Sincerity

[flora0250]

I’ve had mixed results in terms of predictions passing, but definitely NOT the throwing spaghetti at the wall to see what sticks experience. Her readings in my case were extremely specific. I would say though that I asked her about 3 different POIs over the last 6 months.

The first one she seemed to pick up on present circumstances well but absolutely nothing came true with him.

The second person she did get quite a bit right about, specific information. I’ll have to come back and fill in the details because I don’t remember now but I wrote about it in other posts.

The third person - wow - she picked up on SO many specific details and I have had some things come to pass. For instance I asked about if he had taken his dating site profile down for good. She said I would see it again within a 2.  Two days later it showed up again. She told me I would have a better chance for reconnection from him in November and I did hear from him end of November. One of the most accurate things was that she told me I was going to be really confused by the next contact I had with him and that it would be by text. And I would be wondering well wait, is he really interested? What did this mean? And this is exactly how it unfolded and what is happening now. But she said the next communication things would be clearer and he would be more clear and make plans but that it wouldn’t be right away and I might still think for a while what’s going on here?

So I don’t know how the rest will play out but she definitely has a gift. I don’t know why she was completely wrong it seems with the first guy.

This kind of experience makes me wonder if sometimes when you do establish a good connection with a reader, maybe they get better at reading for you the more they read with you? Idk. This is just a theory I’m wondering about.

Maybe she’ll be wrong about the other predictions with this POI for all I know. But I had to say this - and she also gave me a TON of validating info about the present that definitely was not general. She’s a great empath at the very least IMO.

[SGVues]

Hi Flora
 
Thanks for your detailed review.
I agree with you and feel that Sincerity is certainly gifted. As you say, whether or not predictions come to be true also depends upon the connection established during the reading.
I did feel that she connected with me very well. Two of her minor predictions materialised within weeks of my reading with her! This is the first time psychic predictions have unfolded for me so I am excited even though these are really minor ones that do not affect my life.
The best thing that has happened since reading with her is that my psychic bingeing has stopped.
She described this person who will create issues once things progress between me and my POI. This person is exactly the way Sincerity described her! Sincerity brought up this person with no prodding from me.

She told me not to worry about it as things will slowly die down. She also told me to stop doubting and worrying about my situation and that things will work out.

I didn’t tell her about my worry or doubts, she picked those up herself. She had also picked up details about my POI, that we met at work and deal with the same subject.
Other psychics have asked me where we met or when was the last time I saw him. Sincerity did not ask me any questions at all.

She was very kind and it was lovely to speak to her. It would hurt if the main prediction does not work out after all of this. I am not fussed about timelines. Will see how things go.

[Miss Philosopher]

Hi All. I started reading with Sincerity here and there after Kisha (Aries Intuition) retired in 2023. I'm still super heartbroken over her retirement and feel so lost. I've been searching for another her or at least someone similar to her ever since. Anyway, I wanted to share my experiences with Sincerity here.

5/15/2023 reading: This was my first reading with her. I called her about the current man I'm or was in a relationship with. We've lived together since May of 2021. In this reading, I called her because he was on drugs so bad and the relationship just felt non-existent, just so disconnected and I couldn't see any light at the end of the tunnel. This is the same dude that Aries saw coming in to my life back in her 2018, 2019, and 2020 readings. Sincerity had told me that she saw me all dressed up and ready to go out and that he'd surprise me with something and to watch for that between the time of the reading and July. Literally 5 days later, he took me out to a very romantic anniversary dinner and dance night. I did get all dressed up. Unfortunately, that energy was very short-lived and lasted for only two or three days then back to disconnected. She did tell me that he would completely stop doing drugs and get sober but that it would take awhile and the timing was an issue for me. At that time, I'd been blaming his awful behavior on drugs. Beginning January 1, 2024 he DID quit drugs, cold turkey and he hasn't touched any since, so nearly a year now. I don't remember anything else from that reading as I didn't record it.

July 11, 2023 reading: His bday was July 8th and I went out with him to his "friend's" house aka drug dealers house. I don't do drugs. Never have. We were supposed to just stop by there and then leave to go out for his bday. We ended up staying there until 5am. It ended up being a terrible night. He wanted to start talking about our relationship to this guy and this guy's girlfriend. So, naturally, I added my two cents in because of course he wasn't sharing all the messed up things he constantly was doing such as, not coming home at night until the next morning, then it escalated to him not coming home for days. He used to tell me it was the drugs that kept him out and I believed him. Anyway, I ended up drinking 14 beers that night and ended up slapping the shit out of him. That was all the pent up hurt, anger, and pain he's inflicted on me since September of 2021. Sincerity said he wanted me to be accountable for my actions, apologize etc. I already had done that because at the end of the day it wasn't right for me to put my hands on him. I wouldn't have had I not drank 14 beers lol. She said he was going to threaten to leave and move out but that he'd end up not moving out and deciding in August that he wanted to remain in the relationship. HIS definition of "relationship" that is. She was right. He packed some bags and told me he was going to stay somewhere else, and that he hated me etc. But he didn't end up leaving. It's probably because I begged him not to and was super apologetic but then again, he does play a lot of mind games in an attempt to maintain control. I don't remember anything else from that reading.

August 7, 2024 reading: I called her again because the relationship felt like it was basically over. Even though he's been sober since January, he still didn't stop disappearing for days and the length of time he'd leave for become longer and longer up to a week at a time sometimes. I just felt fed up and I wanted to see if she saw anyone else new coming into my life. I messed up and didn't ask her about anyone new. I asked her about him and then ran out of time to ask about anyone new. She told me that he was having commitment issues and that he felt the relationship with me was complicated. She said there's a shift at the end of the year. The gap between us where there are differences, where he goes hot and cold, there’s a shift that will be taking place by the end of this year. The shift will take place where he’s making his mind up and making some efforts. He will work through some of his issues. There are issues with his mom that will be coming out in the forefront. He will definitely make his mind up with what he wants. There is more to come from him. Further ahead, he has a conversation with me about not wanting to hurt my feelings, but rather, he wants to turn things around. He will want to know if I want to continue down this path. He’s going to come with a conversation that’s going to shock me because it shows him trying to fight for the relationship with me. I will say there indeed has been a shift. It was me shifting into I'VE HAD ENOUGH and PLEASE MOVE OUT. She said she did not see him gone and that this would continue. The other part hasn't happened yet which brings me to my next and very last reading with her so far. I'd like to note that I can't imagine him coming at me with a conversation nor fighting for this relationship at all whatsover. He hasn't done that since 2021. In fact, all he ever says is that he loves me but he wants to be alone and single because relationships require too much. That's been his mantra for over a year now and his behavior toward me has validated that.

11/14/2024 reading - This reading was very similar to the last one but more details. She said he was on a mission for himself right now. She said there's a shift taking place at the end of the month (November) and it's me that causes the shift. She said she saw me nudging him, warning him that I wanted something different that what I'd been getting. She saw me really lay it out there. To her credit, I'd been doing the nudging and warning him since like August of 2024 but it continued to escalate until I lost my shit at the end of November because he'd disappeared again for like 4 days. That was it. I'd had it. I told him I didn't want to be in the situation anymore, didn't want to live together anymore and that I deserved better. He actually listened to me this time. Pause here to share what else she said. She said there was a brief pause between us aka breakup in the early part of the new year only for him to come back and make a promise and a commitment between then and March. She said he's going to move and he says well alright I'll go then but then doesn't go because she saw him staying and dealing with the situation. She said he'll stop wanting to go out with friends that much and ties will be cut with a certain tribe of friends he has and he'll want to put his focus on spending more time around me and putting effort into the relationship. I will say that as of the moment I'm writing this, he has moved a few of his things out. He still has most of his stuff here but he indeed has moved some things out and he's spending more time at his own place than he is here. I actually never thought I'd see this day because I thought he'd turn things around long before it got to this point. She said he's scared to lose me and doesn't really want to leave me. He actually SAID he was scared but for some reason, he's pushing forward with this. I guess it's easier to just dip out than to take accountability and responsibility for one's terrible behavior and implement corrective action. I guess it's all that "love" he feels for me that motivates him to dip out.

All that said, I can't really imagine that things will turn around and he'll suddenly decide to commit. If he's been in confusion mode for 3 out of the 3 and a half years we've been together, then I'm obviously not the one for him and he isn't the one for me. Even if he DID do a 180 and "committed" I'd always be wondering when he'll change his mind/feelings for me yet again without telling me and me just having to figure it out based upon his emotional and energetic distance since he's apparently too much of a coward to communicate what it really is. However, what Sincerity said would happen so far with the "pause aka breakup" and the "move" is indeed happening now. I just don't see the rest of it happening as she said it would.

Additionally, I'm still waiting on readings from Kisha to come to pass from August 2021 where she said I'd be very satisfied with the level of commitment my partner is giving to me and they do something to really solidify it which could only mean engagement/marriage - and her October 2022 reading where she said there'd be a shift in my relationship to where things were finally give and take, back and forth and things that have been unfair to me and things I've put out would finally be reciprocated but that it would be bittersweet to me because of everything I'd have to endure before getting to that point because in the interim communication would be off/absent, I'd feel suspicious and like I couldn't trust the person I was with, that things would be completely unfair to me, that there would be lots of ups and downs and distance - and her February 2023 reading which some of it seems to be playing out now where she said there's an ending to a toxic relationship but it wasn't a bad ending and it was me holding a flag (I assume this is an I give the fk up flag) but then my love life took a total 180 and someone was going to want to marry me. She couldn't see who, she couldn't see when, she couldn't see the relationship in between, but somehow she COULD see that the marriage was comfortable, I was excited to be with said person, I had no hesitations with said person, it was stable and committed, and that it would require a move for me.

If I compare Kisha's readings to Sincerity's readings, they would all seem to point to him being the one that does the 180 flip, becoming a better man with a new energy, and be the one that wants to marry me. HOWEVER, I'm having a problem seeing that. Maybe Sincerity was seeing another guy that was going to commit to me or something. Maybe she was getting energies mixed up. Or maybe the person Kisha said was going to want to marry me isn't a brand new person, but rather him appearing as a new person after he gets his act together.

Readings can be confusing and dangerous and quite frankly, I'm tired of holding on and I'm tired of believing them even if they do come true.

What I really need to do is ask myself, why the fk would I want to even entertain the idea of being with a person that's put me through so much hell, so much heartbreak, so much neglect, so much emotional and mental manipulation, so much pain, and has been nothing but a total set back for me in my healing journey? WHY? That is the self work I need to do on myself. I've learned a lot through being with this person but I can't see myself giving my heart to him again or ever trusting him without any hesitations ever again. WHY do I keep attracting men and going for men that need to be healed, rescued, helped? WHY am I so low maintenance and accepting of crumbs? I deserve better. I deserve someone that I don't have to be afraid of giving my whole self to. I deserve someone that I can trust and is reliable and consistent. I deserve someone that truly loves ME, not what I can do for them or how I can be relied upon as a staple in their lives when shit hits the fan. I deserve to be LOVED.

Sorry for the rant but I'm so heartbroken and I'm so tired now. I'm too old to be playing these silly push/pull relationship games. I just want to be in a relationship where I can just BE. I can just be ME at all times. I wish the same for everyone here.

[flora0250]

I’m so, so sorry Miss that you’re going through this. Sending lots of positive energy and hugs your way.

[Miss Philosopher]

@flora0250 Thank you hun. I appreciate your kind words. Likewise. Just life lesson 1,001 right?

[SGVues]

Hi Miss

So sorry that you have been going through this! I think the best way to get over this is practising self love. You certainly deserve the best and the one who will do right by you. It appears that you love this man more than you do yourself. You tend to love men who are in need of help as you are  a nurturing and kind soul who likes to pour out all her love on the one she loves. Never mind getting that love back.

But now it looks like you have begun to feel that this is all so wrong. Your self worth matters and you deserve that selfless love as well. I feel that this is a good sign in itself. The fact that you want your self worth to be valued. It may be a step forward to the process of nurturing yourself. Loving and living for yourself at first. I believe doing that and staying positive will attract positive energy towards yourself and you will be able to find someone who will love and cherish you.
May this Holiday Season start a new beginning in your life! May you find true love and peace.
While you switch to the mode of self love and expect nothing, you could see if the remaining part of Sincerity and Kisha’s predictions come to fruition.
They have both said he will change for the better which means you won’t have to compromise on your self worth. I really hope that turns out to be true for you.

Take care xx

Hi All. I started reading with Sincerity here and there after Kisha (Aries Intuition) retired in 2023. I'm still super heartbroken over her retirement and feel so lost. I've been searching for another her or at least someone similar to her ever since. Anyway, I wanted to share my experiences with Sincerity here.

5/15/2023 reading: This was my first reading with her. I called her about the current man I'm or was in a relationship with. We've lived together since May of 2021. In this reading, I called her because he was on drugs so bad and the relationship just felt non-existent, just so disconnected and I couldn't see any light at the end of the tunnel. This is the same dude that Aries saw coming in to my life back in her 2018, 2019, and 2020 readings. Sincerity had told me that she saw me all dressed up and ready to go out and that he'd surprise me with something and to watch for that between the time of the reading and July. Literally 5 days later, he took me out to a very romantic anniversary dinner and dance night. I did get all dressed up. Unfortunately, that energy was very short-lived and lasted for only two or three days then back to disconnected. She did tell me that he would completely stop doing drugs and get sober but that it would take awhile and the timing was an issue for me. At that time, I'd been blaming his awful behavior on drugs. Beginning January 1, 2024 he DID quit drugs, cold turkey and he hasn't touched any since, so nearly a year now. I don't remember anything else from that reading as I didn't record it.

July 11, 2023 reading: His bday was July 8th and I went out with him to his "friend's" house aka drug dealers house. I don't do drugs. Never have. We were supposed to just stop by there and then leave to go out for his bday. We ended up staying there until 5am. It ended up being a terrible night. He wanted to start talking about our relationship to this guy and this guy's girlfriend. So, naturally, I added my two cents in because of course he wasn't sharing all the messed up things he constantly was doing such as, not coming home at night until the next morning, then it escalated to him not coming home for days. He used to tell me it was the drugs that kept him out and I believed him. Anyway, I ended up drinking 14 beers that night and ended up slapping the shit out of him. That was all the pent up hurt, anger, and pain he's inflicted on me since September of 2021. Sincerity said he wanted me to be accountable for my actions, apologize etc. I already had done that because at the end of the day it wasn't right for me to put my hands on him. I wouldn't have had I not drank 14 beers lol. She said he was going to threaten to leave and move out but that he'd end up not moving out and deciding in August that he wanted to remain in the relationship. HIS definition of "relationship" that is. She was right. He packed some bags and told me he was going to stay somewhere else, and that he hated me etc. But he didn't end up leaving. It's probably because I begged him not to and was super apologetic but then again, he does play a lot of mind games in an attempt to maintain control. I don't remember anything else from that reading.

August 7, 2024 reading: I called her again because the relationship felt like it was basically over. Even though he's been sober since January, he still didn't stop disappearing for days and the length of time he'd leave for become longer and longer up to a week at a time sometimes. I just felt fed up and I wanted to see if she saw anyone else new coming into my life. I messed up and didn't ask her about anyone new. I asked her about him and then ran out of time to ask about anyone new. She told me that he was having commitment issues and that he felt the relationship with me was complicated. She said there's a shift at the end of the year. The gap between us where there are differences, where he goes hot and cold, there’s a shift that will be taking place by the end of this year. The shift will take place where he’s making his mind up and making some efforts. He will work through some of his issues. There are issues with his mom that will be coming out in the forefront. He will definitely make his mind up with what he wants. There is more to come from him. Further ahead, he has a conversation with me about not wanting to hurt my feelings, but rather, he wants to turn things around. He will want to know if I want to continue down this path. He’s going to come with a conversation that’s going to shock me because it shows him trying to fight for the relationship with me. I will say there indeed has been a shift. It was me shifting into I'VE HAD ENOUGH and PLEASE MOVE OUT. She said she did not see him gone and that this would continue. The other part hasn't happened yet which brings me to my next and very last reading with her so far. I'd like to note that I can't imagine him coming at me with a conversation nor fighting for this relationship at all whatsover. He hasn't done that since 2021. In fact, all he ever says is that he loves me but he wants to be alone and single because relationships require too much. That's been his mantra for over a year now and his behavior toward me has validated that.

11/14/2024 reading - This reading was very similar to the last one but more details. She said he was on a mission for himself right now. She said there's a shift taking place at the end of the month (November) and it's me that causes the shift. She said she saw me nudging him, warning him that I wanted something different that what I'd been getting. She saw me really lay it out there. To her credit, I'd been doing the nudging and warning him since like August of 2024 but it continued to escalate until I lost my shit at the end of November because he'd disappeared again for like 4 days. That was it. I'd had it. I told him I didn't want to be in the situation anymore, didn't want to live together anymore and that I deserved better. He actually listened to me this time. Pause here to share what else she said. She said there was a brief pause between us aka breakup in the early part of the new year only for him to come back and make a promise and a commitment between then and March. She said he's going to move and he says well alright I'll go then but then doesn't go because she saw him staying and dealing with the situation. She said he'll stop wanting to go out with friends that much and ties will be cut with a certain tribe of friends he has and he'll want to put his focus on spending more time around me and putting effort into the relationship. I will say that as of the moment I'm writing this, he has moved a few of his things out. He still has most of his stuff here but he indeed has moved some things out and he's spending more time at his own place than he is here. I actually never thought I'd see this day because I thought he'd turn things around long before it got to this point. She said he's scared to lose me and doesn't really want to leave me. He actually SAID he was scared but for some reason, he's pushing forward with this. I guess it's easier to just dip out than to take accountability and responsibility for one's terrible behavior and implement corrective action. I guess it's all that "love" he feels for me that motivates him to dip out.

All that said, I can't really imagine that things will turn around and he'll suddenly decide to commit. If he's been in confusion mode for 3 out of the 3 and a half years we've been together, then I'm obviously not the one for him and he isn't the one for me. Even if he DID do a 180 and "committed" I'd always be wondering when he'll change his mind/feelings for me yet again without telling me and me just having to figure it out based upon his emotional and energetic distance since he's apparently too much of a coward to communicate what it really is. However, what Sincerity said would happen so far with the "pause aka breakup" and the "move" is indeed happening now. I just don't see the rest of it happening as she said it would.

Additionally, I'm still waiting on readings from Kisha to come to pass from August 2021 where she said I'd be very satisfied with the level of commitment my partner is giving to me and they do something to really solidify it which could only mean engagement/marriage - and her October 2022 reading where she said there'd be a shift in my relationship to where things were finally give and take, back and forth and things that have been unfair to me and things I've put out would finally be reciprocated but that it would be bittersweet to me because of everything I'd have to endure before getting to that point because in the interim communication would be off/absent, I'd feel suspicious and like I couldn't trust the person I was with, that things would be completely unfair to me, that there would be lots of ups and downs and distance - and her February 2023 reading which some of it seems to be playing out now where she said there's an ending to a toxic relationship but it wasn't a bad ending and it was me holding a flag (I assume this is an I give the fk up flag) but then my love life took a total 180 and someone was going to want to marry me. She couldn't see who, she couldn't see when, she couldn't see the relationship in between, but somehow she COULD see that the marriage was comfortable, I was excited to be with said person, I had no hesitations with said person, it was stable and committed, and that it would require a move for me.

If I compare Kisha's readings to Sincerity's readings, they would all seem to point to him being the one that does the 180 flip, becoming a better man with a new energy, and be the one that wants to marry me. HOWEVER, I'm having a problem seeing that. Maybe Sincerity was seeing another guy that was going to commit to me or something. Maybe she was getting energies mixed up. Or maybe the person Kisha said was going to want to marry me isn't a brand new person, but rather him appearing as a new person after he gets his act together.

Readings can be confusing and dangerous and quite frankly, I'm tired of holding on and I'm tired of believing them even if they do come true.

What I really need to do is ask myself, why the fk would I want to even entertain the idea of being with a person that's put me through so much hell, so much heartbreak, so much neglect, so much emotional and mental manipulation, so much pain, and has been nothing but a total set back for me in my healing journey? WHY? That is the self work I need to do on myself. I've learned a lot through being with this person but I can't see myself giving my heart to him again or ever trusting him without any hesitations ever again. WHY do I keep attracting men and going for men that need to be healed, rescued, helped? WHY am I so low maintenance and accepting of crumbs? I deserve better. I deserve someone that I don't have to be afraid of giving my whole self to. I deserve someone that I can trust and is reliable and consistent. I deserve someone that truly loves ME, not what I can do for them or how I can be relied upon as a staple in their lives when shit hits the fan. I deserve to be LOVED.

Sorry for the rant but I'm so heartbroken and I'm so tired now. I'm too old to be playing these silly push/pull relationship games. I just want to be in a relationship where I can just BE. I can just be ME at all times. I wish the same for everyone here.

[serenejoy]

Hi All. I started reading with Sincerity here and there after Kisha (Aries Intuition) retired in 2023. I'm still super heartbroken over her retirement and feel so lost. I've been searching for another her or at least someone similar to her ever since. Anyway, I wanted to share my experiences with Sincerity here.

5/15/2023 reading: This was my first reading with her. I called her about the current man I'm or was in a relationship with. We've lived together since May of 2021. In this reading, I called her because he was on drugs so bad and the relationship just felt non-existent, just so disconnected and I couldn't see any light at the end of the tunnel. This is the same dude that Aries saw coming in to my life back in her 2018, 2019, and 2020 readings. Sincerity had told me that she saw me all dressed up and ready to go out and that he'd surprise me with something and to watch for that between the time of the reading and July. Literally 5 days later, he took me out to a very romantic anniversary dinner and dance night. I did get all dressed up. Unfortunately, that energy was very short-lived and lasted for only two or three days then back to disconnected. She did tell me that he would completely stop doing drugs and get sober but that it would take awhile and the timing was an issue for me. At that time, I'd been blaming his awful behavior on drugs. Beginning January 1, 2024 he DID quit drugs, cold turkey and he hasn't touched any since, so nearly a year now. I don't remember anything else from that reading as I didn't record it.

July 11, 2023 reading: His bday was July 8th and I went out with him to his "friend's" house aka drug dealers house. I don't do drugs. Never have. We were supposed to just stop by there and then leave to go out for his bday. We ended up staying there until 5am. It ended up being a terrible night. He wanted to start talking about our relationship to this guy and this guy's girlfriend. So, naturally, I added my two cents in because of course he wasn't sharing all the messed up things he constantly was doing such as, not coming home at night until the next morning, then it escalated to him not coming home for days. He used to tell me it was the drugs that kept him out and I believed him. Anyway, I ended up drinking 14 beers that night and ended up slapping the shit out of him. That was all the pent up hurt, anger, and pain he's inflicted on me since September of 2021. Sincerity said he wanted me to be accountable for my actions, apologize etc. I already had done that because at the end of the day it wasn't right for me to put my hands on him. I wouldn't have had I not drank 14 beers lol. She said he was going to threaten to leave and move out but that he'd end up not moving out and deciding in August that he wanted to remain in the relationship. HIS definition of "relationship" that is. She was right. He packed some bags and told me he was going to stay somewhere else, and that he hated me etc. But he didn't end up leaving. It's probably because I begged him not to and was super apologetic but then again, he does play a lot of mind games in an attempt to maintain control. I don't remember anything else from that reading.

August 7, 2024 reading: I called her again because the relationship felt like it was basically over. Even though he's been sober since January, he still didn't stop disappearing for days and the length of time he'd leave for become longer and longer up to a week at a time sometimes. I just felt fed up and I wanted to see if she saw anyone else new coming into my life. I messed up and didn't ask her about anyone new. I asked her about him and then ran out of time to ask about anyone new. She told me that he was having commitment issues and that he felt the relationship with me was complicated. She said there's a shift at the end of the year. The gap between us where there are differences, where he goes hot and cold, there’s a shift that will be taking place by the end of this year. The shift will take place where he’s making his mind up and making some efforts. He will work through some of his issues. There are issues with his mom that will be coming out in the forefront. He will definitely make his mind up with what he wants. There is more to come from him. Further ahead, he has a conversation with me about not wanting to hurt my feelings, but rather, he wants to turn things around. He will want to know if I want to continue down this path. He’s going to come with a conversation that’s going to shock me because it shows him trying to fight for the relationship with me. I will say there indeed has been a shift. It was me shifting into I'VE HAD ENOUGH and PLEASE MOVE OUT. She said she did not see him gone and that this would continue. The other part hasn't happened yet which brings me to my next and very last reading with her so far. I'd like to note that I can't imagine him coming at me with a conversation nor fighting for this relationship at all whatsover. He hasn't done that since 2021. In fact, all he ever says is that he loves me but he wants to be alone and single because relationships require too much. That's been his mantra for over a year now and his behavior toward me has validated that.

11/14/2024 reading - This reading was very similar to the last one but more details. She said he was on a mission for himself right now. She said there's a shift taking place at the end of the month (November) and it's me that causes the shift. She said she saw me nudging him, warning him that I wanted something different that what I'd been getting. She saw me really lay it out there. To her credit, I'd been doing the nudging and warning him since like August of 2024 but it continued to escalate until I lost my shit at the end of November because he'd disappeared again for like 4 days. That was it. I'd had it. I told him I didn't want to be in the situation anymore, didn't want to live together anymore and that I deserved better. He actually listened to me this time. Pause here to share what else she said. She said there was a brief pause between us aka breakup in the early part of the new year only for him to come back and make a promise and a commitment between then and March. She said he's going to move and he says well alright I'll go then but then doesn't go because she saw him staying and dealing with the situation. She said he'll stop wanting to go out with friends that much and ties will be cut with a certain tribe of friends he has and he'll want to put his focus on spending more time around me and putting effort into the relationship. I will say that as of the moment I'm writing this, he has moved a few of his things out. He still has most of his stuff here but he indeed has moved some things out and he's spending more time at his own place than he is here. I actually never thought I'd see this day because I thought he'd turn things around long before it got to this point. She said he's scared to lose me and doesn't really want to leave me. He actually SAID he was scared but for some reason, he's pushing forward with this. I guess it's easier to just dip out than to take accountability and responsibility for one's terrible behavior and implement corrective action. I guess it's all that "love" he feels for me that motivates him to dip out.

All that said, I can't really imagine that things will turn around and he'll suddenly decide to commit. If he's been in confusion mode for 3 out of the 3 and a half years we've been together, then I'm obviously not the one for him and he isn't the one for me. Even if he DID do a 180 and "committed" I'd always be wondering when he'll change his mind/feelings for me yet again without telling me and me just having to figure it out based upon his emotional and energetic distance since he's apparently too much of a coward to communicate what it really is. However, what Sincerity said would happen so far with the "pause aka breakup" and the "move" is indeed happening now. I just don't see the rest of it happening as she said it would.

Additionally, I'm still waiting on readings from Kisha to come to pass from August 2021 where she said I'd be very satisfied with the level of commitment my partner is giving to me and they do something to really solidify it which could only mean engagement/marriage - and her October 2022 reading where she said there'd be a shift in my relationship to where things were finally give and take, back and forth and things that have been unfair to me and things I've put out would finally be reciprocated but that it would be bittersweet to me because of everything I'd have to endure before getting to that point because in the interim communication would be off/absent, I'd feel suspicious and like I couldn't trust the person I was with, that things would be completely unfair to me, that there would be lots of ups and downs and distance - and her February 2023 reading which some of it seems to be playing out now where she said there's an ending to a toxic relationship but it wasn't a bad ending and it was me holding a flag (I assume this is an I give the fk up flag) but then my love life took a total 180 and someone was going to want to marry me. She couldn't see who, she couldn't see when, she couldn't see the relationship in between, but somehow she COULD see that the marriage was comfortable, I was excited to be with said person, I had no hesitations with said person, it was stable and committed, and that it would require a move for me.

If I compare Kisha's readings to Sincerity's readings, they would all seem to point to him being the one that does the 180 flip, becoming a better man with a new energy, and be the one that wants to marry me. HOWEVER, I'm having a problem seeing that. Maybe Sincerity was seeing another guy that was going to commit to me or something. Maybe she was getting energies mixed up. Or maybe the person Kisha said was going to want to marry me isn't a brand new person, but rather him appearing as a new person after he gets his act together.

Readings can be confusing and dangerous and quite frankly, I'm tired of holding on and I'm tired of believing them even if they do come true.

What I really need to do is ask myself, why the fk would I want to even entertain the idea of being with a person that's put me through so much hell, so much heartbreak, so much neglect, so much emotional and mental manipulation, so much pain, and has been nothing but a total set back for me in my healing journey? WHY? That is the self work I need to do on myself. I've learned a lot through being with this person but I can't see myself giving my heart to him again or ever trusting him without any hesitations ever again. WHY do I keep attracting men and going for men that need to be healed, rescued, helped? WHY am I so low maintenance and accepting of crumbs? I deserve better. I deserve someone that I don't have to be afraid of giving my whole self to. I deserve someone that I can trust and is reliable and consistent. I deserve someone that truly loves ME, not what I can do for them or how I can be relied upon as a staple in their lives when shit hits the fan. I deserve to be LOVED.

Sorry for the rant but I'm so heartbroken and I'm so tired now. I'm too old to be playing these silly push/pull relationship games. I just want to be in a relationship where I can just BE. I can just be ME at all times. I wish the same for everyone here.

I think as women, we truly carry a nurturing spirit and it becomes natural for us to lean into broken people to try and help them. If you combine the aspect of love and romance, it's a next level type of hurt that you can experience. I'm sorry you are feeling heartbroken and exhausted, I think its safe to say a lot of us are there with you. You are not alone.

One thing I've started telling myself and practicing was the need to sit uncomfortably in our sadness, brokenness, exhaustion, etc. You must do this in order to heal. If you pick up you phone and call a psychic you will get fed things that may or may not happen, but you are preventing yourself from actually living in your reality. Next thing you know years have gone by and you will have a lot of unhealed trauma to deal with. I'm always here if you want to chat more.

[Miss Philosopher]

Hi again. Thank you both for your uplifting, inspiring, REAL, and beautiful posts. I couldn't agree more with both of you.

As I sit here and cry, feel the pain, the fear, the anxiety, the anguish, the not understanding why or what even happened, trying to make sense of it all, I came across a very old post by a member here, but I don't want to share her name. She'd read with many readers for a couple of years about an ex she was with for 12 entire years. Yes, Sincerity was one of them. Her story didn't end well as she had found out that he had actually gotten married after she'd been told for so long that there'd be reconciliation, even by Sincerity.

That said, it makes me question my readings with Sincerity even though most of everything she's said so far has come to pass outside of the him coming back to reconcile and him not really moving out but rather staying and dealing with the situation. As I write this, half of his belongings are still in this apartment and the other half are at his other place.

Last time I spoke with him was last Sunday night and I was having very very strong feelings that he was only around and coming back here out of guilt, not because he wanted to be here. I could see he was stricken with anxiety big time the past three weeks or so and so I'd ask him if he had anxiety when he was NOT here and he said no. That told me a lot. He also would text me and say "I love you. I hope you know that", but none of his behaviors ever match. How do you say you love someone yet rarely ever want to be around? Disappear for days at a time each month? Rarely ever pay attention to them? Show pretty much NO interest at all in them? He's been saying for the last two months or so that he'll always love me no matter what. That is basically saying his goodbyes without actually saying it. That is someone trying to soften the blow and evade any kind of guilt they may have leaving. Just a month ago he was saying he didn't want to lose me, yet, he'd continue to disappear for days despite me begging him to stop for the last two years he's been doing it. First cause of drugs, and for the past year, who knows why but clearly you don't want to be around me and that is not a man that is in love. So back to Sunday night, because I could feel that he really didn't want to be here and was just forcing himself to be (I'm very very empathic), I told him he did not have to be here but that I needed him to continue to pay half of the bills in this apartment for a few months until I found a more affordable place or found a higher paying job. I JUST signed this lease in October and prior to that I had an opportunity to downgrade and I asked him over and over again if he wanted to separate. He just couldn't make up his mind for some reason and then said he wouldn't leave me hanging financially like that and would still pay bills even if he wasn't here. That was also telling. I should have downgraded right then but I didn't realize he really wanted to leave but just didn't have enough balls to say what it is. I thought he wanted to stay and not leave me. Yes, I'm indeed a fool. So after I tell him Sunday night that I need him to help with bills but that he isn't forced to stay here in the meantime, he says "So, you want me to leave but still pay the bills". I'm like no dude, that isn't what I said. I need to hear my words exactly as they're coming out of my mouth. I told him he did not HAVE to be here out of guilt and he said he didn't feel guilty staying here, which meant to me he felt guilty leaving here. So I was like you don't have to feel guilty leaving here either. You're not obligated to me anymore. Next thing I know, he seemed to cop an attitude with me, he gets up and goes to bed. Monday morning he leaves super early and I haven't seen or heard from him since despite him telling me he'd still always be there for me no matter what, yet, he hasn't been there for me for years. It's a twilight zone.

Anyway, I wanted to share something this previous member had said that really punched me in the gut and opened my eyes tonight which made me cry my eyes out. She said, and I quote, "People - think of every person in your life that is in a long term successful relationship. Besides normal disagreements and maybe a break up that lasts a few days, you'll notice that their man doesn't disappear. They don't stop calling or wanting to be around their POI. To argue otherwise is just keeping yourself in a safe bubble, which will also keep you from moving on, letting go and living your life. A MAN IN LOVE DOES NOT DISAPPEAR! It's a painful, brutal truth. Feel the pain - save your money - and move on knowing he lost the best thing he'll ever know."

THAT HIT ME SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO HARD because it's so true. Human nature is what it is. Male or female. When we're interested and invested and really do love someone, we have no desire to disappear. Some personalities do require time alone to think about things, but they don't disappear for weeks and months and it doesn't happen multiple times over and over again. When words don't match actions, it's only manipulation. I remember I had one reader back in like July or something point blank tell me I was a placeholder. I now believe that reader because I sure did get treated like one.

I also saw a reel posing the question on how to know when it's time to let go. The answer: When they don't show any interest in you. Next question was: What if they SAY they love you and they SAY they're interested, but they don't show it? Answer: Those words mean nothing and it's just manipulation. Last question was: What if they start DOING at the end of the relationship and their words finally match their actions? Answer: If they only DO when it's nearly over, it's not love because the doing will end again shortly after the comfort zone sets in and it's just manipulation again. Your mantra should be "I don't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with me."

THAT ALSO HIT ME SO FKN HARD. It's taken tons of heartache and different relationships for me to finally realize these things. I always stay in them for much longer than I should, wasting years of my life on people that did not ever love me. I've done it time and time again. I never leave at the first sign of these things happening. I always believe it's a phase and things will turn around but they never do. They just continue to decline.

For me, I get readings to ease the blow. For me, letting go is a process because I know myself and once I let go, there's no going back. Not ever. I always have a fear of what if they change and I already let go? Did I miss out on something? The answer is: Probably not. It's highly probable said person hasn't changed a damn thing but just couldn't find anyone else to match the loving, selfless qualities we have and they miss it. For me, all I really need is the truth from these dudes. I'd rather the dude have enough nuts to just say "Hey, I don't have those kind of feelings for you anymore and here's why or maybe there's no reason and they just faded over time. Thank you for everything you did for me and for loving me. I'm sorry I've caused you pain." I would be hurt, but the healing process would be much much faster. Instead of being used for the just in case which hurts even worse. That leaves a person feeling like they aren't enough and you don't know why you weren't enough. That's the hardest part to get through.

I actually feel very strongly that he already has someone else and I don't care what the psychics say because they all seem to suck at picking up third parties. Although I haven't asked. I don't want to ask because whether he does or doesn't, he's treated me terribly for no reason and that's what matters.

The only reading that I'm going to continue to hold on to is the one I had with Kisha in February 2023 where she saw the end of a toxic relationship and then some rando that she couldn't see wanting to marry me. She saw a move with it, saw it would be comfortable, stable, and I'd be happy. Although, she said the same shit about this guy I'm with now, that it wouldn't be one-sided, that it'd be reciprocal, he'd help me heal, not disturb my peace, blah blah and it was only like that for like two months out of all these years. However, if I'm married to a person, obviously they are going to be reciprocating and treating me properly so I feel comfort in knowing that someday, before I leave this earth, someone will actually love me properly.

I WILL get another reading with Sincerity but this time, it will not be about him. It will be a general love reading asking who she sees coming into my life and if she sees me married, if so, what does said person look like, where/how do we meet, etc. I will never get another reading about this guy personally again. And then I'm going to hold on to THAT for hope so that I don't go into the worst depression.

Thank you all so much for listening to me. I cannot express how comforting it is. I have zero friends because I'm agoraphobic (means I have panic attacks so bad that I can't leave my home). So thank you all for being friends at a distance. I wish nothing but love and happiness for each of you.

[sugarsky]

Miss Philosopher - everything that you have quoted is so true and makes so much sense

I really hope you find peace and love in your life

An addict cannot ever give that to you ❤️ you will find a much better life on the other side of this mountain xx

[jackY]

Could not have said it better. I second this!

Miss Philosopher - everything that you have quoted is so true and makes so much sense

I really hope you find peace and love in your life

An addict cannot ever give that to you ❤️ you will find a much better life on the other side of this mountain xx