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Are couples who share a lot on social media really THAT happy?

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Love2lovenj:
Personally i never understood why people who are truly happy and secure in their relationship have to plaster it all over the internet.  Lmao honestly for me its like having a fairy tale reading.  🤪

Sparkle002:
Dang - yall already know I overshare my personal stories here...I cant wait until I can post about the relationship I love on social media!!
I had 2 boyfriends in the past that did not want to be tagged let alone didnt want to appear public on any social media platform (even though I knew their family and friends, etc)

So yall will probably hate me! LOL

IM GONNA BE SO DAMN HAPPY WHEN I MEET THE RIGHT GUY AND POST HIS ASS ALL OVER MY PAGE! LOL
I dont think I will over post tho - but yall will SEE my happiness because its been suppressed for so long  :'(

Some couples ARE actually that happy - I know several. That doesnt mean i know the intricacies but overall yep I do know happy couples including my Step Mom and My Dad - she overposts all the damn time and they are IN LOVE

Guess it’s no diff then ppl posting their kids all over social media

_sydney_vicious_:
LOL from my personal experience and my friend's personal experiences, absolutely not.

I was in a semi-short lived relationship about five years ago. I wasn't happy at all with him but stuck it out for those seven months for a different reason (I'll explain that later if you want lol). The whole relationship was unstable. He was insecure and would always pick fights with me which caused us to break up every three or so weeks. I remember that I told him early on that I don't want to put "In a relationship with ___" on FB because I have a six month rule. But he went ahead and did it anyways. On top of that he would always share and document everything we were doing on social media ESPECIALLY after a fight. When we broke up for good HIS friends were shocked because we always "seemed so happy". The reality is we weren't - at least I wasn't.

In my current relationship we barely share on social media, and we've been together for 3 1/2 years. On his FB he doesn't have photos of us which I don't care about since neither of us use it these days. We both use IG and my last photo of us was posted in March 2018, while his most recent photo of us was from July 2019. Does that mean we have a bad relationship? Absolutely not. We have some issues (what couple doesn't?), but at the end of the day we are much happier than anything else.

From these two experiences I've learned that when you overshare a relationship it's because you're compensating for the lack of happiness or stability.

Ninacy:
Well, on the opposite side of the spectrum there are people who are hooked with others but one of them is so embarrassed that they virtually hide the status of their relationship and untag pictures with the other person. Same goes for married people who'll stay with their wife/husband but won't post anything about it on social media.

 I know because I was dating a  guy who was a mess inside and out and poor fellow assumed he was in a relationship with me because stupid me, I dated him more than a couple of times because I didn't have the guts to reject him right away. He said he was in a relationship on Facebook while I was still "single" and even tag me on a couple of pics we got together in the restaurant, but I immediately told him to back off and untag. He got nasty of course and accused me of leading him on.

I believe genuinely happy folks post important relationship events e.g weddings, anniversaries, exotic holidays on an occasional or semi-regular basis but nothing too frequent or crazy. I'd say a couple of time's a month or so judging from happy couples in my circle that have been together for more than three years.

It's the ones who post very rarely (if nothing at all) or the ones who post random things about their relationship too frequently who are fishy and fake indeed. Both opposite things are a sign that something's off with their relationship.

Sparkle002:

--- Quote from: Ninacy on May 19, 2020, 06:19:58 PM ---Well, on the opposite side of the spectrum there are people who are hooked with others but one of them is so embarrassed that they virtually hide the status of their relationship and untag pictures with the other person. Same goes for married people who'll stay with their wife/husband but won't post anything about it on social media.

 I know because I was dating a  guy who was a mess inside and out and poor fellow assumed he was in a relationship with me because stupid me, I dated him more than a couple of times because I didn't have the guts to reject him right away. He said he was in a relationship on Facebook while I was still "single" and even tag me on a couple of pics we got together in the restaurant, but I immediately told him to back off and untag. He got nasty of course and accused me of leading him on.

I believe genuinely happy folks post important relationship events e.g weddings, anniversaries, exotic holidays on an occasional or semi-regular basis but nothing too frequent or crazy. I'd say a couple of time's a month or so judging from happy couples in my circle that have been together for more than three years.

It's the ones who post very rarely (if nothing at all) or the ones who post random things about their relationship too frequently who are fishy and fake indeed. Both opposite things are a sign that something's off with their relationship.

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Agree 100%

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