites
looking at my progress and being proud of how I could search back through keen and see months with ZERO readings!!! HUGE!
in the end, I realized life happens regardless of if its predicted and I have realized no matter what a psychic says, to trust what you SEE not what you hope to hear. bc what they feed you may be true or not, but if the person is not showing you what you deserve, trust them! The right person WILL and you wont need a psychic to tell u anything! <3
good luck!!
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Chocolate:
Weaning myself off readings seems to be working for me. I find if I can go 10 days without one there is less chance of me having loads. I try to just have occasional readings with psychics who have their own businesses rather than being on the phone lines. I like having readings and it can be like therapy because the good readers can be so accurate with my situation and I can take the predictions with a pinch of salt so to speak.
At my worst point I spent £700 in a month on readings. Now I don’t have much interest in having readings with so called psychics who predict things that don’t come true.
If I can do this anyone else can wean themselves off the readings and feel more in control of their money or stop readings completely
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