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Ruined my life
jhuskindle:
The replies before me already mentioned it, but I sincerely hope you take their advice. This is a symptom, a trigger, not the source of your anxiety and pain.
1. Seems this falls under addiction, now that you know, you can combat it.
2. Seek therapy, this is only a symptom of underlying issues
3. It's not the psychics, this pain is coming from you, there are other people in the world that can have a reading and enjoy it for the possibilities, or preparations, and not take it too seriously and use them as a kind of tool, to help (if) things come to pass. I know I do, I dont get any fear anxiety or pain surrounding readings, in fact, I find them very helpful.
I prepare (if, say it says I may get kicked out of my area like we just sold the building and Leeann had mentioned there will come a day when I SUDDENLY need to move, I took this PRECAUTION to set things up in case it happened. It did. This did not negatively impact my life, I only took what precautions I would without going into an extreme.) with readings, but it took a long time to filter out the bad or cold readers or negative ones. Trust me I heard my SO was scum many times, it simply wasnt true.
I took into consideration it was true and looked into that possibility, then decided it wasn't accurate based on my real world experience. Normal people can do this. Or rather, mentally healthy people. I've been where you have been in the throes of anxiety and pain, and I empathize, but I want to impress on you that life can be better. You can overcome this as an addiction and overcome your anxieties and fears. I truly hope you have access to a good therapist who can guide you through this. For now,try to quit. Acknowledge this as an addiction, that helps. And also realize this is from you, and in some way it sounds like you are deflecting onto them. No one goes into a psychic reading TRULY believing it. It isn't logical and seems impossible. This means that you justified the probability of it being real, and then used it as a trigger for your underlying anxieties. Its completely understandable ESPECIALLY with the world as it is, so don't be hard on yourself about this, acknowledging is all it takes.
I am not going to give crappy cold readers or crappy negative readers a pass, but, you take the risk either direction by testing a reader. It's a GAMBLE until you find a reader with consistent results, and that gamble can be an addiction just like any gambling.
I wish the world wasnt full of cold readers or bad readers, but I also know that its human nature to prey on spiritual beliefs (and it lacks scientific backing, so its easy for them to be "psychics")
jas:
Thanks 704, Th3 and Smiley!
Making a payment on my credit card feels almost as good as a reading. Here is a couple of tricks I have been using:
I will buy something I don't need, something totally useless to me, such as a stupid power tool. I buy it as soon as I get paid and I put it to the side. I keep it for 90 days and return it. As soon as I have the money back I put it on my credit card. The items are as much as $500 - that way I am not tempted to spend my money because it isn't in the bank. I can't use my credit cards because I put them in a freezer bag with water and then froze them. That way if I need the credit card for an emergency it is there. You can't put it in the microwave to thaw because it will damage the card. I know that one is stupid but it works for me. This is a method that blocks my debit card and my credit card.
Seeker23:
--- Quote from: Cancersun22 on June 20, 2020, 11:03:47 PM ---Hey everyone.
I have been going to psychics for around 5 years. But more frequently for the past 2 years.
I can say, that I am delusional because of all these so called ''psychics'' my relationship have sadly been affected by this and I have hit rock bottom. I am now jealous, low self esteem, depressed and I have horrible anxiety + all the money I wasted on them.
They have said things like that me and my boyfriend will break up (a year ago). that he wouls propose (last fall and some said this summer..) that I would get a job opportunity and that I would travel for work. NEVER HAPPEND. I just feel like I secretly believe them still (some of the predictions I am ''waiting on'') And it drives me insane. I feel Insane.
This have ruined my life.
I just keep crying, I feel like my relationship is over, like it's going down. Due to how much my brain have taken in and how delusional I have gotten. I just want to wake up from this night mare, I feel trapped and I don't know what to do anymore. I have even thought about taking my own life because I feel hopeless.
I have fed my brain with so many predictions and a lot of them have caused stress, worries and so on.
I now get super jealous, thinking that something bad will happen or that my boyfriend is bad or hiding things from me. Like I see him as a bad cruel person, in my dreams he cheats, i cheat, he breaks up with me, or he is just super cruel and flirts with other women and so on. I CAN'T ESCAPE IT EVEN WHILE I SLEEP. But he is the most caring loving guy.
And what I hate the most is probably how jealous I have become, how much I stare at what he stares at and how angry I get if he talks to a girl. It brings me down and It makes me feel like shit.
So, I don't understand why my brain keeps doing this to me!
I just feel super lost because, I don't know where to turn.
But I got to say that It's a real sad addiction and all these scammers are horrible.
I just don't wish this upon anyone else.
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A lot of these people are not psychics. They get away with falsely representing themselves as psychics by the disclaimer, “entertainment purposes” and not held to the same ethics/standards or business standards of like any other business out there.
There are people out there that really do have a genuine gift, but some of the ones we run into, good Grief.
I, always, try to watch the wording and intro they give. Whenever, I see, “I am an intuitive”, I quickly pass them up.
Nine tenths of the population is an intuitive to a degree. Maybe, everyone should cash in on their intuition.
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