she said he gave me hope because he was really attracted but that "nothing will happen."
she said "i see 'excuses'" and that he is not ready to get involved in something - "it's not clear because its not clear in his head either"
this was early august-- it was accurate as far as the situation at the time, but since that time he has reached out in kind of shy romantic ways and put in an email that he's trying to heal/stabilize and intends and hopes for good things between us further down the road.
who knows? who knows.