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my lesson - Men who drive you to call
maggs30:
I agree with this mostly. I still call on occasion because I'm so fucked up from my last relationships I go into anxiety attacks. You want to know how tiny of a thing can set me off? Him texting Goodnight instead of goodnight babe... One time. My brain goes straight to he's getting ready to break up with me. My point is don't ignore red flags. Don't trust psychics every word. But don't let your intuition be overtaken by anxiety from your past either. I could have messed up my relationship a ton of times without QofCs reassurance sometimes once a week.
russianred:
--- Quote from: maggs30 on September 27, 2020, 05:56:12 PM ---I agree with this mostly. I still call on occasion because I'm so fucked up from my last relationships I go into anxiety attacks. You want to know how tiny of a thing can set me off? Him texting Goodnight instead of goodnight babe... One time. My brain goes straight to he's getting ready to break up with me. My point is don't ignore red flags. Don't trust psychics every word. But don't let your intuition be overtaken by anxiety from your past either. I could have messed up my relationship a ton of times without QofCs reassurance sometimes once a week.
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I see what you're saying. I also struggle with anxiety, and that was a main reason I continued to call. I would want the readers to tell me that it was all in my head and my anxiety. I would tell myself that the money was well-spent if it kept me from ruining the relationship. I don't want to freak you out, but in my experience, I also obsessed over things like wording, and I think that's because I wasn't getting security in other ways. It may truly just be anxiety speaking but if the gnawing feeling doesn't go away, it may be guidance trying to tell you something.
maggs30:
--- Quote from: russianred on September 27, 2020, 06:27:54 PM ---
--- Quote from: maggs30 on September 27, 2020, 05:56:12 PM ---I agree with this mostly. I still call on occasion because I'm so fucked up from my last relationships I go into anxiety attacks. You want to know how tiny of a thing can set me off? Him texting Goodnight instead of goodnight babe... One time. My brain goes straight to he's getting ready to break up with me. My point is don't ignore red flags. Don't trust psychics every word. But don't let your intuition be overtaken by anxiety from your past either. I could have messed up my relationship a ton of times without QofCs reassurance sometimes once a week.
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I see what you're saying. I also struggle with anxiety, and that was a main reason I continued to call. I would want the readers to tell me that it was all in my head and my anxiety. I would tell myself that the money was well-spent if it kept me from ruining the relationship. I don't want to freak you out, but in my experience, I also obsessed over things like wording, and I think that's because I wasn't getting security in other ways. It may truly just be anxiety speaking but if the gnawing feeling doesn't go away, it may be guidance trying to tell you something.
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Thanks for your insight. I know that mine is 100% anxiety. This man has helped clean my house, prune my trees, cooks me dinner. He tells me how special he thinks I am. But let him not call me babe or not text for a few hours and I'm a mess. Its insane and QofCs has yelled at me plenty of times that its my anxiety and I know it is so stop it lmao. Of course mine was caused by being married to a narcissist for 26 years. Stay strong ladies.
russianred:
I'm happy for you that you found someone who treats you properly. I'm hoping to do the same. Sigh.
Kkbich2014:
--- Quote from: maggs30 on September 27, 2020, 05:56:12 PM ---I agree with this mostly. I still call on occasion because I'm so fucked up from my last relationships I go into anxiety attacks. You want to know how tiny of a thing can set me off? Him texting Goodnight instead of goodnight babe... One time. My brain goes straight to he's getting ready to break up with me. My point is don't ignore red flags. Don't trust psychics every word. But don't let your intuition be overtaken by anxiety from your past either. I could have messed up my relationship a ton of times without QofCs reassurance sometimes once a week.
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I totally agree with this! This sounds just like me. The relationship could be going perfectly fine but here I go calling and calling... my anxiety has ruined plenty of good relationships especially if a psychic gave bad news... relationship over. It’s a fine balance between recognizing the red flags with men and our own insecurity and anxiety...
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