Unless QofC was somehow very off with your situation, I would trust her insight over Neal and Zadalia. I read with all three last year and QofC was the only reader to see kids around my ex and his girlfriend on two separate occasions. Shortly after, my ex confirmed he was dating a woman with two children (they now have a child of their own less than a year after he left me because he happened to get her pregnant 3 months after we officially separated) but I digress... Bottom line, it really depends on the connection you had with all three readers and whether or not you can confirm anything that was said to strengthen their claims. Which reading resonated most with your intuition? Did you provide any kind of leading information that would give them the impression he's involved? Eliminate the fact that both Zadalia and Neal said there is a third party and trust your own judgment. Regardless, I'm sure you'll find out one way or another at some point. Sorry I wasn't much help, but that's just my two cents!