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Ruined my life
dascallie:
HornetKick: Bullseye. Stellar advice.
Natashanyc:
--- Quote from: HornetKick on June 21, 2020, 08:31:43 PM ---No matter what a psychic says, one always needs to look at what is actually happening as opposed to what we really want to happen. You'll start to merge things that aren't really realistic and conflate what a reader tells you into things that are not really there or were never happening in the first place. If it's in relation to a relationship just ask the SO so you'll know the truth instead of wondering where you at. It's harder in the short term, but more meaningful in the long term.
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GREAT ADVICE !!! I HOPE EVERYONE SEES THIS !!!
Angel22:
So true! I suffered for a year due to this, trying to merge his actions with what the psychics were saying and making up things in my mind, contemplating about a lot of stuff rather than seeing things as they were and going with the present. Another advice i would like to give is and has been said many times here - to be in the moment. It is extremely tough to be in present but eventually that's the only truth. If he is not in your life, he is missed out on you, things might change in the future but you need to accept the current situation. I am still not over it completely but keeping this in mind really helps.
--- Quote from: Natashanyc on June 21, 2020, 10:05:17 PM ---
--- Quote from: HornetKick on June 21, 2020, 08:31:43 PM ---No matter what a psychic says, one always needs to look at what is actually happening as opposed to what we really want to happen. You'll start to merge things that aren't really realistic and conflate what a reader tells you into things that are not really there or were never happening in the first place. If it's in relation to a relationship just ask the SO so you'll know the truth instead of wondering where you at. It's harder in the short term, but more meaningful in the long term.
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GREAT ADVICE !!! I HOPE EVERYONE SEES THIS !!!
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Smiley1:
This is really important. Psychics fill our heads with promises and fantasies and we go along with this. I remember being totally obsessed with someone in my past and ringing psychics. They told me that he was in love with me, he was going to want to have a relationship and I turned my life inside out and upside down to please him. Only 2 people told me he was a waste of time and never going to give me anything, that he only wanted friendship. Tha tis around 30 psychics I tried who all told me he was my guy and he was just shy, avoiding commitment, wanted space, nobody else in his life etc etc etc. Even the so called big hitters had me thinking this guy loved me and I built this fantasy in my head and become so obsessed with him, more than I was before I actually called anyone. On the face of it he was avoiding me, had said to others I was obsessed with him, had literally told me to stay away from him and what happened every psychic but 2 were right and they pointed out my low self esteem and that I was holding onto something I needed to let go of in order to be happy. The guy and I lost contact years ago and I am embarrassed of the fool I made of myself because of psychics. I now only take face value from people instead of making a fool of myself, I mean he was younger than me and although I am only in my 30's i twas still so shameful.
Listen to yourself what you are being shown by someone and stop relying on others for your input, I am sure you would enjoy your life much more if you just lived with what was in front of you.
I mean the people I read with told me that this guy talked to others, I was raging with jealousy and my heart would palpate at the thought.
In reality if a man is talking to another - that other is welcome to them.
--- Quote from: Angel22 on June 22, 2020, 12:41:34 AM ---So true! I suffered for a year due to this, trying to merge his actions with what the psychics were saying and making up things in my mind, contemplating about a lot of stuff rather than seeing things as they were and going with the present. Another advice i would like to give is and has been said many times here - to be in the moment. It is extremely tough to be in present but eventually that's the only truth. If he is not in your life, he is missed out on you, things might change in the future but you need to accept the current situation. I am still not over it completely but keeping this in mind really helps.
--- Quote from: Natashanyc on June 21, 2020, 10:05:17 PM ---
--- Quote from: HornetKick on June 21, 2020, 08:31:43 PM ---No matter what a psychic says, one always needs to look at what is actually happening as opposed to what we really want to happen. You'll start to merge things that aren't really realistic and conflate what a reader tells you into things that are not really there or were never happening in the first place. If it's in relation to a relationship just ask the SO so you'll know the truth instead of wondering where you at. It's harder in the short term, but more meaningful in the long term.
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GREAT ADVICE !!! I HOPE EVERYONE SEES THIS !!!
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Angel22:
Oh man! I could not agree more. When he first stopped responding to my texts, I went through similar pain and trauma. I checked his social media and he was vacationing somewhere. I could not make sense of it and the psychics use to tell me that whatever you see on the social media is never the truth, fed fantasies to me that he is sorting his life, etc. I am still unable to understand how can someone live their life so peacefully by making someone go through all the pain. All the psychics told me the same he is shy, scared of commitment, etc all the bs..Literally I use to get palpitations when someone mentioned there is another woman, and also the anxiety, stress, fatigue due to the readings. It has been a year now, I am in a better position and no longer in that anxiety phase yet sometimes it bothers, hurts and I still do cry sometimes. I really feel absolutely no one should go through this in their life. I wish I never met him, although I learnt many lessons but at the end I feel it was too much to go through and wonder if I could have learnt my life lessons some other way. But it is what it is and there is no other choice than accepting the situation. The final realisation was that all answers are within and everything ultimately comes down to self-love.
--- Quote from: Smiley1 on June 22, 2020, 02:14:51 AM ---
This is really important. Psychics fill our heads with promises and fantasies and we go along with this. I remember being totally obsessed with someone in my past and ringing psychics. They told me that he was in love with me, he was going to want to have a relationship and I turned my life inside out and upside down to please him. Only 2 people told me he was a waste of time and never going to give me anything, that he only wanted friendship. Tha tis around 30 psychics I tried who all told me he was my guy and he was just shy, avoiding commitment, wanted space, nobody else in his life etc etc etc. Even the so called big hitters had me thinking this guy loved me and I built this fantasy in my head and become so obsessed with him, more than I was before I actually called anyone. On the face of it he was avoiding me, had said to others I was obsessed with him, had literally told me to stay away from him and what happened every psychic but 2 were right and they pointed out my low self esteem and that I was holding onto something I needed to let go of in order to be happy. The guy and I lost contact years ago and I am embarrassed of the fool I made of myself because of psychics. I now only take face value from people instead of making a fool of myself, I mean he was younger than me and although I am only in my 30's i twas still so shameful.
Listen to yourself what you are being shown by someone and stop relying on others for your input, I am sure you would enjoy your life much more if you just lived with what was in front of you.
I mean the people I read with told me that this guy talked to others, I was raging with jealousy and my heart would palpate at the thought.
In reality if a man is talking to another - that other is welcome to them.
--- Quote from: Angel22 on June 22, 2020, 12:41:34 AM ---So true! I suffered for a year due to this, trying to merge his actions with what the psychics were saying and making up things in my mind, contemplating about a lot of stuff rather than seeing things as they were and going with the present. Another advice i would like to give is and has been said many times here - to be in the moment. It is extremely tough to be in present but eventually that's the only truth. If he is not in your life, he is missed out on you, things might change in the future but you need to accept the current situation. I am still not over it completely but keeping this in mind really helps.
--- Quote from: Natashanyc on June 21, 2020, 10:05:17 PM ---
--- Quote from: HornetKick on June 21, 2020, 08:31:43 PM ---No matter what a psychic says, one always needs to look at what is actually happening as opposed to what we really want to happen. You'll start to merge things that aren't really realistic and conflate what a reader tells you into things that are not really there or were never happening in the first place. If it's in relation to a relationship just ask the SO so you'll know the truth instead of wondering where you at. It's harder in the short term, but more meaningful in the long term.
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GREAT ADVICE !!! I HOPE EVERYONE SEES THIS !!!
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