It seems like he has work and family issues that are preventing him from having a happy relationship (that or he's using those as excuses). It's hard to know from your post whether he said the "not going anywhere" line because that's how he feels about you overall (i.e., compatibility) or if it's more of a response to the ups and downs of the relationship that may have resulted from factors in his own life. My personal advice would be to not reach out. At a minimum, it sounds like he needs to resolve several issues in his own life in order to even have the potential of having a successful relationship with you, and it's better for him to have the space to do that without your involvement anyway. If he is interested in pursuing something with you, he will reach out if/when he is ready.