Divorces suck and it’s an understatement to even say just like that.
My ex/SP is divorced 3+ years and I would say it’s still too soon that we got involved when we dated. But it did help me understand that his divorce was definitely a life identity change! It’s was traumatic. I also have been recently getting drunk texted messages from a bipolar ex going thru a divorce (which lately has felt an ego win to my dating life) But again truly my condolences.
I believe traumatic events can trigger mania, compulsion, ptsd, addictions. So go with yourself with gentle gloves BUT I do believe these experiences can expand our awareness to be with ourselves in deeper way to handle this tough unimaginable circumstances.
Have you heard of exposure therapy from OCD perspective towards intrusive thoughts? Honestly, my two cents, binges happen, for me, because I give into the intrusive thoughts of not willing to feel uncomfortable and let the thought be there; I give into not accepting of feeling discomfort of the now. You can go the only God knows route… which is an empowering state, and getting angry can enforce a catalyst for change and helps…
But i think to feel better long term, accept you may feel uncomfortable in the now and for awhile. The willingness to feel uncomfortable. It’s form of saying no to life versus yes.
This has helped me to see why i want to call psychics as intrusive thoughts and compulsive habits. The questions I want to ask to view them as intrusive thoughts. The problem solving, or reassurance seeking I get from psychic calling as intrusive compulsion. Those thoughts and questions are so subtle now, and have been in my brain repeating the same neouropathways for awhile! They have a powerful assumption and trigger these very uncomfortable feelings.
For example:
I ask: Is SP dating?
Mentally: well if he’s dating I should move on too. Why can’t I move on? Did our relationship mean anything? How will it last? Crap. Will I ever find anyone?
Psychic: no/yes
But mentally I am stirred so much emotionally by what I asked. It is so charged and so loaded emotion.
So it is very true seek better questions is about asking why you are asking the questions. What the loaded emotion?
NoOCD is channel I like that explains exposure type of therapy I’ve been talking about. I have never been diagnosed OCD but I do think it is spectrum and I do think levels of stress and trauma activate this sh!t!
https://youtu.be/xxFSjmjukDY?si=mMeDJc8B7SoqV_-GCrappychildhoodfairy has grounded meditation, that I really like. It’s part of meditative practice and helps me acknowledge my fears. Her channel deals with cPTSD. And her format is mostly like a dear abbey question and answer. I do enjoy watching her now about once month. But it’s true this meditative practice helps clear the fog in my brain. She also seem to say everyone has limerence (and I kinda disagree with that) but there are videos that tackle bad age advice and tarot cards. A lot of having to be how we were brought up… and I think she is right to see we have cyclic patterns from childhood upbringing. I do recommend her channel if one feels is they are in limerence.
https://youtu.be/lgNcleF-sDk?si=jwsUKThBTVp8SUAcMy new agey books that I really liked
Richard Dotts: manifest as you read and dissolve the problem
Michael James: Feel better no matter what
He has very few clips on YT but his book pretty much compasses this message
https://youtu.be/WtukhXag6dM?si=t9kTviBBHQnZUAfeI also really love coach lee and his coach Rex what they says about manifesting, but they has playlist on facing anxiety, divorce.
If you’re looking for Christian approach for forgiveness. I haven’t read her books but I found these series talks so powerful.
https://youtu.be/cVyQbmKelX4?si=MPP5cj-csyAijsrz