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Do they even deserve us????????
stelka:
Lotusflower,
I agree with you 100%. I've been there (and still am at my weakest moments), focusing on my SM, asking the question 'why is he not calling?', 'when will he call?', checking my phone hundred times a day, analyzing everything, every single word he said and meaning of it, and calling psychics often to hear those words 'he will be back, be patient'. I'm trying to be patient, trying to go with the flow, trying to let the Universe to make it work for me, to let it unfold naturally.
Well I had a beautiful reading with Elijay from CP yesterday and it resonated with me so much. He told me that eventually I will need to make a decision whether to stay with him and accept his flaws or move on. BUT I don't need to make that decision right now. He still has some maturing to do and we can be happy together. He said ' love is a marathon, not a sprint. you should feel good with yourself, and decide what makes YOU happy'.
As for right now my SM would make me happy but I'm trying to be open for other possibilities.
Miracle:
My 2 cents - I had a rough week because suddenly out of nowhere my SM asked for space. We were doing so well together so I had no idea what caused this. In addition, I had some other events (non-SM related) which added to my distress. I got confused, emotional, over-reacted and spoke to psychics. Now, when my SM asked for space, I spoke to my trusted psychic for advice because I knew I couldn't think straight and didn't want to tell him something I would regret later. She gave me the most wonderful advice on how to respond to him an how to deal with it that now I can see things are looking much brighter. I got a lot of support from this forum as well, the people here are wonderful, must say! However, the past week was difficult and I had my moments where I cried my heart out but one thing I made sure to do was to look my best when I would step out of my home. Also, I made sure to exercise everyday and not touch any alcohol. Earlier, I would have resorted to a glass of wine just to calm my nerves but this time I just did not want to and I am happy to say I stayed true to my word despite being tempted. I pampered myself and got a massage, ah, felt so good. I read a lot of relationship articles, chatted with myself to remind me how wonderful, blessed, gorgeous and fortunate I am. I watched funny movies, laughed at silly youtube videos and decided I am going to be super positive. It was hard indeed and I still had my moments when I would breakdown but the way I look at it is, I will not let go of the person I am no matter what the situation is. I might have my moments but I will overcome them. Drinking would only exacerbate my emotions and I didn't want that to happen because I would feel worse the next day. Now a week has passed and I feel so much better. I also actually gave my SM all the time he needs by not really contacting him. Our communication has started again and I can see a much happier, brighter time coming up... stay positive and do whatever it takes to be your fabulous self :)
Elaan:
Gratitude...
Lovely post with great advice. Thank you.
Miracle:
Elaan, thanks, glad you liked it :)
Just read an interesting quote today which I wanted to share... It read:
A boy asked his mom: "How will I be able to find the right woman for me?" The mom answered: "Don't worry about finding the right woman, concentrate on becoming the right man." So simple, yet so meaningful and of course, the same applies to women as well.
wishfulthinker:
--- Quote from: Gratitude on April 01, 2012, 06:17:22 PM ---Elaan, thanks, glad you liked it :)
Just read an interesting quote today which I wanted to share... It read:
A boy asked his mom: "How will I be able to find the right woman for me?" The mom answered: "Don't worry about finding the right woman, concentrate on becoming the right man." So simple, yet so meaningful and of course, the same applies to women as well.
Gratitude.....Thanks for sharing this. :D
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