YES! a thousand times yes. I can't tell you how many times I thought contact from the first POI meant things were progressing. Nope!
@sawthelight - I totally get that contact and reconciliation are different. In this conversation LP stated something about a struggle to get to an even place. If it was simply contact I don't feel as though there would be any struggle involved, right? For example let's assume my POI wants to apologize for what she did. She could send a text stating she's sorry - that would be contact, but where is the struggle to get to an even playing field, right? I think a struggle involves some type of agenda that isn't being solved. Regardless if I reply, she would have made contact and that would be the end of the story.
However, let's take it a step further and assume POI has an agenda or expectations.
There are two ways this could play out:
Scenario #1
Let's say she reaches out to apologize (
that is her contact) and I am NOT receptive of it. In other words I do not acknowledge her and do not accept her apology. She could in a sense try even harder to vie for my attention, by either sending me more messages or trying to call me (
that is the struggle to get to the even playing field).
Scenario #2
Let's say she reaches out to apologize (
that is her contact) and I AM receptive of it. In other words I acknowledge her and accept her apology. This may lead to more communication, which could ultimately end up with us meeting up. At some stage she may suggest trying again. In the process of trying again things may have been so butchered from before that it's difficult for me to get back on board with things (
that is the struggle to get to the even playing field).
For me I'm looking at it in two pieces......
The contactThe Struggle to get to an even playing field....and I think they go hand-in-hand because LP elaborated on it right after she said
I get the sense you will hear from her and then she went into her spiel on how she still sensed POI would have the confusion and that she sensed a struggle to get on an even playing field. She even said
You might be thinking why in the world she would contact you after she left and went to be with these other men. Well, she feels as though she made a mistake. Personally, if I dumped a girl to date other women and realized it was a mistake I would go back to the girl I dumped to let her know I made a mistake. True story: this did end up happening with one of my previous partners, years and years ago.
LP told me to be careful - which I certainly will. These readings make you really scratch your head and think, hmmmmm.......
Do you guys think the contact and struggle to get to an even playing field go hand-in-hand? I suppose the only real way to find out is to wait it out and see what happens. However, since many of you are more senior than I am on this forum and had multiple experiences with LP I thought I would ask how to interpret this.