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court1130:

--- Quote from: snowcrab on October 09, 2020, 12:26:33 AM ---You are sooo right Court! I found that sometimes when I get a reading if they say something different than what my gut is telling me, I'll lose all trust in myself. And then I'll get another reading and then I lose myself. That doesn't happen to me much anymore, but I remember just not feeling good or "right" about the situation.

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Exactly! Psychic binging leads to inaccuracies, self-doubt and further confusion, imo.

snowcrab:

--- Quote from: court1130 on October 09, 2020, 12:49:12 AM ---
--- Quote from: snowcrab on October 09, 2020, 12:26:33 AM ---You are sooo right Court! I found that sometimes when I get a reading if they say something different than what my gut is telling me, I'll lose all trust in myself. And then I'll get another reading and then I lose myself. That doesn't happen to me much anymore, but I remember just not feeling good or "right" about the situation.

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Exactly! Psychic binging leads to inaccuracies, self-doubt and further confusion, imo.

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Could not agree with you more! In the moment its hard to get out of it, but in retrospect that is exactly what happens!

russianred:
<3 <3 <3 For me this is a good reminder that I cannot my life on hold for a POI or predictions.  Unless the breakup was for a trivial reason, it's likely that history is going to repeat itself anyway.  I do believe that people can change but after age 30 or so, it takes a concerted effort and commitment to doing so.  And it's so right that we have the answers within ourselves... I like that readings sometimes offer a new perspective or put things in a way we haven't thought of before, but if we keep feeling a certain way despite all these readings, then that gut feeling probably means something.  In retrospect, did I ever feel truly at peace after a reading?  No.

court1130:

--- Quote from: Generations773 on October 11, 2020, 09:15:36 AM ---We know that too, but sometimes its hard to not doing anything

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Absolutely and that's the addiction part of it. The urge to talk to anyone that can make you feel better for just a split second , even when your gut tells you otherwise. It's a vicious cycle and something that needs to be broken sooner rather than later. At the end of the day, the pain and hurt is still there and something we need to work thru on our own. Like OP said, her ex came back years after the fact and had she worked thru the pain without readings, she would've likely gotten passed it much faster. She also said she knew they had a cycle, so maybe the relationship was destined to just be a learning experience or maybe the potential is there for long-term commitment. BUT, cycles can only be completed if both people are willing to do the inner work. If not, then nothing will progress. I can relate to OP's situation that the ex is not ready to evolve and become the person he's meant to become right now and he may not ever get there in this lifetime. Therefore, the past cycle will continue and the  relationship can't evolve into it's true potential. Personally, I live with the hope that it'll work out, but I ultimately put more focus and effort into working on myself in the meantime. I have no control over the situation and I'm accepting that more and more everyday. Don't get me wrong - I still get readings here and there and I'm not completely weaned off. But, I definitely am in a better place than I was 3 months ago. Moral of the story and as cliche as it is, you are exactly where you're supposed to be right now and whatever is meant to be for you, will always find a way back to you. Have faith that the universe does have your back.

snowcrab:
I agree with you all! As You said court, for me I have and am still working on trusting in the universe that whatever is supposed to happen will, and put it in the hands of the universe. I still love reading with a good empath, but as Russian red said, she doesn’t feel at peace after a reading. I have to agree with that, especially if I’m getting a reading for answers. For me it’s hard to tell what is legit or not. I’ve had two different readers give me two outcomes that are the exact opposite when I’ve asked the same question. And then for me, readers who have gotten predictions right in previous reads, have been wrong in other reads. So it’s like there are no true readers who are consistently accurate for me.

But at the end of the day, if we are reading about an ex, we know them pretty well and their behaviors and the dynamic of the relationship. I feel like we do have the answers. Perfect example: I have Facebook, and I wanted to deactivate it a couple years ago. Something in my gut told me to hold off, bc I had a feeling my ex would reconnect somehow via Facebook (even tho he still had my number). Well, yea that’s how we initially reconnected. It’s cheesy and childish but idk it just shows how we have the answers.

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