Maybe bought the reading free token too soon

[Notacrystalfreak]

Only two days before I’m a reading free for a year.

I had a really bad craving today.

People getting married is a trigger for me.

I really want to get married.

I just wanted to talk to someone right then and there. Is what the reader said true? Am I going to meet someone in Pakistan??

I still want to know.

But I was too busy I needed to pick my nephew up from school which gave me time to think. Do I really want an arranged marriage or do I want to wait?

If I hadn’t had psychic sofa block me I may be having a reading right now.

My plan was just to focus on my degree…focus focus focus. No going to Pakistan, no readings just focus.

I realised that this is an addiction, I had a trigger, I wanted a reading. It’s simple as that. I don’t need a reading.

[Tjk197901]

Don’t do it!! You are strong. It truly is an addiction and not worth it. Keep strong keep busy and keep on keeping on. You got this. I’m going on two months reading free and it’s exhilarating to know I can do it without anyone’s help. Keep up the good work!!

[Mina]

Awww hugs!

It’s so important that no matter what you do you, you got you. Meaning, whatever triggers us to call know that we’re human and that we are capable to  get through it. You’ve made it this far.

I really like the serenity prayer in these moments. It does make me cry and break down but still challenges me, and compassion


God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
Courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference

Also what do you want? I just think psychics can debilitate ppls sovereign ability to have a say in the matter: free will. So if getting married and plopping out babies is something you want; well having faith that you are the type of person will achieve those things but live your life in the meantime and cultivate hobbies which will help you more attractive to those things. Identify with those qualities … I know this manifesting advice. But I just think advisors predictions fail all the time, they are not the authority of your life you are (and God if you believe in this). This phrase “get them off the pedestal” I think also falls with psychic addiction. And I just think get that’s psychic words off the pedestal; live your life. Get excited about what you have to look forward to, if there isn’t something then get one. Personally, mine is: I want to make and sew this dress pant I saw from Joanne … it’s something I am secretly excited about, and I do sew… not well… but I do want to give it a try. I can like envision myself wearing it, having this color scheme going and ppl completing me on it… I dunno won’t know until I try

Mark Mason this author of “the subtle art of not giving a f*** “ (and maybe my next book I want get to. I do have list); pretty much has this dreary way to look at life: get lots of hobbies and pick the ones your good at, and do that to get you through the rough times
But he’s right

[Chocolate]

I haven’t been on Psychic Sofa for months but most of the readers on there are rubbish. Lorna Max was OK but she passed away.

You don’t need a reading and you are doing great 😊

[Notacrystalfreak]

Thank you for your support guys. Particularly Mina (I love the long responses). I loved that you have a passion project to get excited about. I’m going to a residential school with my uni in May so trying to look forward to that as well as graduating. Also I love going to the gym so I’ve got that. You’re right, that reader is on a pedestal and just because she got some things right doesn’t mean she gets everything right. But the reading really has me intrigued! She said this prediction had more energy than anything else I asked about! Idk anymore 🤷‍♀️we fell out and she blocked my btw which is why I’m not going to her again.

It’s something small but I also look forward to studying in my dads office every weekend. It’s a really nice office, I love the subject I study and I love having coffee there and spending time with my dad. I love the drive there and back.

I also love reading memoirs about people who were imprisoned in some way but got out and are living great lives now. I’m really passionate about reading those as it gives me hope.

[Notacrystalfreak]

I don’t know if I can do this guys… I think 1.5 years is my limit. Finish my degree and then just see if I’m on the right path…anything I need to know…potential love interests … a reading? 😅🥲😬

At the same time, just looking at reviews and what’s exciting is all the life events people are saying they’ve had predictions for. Those events will happen reading or not which is what puts me off.

[Notacrystalfreak]

Also I had the thought that even if I don’t get married I’ll be okay. However the pressure is immense. Blackmail, insults “don’t waste your life” “you’re going to be all alone” 😭it’s tough

[Notacrystalfreak]

I had a FREE reading from someone who said:
I need to listen to my own self I’ve been listening to all sorts of different people
Forget about the stupid reading I had from the psychic about Pakistan etc.
I need to make friends and go out. Which I literally have tried and tried and tried. It becomes tiring to always go to events full of strangers and not make a friend.
Tbh it was nice to talk to someone but she didn’t tell my anything I didn’t already know, just to forget what that psychic said about Pakistan and what a farce it is to bring a husband over from another country. Boy I wish I could have talked to her for longer but it’s taught me that I know myself better than anyone. I know what I’ve tried, I know what I have to live with on a daily basis, I know that I’ve tried to get a job, I’ve tried in person uni I’ve tried everything! I think what I need is therapy… just to be able to talk to someone and get all these things off my chest. Rather than going to someone thinking they are going to tell me what’s wrong with me and what to do. There’s nothing else to do! I’ve tried it all 😭

If nothing it’s taught me I truly don’t need to go to a reader and all the messages come from within me I just need to listen to them. Getting a reading is like getting a drug. I expected a miracle from her. There is no miracle. Just a reality check that my life is what it is and I need to make the best of it. I know it’s not perfect. I know I don’t have many friends. I know I get suicidal thoughts (would never act on them) but I’m trying my absolute best to get out of this rut. Also if she was so darn good she would know that I’ve joined 99% of clubs in my area that I have access to. And I have been consistent.

I’m kind of upset that I opened my heart out to someone for 15 minutes expecting they’d solve all my problems but instead got “attacked” (a term a reader I used to go to used for readings lol) saying I have anxiety and I need to listen to myself etc. etc.

It’s been a lesson though and all it cost was 20 minutes of my time.

[mliva34]

 Been reading your post.. I think a lot of people goes through the same concern whether when they'll meet their person, who and how it will happen. You may be doing other things like school and gym but your focus is still back to the relationship.
I know it's easier said than done.. but you have to learn to first change how you view psychics. They're just like us.. except claims that they can foresee the future.. you're just paying someone who will give you a prediction and you will not know if they are accurate or not until it happens. Any other person can do that for you... but your anxiety seems to calm down when you receive the prediction from a 'psychic'.
When you really focus on you, you're doing things that makes you happy... you give off a different energy to people and that's what attracts people to you. Anyone can tell you that you'll meet someone but ultimately it is up to you how that event or meeting will turn out. What is meant to happen will happen. I believe that our life is already written for us... no psychic can tell you when exactly timing and those who have received exact timing from psychics, I believe they're coincidental.
Things will happen for you at the right time but maybe this time is your time to learn to focus on yourself and love yourself so when that time is right and you meet the person you are destined to meet, you're complete and you only have to do it one time, no back and forth or confusion and no anxiety...

I had a FREE reading from someone who said:
I need to listen to my own self I’ve been listening to all sorts of different people
Forget about the stupid reading I had from the psychic about Pakistan etc.
I need to make friends and go out. Which I literally have tried and tried and tried. It becomes tiring to always go to events full of strangers and not make a friend.
Tbh it was nice to talk to someone but she didn’t tell my anything I didn’t already know, just to forget what that psychic said about Pakistan and what a farce it is to bring a husband over from another country. Boy I wish I could have talked to her for longer but it’s taught me that I know myself better than anyone. I know what I’ve tried, I know what I have to live with on a daily basis, I know that I’ve tried to get a job, I’ve tried in person uni I’ve tried everything! I think what I need is therapy… just to be able to talk to someone and get all these things off my chest. Rather than going to someone thinking they are going to tell me what’s wrong with me and what to do. There’s nothing else to do! I’ve tried it all 😭

If nothing it’s taught me I truly don’t need to go to a reader and all the messages come from within me I just need to listen to them. Getting a reading is like getting a drug. I expected a miracle from her. There is no miracle. Just a reality check that my life is what it is and I need to make the best of it. I know it’s not perfect. I know I don’t have many friends. I know I get suicidal thoughts (would never act on them) but I’m trying my absolute best to get out of this rut. Also if she was so darn good she would know that I’ve joined 99% of clubs in my area that I have access to. And I have been consistent.

I’m kind of upset that I opened my heart out to someone for 15 minutes expecting they’d solve all my problems but instead got “attacked” (a term a reader I used to go to used for readings lol) saying I have anxiety and I need to listen to myself etc. etc.

It’s been a lesson though and all it cost was 20 minutes of my time.

[Notacrystalfreak]

I know in a way I “gave in” but I feel like this reading will last me another year. And it was free. I still learnt something from it.

I’ve decided I would take things one day at a time. Is there a potential in front of me? Do I like them? Do I feel like going abroad? Etc etc. I think when we look too far ahead we get stuck.

I felt like the junkie in me really came out though. Wanting a reading no matter what and wanting it then and there

[Notacrystalfreak]

Been reading your post.. I think a lot of people goes through the same concern whether when they'll meet their person, who and how it will happen. You may be doing other things like school and gym but your focus is still back to the relationship.
I know it's easier said than done.. but you have to learn to first change how you view psychics. They're just like us.. except claims that they can foresee the future.. you're just paying someone who will give you a prediction and you will not know if they are accurate or not until it happens. Any other person can do that for you... but your anxiety seems to calm down when you receive the prediction from a 'psychic'.
When you really focus on you, you're doing things that makes you happy... you give off a different energy to people and that's what attracts people to you. Anyone can tell you that you'll meet someone but ultimately it is up to you how that event or meeting will turn out. What is meant to happen will happen. I believe that our life is already written for us... no psychic can tell you when exactly timing and those who have received exact timing from psychics, I believe they're coincidental.
Things will happen for you at the right time but maybe this time is your time to learn to focus on yourself and love yourself so when that time is right and you meet the person you are destined to meet, you're complete and you only have to do it one time, no back and forth or confusion and no anxiety...

Thank you

[Mina]

I’m not saying readings are good or bad, but to notice that there is some kind hyper fixation, hyper anxiety, hyper focus… and all of that just gets to relax for a bit after a reading for maybe if a second. The body and mind get to stop being on hyper vigilant/ survival mode. This is type self regulation… however for me maladaptive form. The importance is to be able to give myself inner self regulation skills.

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When I’m connected to myself I don’t want a reading, I can hold my heartbreak, I can hold my disappointment with hope… some of I think has been a lot of therapy other times it just age and finally being open to just get it

But it’s true if reading make me feel like junkie, like I need it desperately, then I am avoiding managing my energy

I do think I came into unhealthy energy exchange with advisors. My credit card debt can speak for that. I do believe in paying for readings, and I’m not saying because it was free you shouldn’t poo-poo it or am that judging you for it- but I think we all have own equilibrium of what is healthy and what is not when it comes to readings.

It really is shame that some ppl words had such a huge affect on us. (But to remind you psychics are ppl too, they put on pants and shoes one at time- but to be careful just because some say they are? Are they really or just plain money hungry con artists) Ugh my first reading was this Gypsy who said I had family curse and to pay her $500 to remove it or something ridiculous back in early 2000s- but she ended up being right for my friend who was dating her now husband, that they get married  … of course that would have an effect on anyone psyche. It took years to get over her words, and a lot of self forgiveness and tenderness for that kind gullible-ness, and even naive innocence.
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I agree who in their right mind would marry someone from another country- I’m not saying like against another country, or racism; but a lot of that stuff comes high drama and high anxiety which searching for that kind of relationship kind of is attracting the similar high intensity that brought it in the first place

Keep journaling, keep exercising, and find ways to self regulate that is healthy