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Are couples who share a lot on social media really THAT happy?

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GoldenGirl75:
I was just curious to see if anyone had any input on this. Do you think that couples (or one person in the relationship) who post a lot about their relationship (i.e. birthday posts gushing about their significant others, happy 6 months, 1 year, 2 year anniversaries, post a lot of IG stories about their significant other that are TMI, filming their significant other when they aren't looking) seem to feel they have to prove something and are not as happy as they portray themselves to be? VS couples who are generally more private and rarely post each other but you know that in person they are a good match and a really strong couple?

From my experience, I noticed that couples I know personally who are fairly strong in their connection and relationships don't really post that much on social media about each other while there are other couples that I know who post a lot on social media about their relationship but they aren't necessarily as happy as you think. When they break up...its "seems" like a surprise bc it looked so perfect on social media...but in reality it wasn't.

Does anyone have any personal experience with this or have noticed similarities? Or do you feel like couples who post a lot about each other or when one person posts a lot about their relationship...they are really happy as they portray themselves to be?

Fairydust123:
No.

Social Media is totally fake. Why do you think couples in the 20's-50's ACTUALLY LASTED AND WERE IN LOVE. Social media is place people post to get validation from others and its stupid. I learned the hard way. Keepbyour relationship more private.

tshine17:

--- Quote from: Fairydust123 on May 18, 2020, 02:17:35 PM ---No.

Social Media is totally fake. Why do you think couples in the 20's-50's ACTUALLY LASTED AND WERE IN LOVE. Social media is place people post to get validation from others and its stupid. I learned the hard way. Keepbyour relationship more private.

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Or there were a slew of socioeconomic factors that correlate with a lower divorce rate. But I agree. Content people, period, don’t feel the need to advertise. It’s demonstrated by action, not words.

Fairydust123:
Agree with you!

However also looking at stats SM causes more divorces now through lust, cybersex, cheating, and a rise in further addiction!
(Not trying to get into that) im just saying SM is dangerous for couples who need validation from others!

GoldenGirl75:
Thanks guys for the input! Yeah it tends to get on my nerves when I see a lot of those types of posts...not bc I don't like seeing "in love" or "happy" couples but just that it comes off as attention seeking to me or desperation rather than actual happiness.

I know of one girl who would post multiple PDA pictures of her and her bf and overshare her relationship on stories...example she was at the gym with him and she was standing about 10 ft away from him. When he wasn't looking she took a video of him lifting weights and zoomed in and wrote "look at that cutie over there"  ::) no one cares lol

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