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russianred:

--- Quote from: Still tired on March 13, 2020, 04:30:47 AM ---I look back at how most of his friends operated and they were kind of the same way. They were sort of avoidant and didn't like stating things too directly. It's one of those character traits that kind of polarizes people. I assumed my ex was more like me because he could be very outspoken, but I never noticed it was only when he could curry favor by insulting people his friends didn't like (by saying the things they were too cowardly to say.)

Very different thing to have a clear, honest, heartfelt conversation about where you stand with each other, which I found out he was unable to do without having major anxiety attacks, anger and basically running away every time the conversation was not superficial.
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As always, I love reading your posts.

I'm still trying to figure things out with my POI, but I'm slowly coming to similar conclusions.  You are right that outspokenness can often masquerade as honesty and openness.  In some ways, he and I have a similar way of sizing up situations, which is usually based in brutal honesty and some humor, so I assumed we placed a similar importance on the value of our words.  But his emotions and words about our relationship weren't consistent, and he could never seem to have a conversation about "us" where he wasn't evasive and inaccessible in some way.  His friends all seemed scummy too which he seemed to think was amusing, but it's not.

The more emotional distance I get from him (and a lot of this is due to severely cutting back on readings in the last month), the more I feel just disconcerted about it all.

HornetKick:

--- Quote ---They were sort of avoidant and didn't like stating things too directly.
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I just absolutely cannot tolerate people like this, although there have been plenty in my life and still are. I tend to limit my associations and time with them. Just an annoying, hair-wringing frustrated-ness.


--- Quote ---When people withhold information you need to make a good decision, they are usually operating on a different set of values and either they don't understand why you need that information, or they withhold it on purpose so they can have that advantage over you.
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This to me is the most hurtful when you find out one small chink of information that was left out. If you had it from the beginning, I feel one could make a better decision on what course to take, but noooooooo I always miss something or end up reflecting and find out later I wasn't told everything. Just an irritating, hand-wringing frustrated mess.

jas:
I have thought about going to a gamblers anonymous meeting to see if it might help with my addiction.  I found a group and had planned to go but with Covid-19 now is not the time.  Once everything settles down I plan to go and will let you know if it helps.

bee.23:

--- Quote from: Gemini30 on March 07, 2020, 10:51:01 AM ---I decided last September that I was done with readings, partly because of the negative impact it has had on my finances but also because I felt ashamed and embarrassed to be still consulting psychics about the same poi over several years. Also, I found the readings vague and generic; only little things came true, the more significant predictions didn't happen, and I felt I was wasting time holding on to false hope.

I was muddling along and doing okay up until February when I gave in and bought an email reading from a psychic I read with a couple of times last Summer. I had found her readings comforting back then, and they contained some sensible words of advice on how to handle a situation. I think persistent feelings of anxiousness and sorrow prompted me to go back and read with her again. I have a problem with overthinking and anxiety in general. Recent events unfolding around the world have a surreal feel to them, and I guess my mental state isn't the best at the moment. I start thinking about conspiracies and all sorts. I panic about coping with practical things while trying to maintain a semblance of stability and routine in my day to day life.

The reading did offer some comfort and reassurance when I first received it, and I've read through it often to try and calm my mind from racing. Still, the good feelings are short-lived, and I'm back in the doldrums again. Life is short, and I've wasted precious years daydreaming about a person who is out of reach, attached, unavailable, and who doesn't want me in his life in any way, even as a friend. I tell myself often that if he wanted to talk to me, then he'd jolly well be talking to me. It's simple, and yet I'm tempted to buy into what a psychic says about him not communicating with me because, according to them, he is feeling overwhelmed, controlled by a third party, stressed, and so on. When I look at my situation logically, I can't fail to see how hopeless it is, but it's like I want and need to escape into the fantasy of a happy outcome with him. I seem to find solace in kidding myself he might suddenly come forward and profess undying love or some such nonsense. A few months ago, I had a professional dealing with him, which was horrible; his efforts at even the most basic communication were non-existent. In some ways, the whole episode was so bad it was almost comical. And yet, without a word, he has done something quite kind, but this could be open to misinterpretation and doesn't necessarily mean anything. This is why I ended up caving and seeking out psychic insight, rather than listening to my intuition and common sense. Perhaps there are people you meet who affect you in such a way that you can never truly forget them; they leave their mark on you for the rest of your days, or it takes a humongous amount of time before they fade from your thoughts. I suppose I'll continue to be vulnerable to falling off the wagon and having the odd reading here and there for as long as this person lingers in my memory. I should cut this person off because I know it's pathetic to keep yearning for something that isn't even tangible or real anymore. I haven't seen this poi for years.

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I could’ve wrote this myself. Not only do I feel you, but I feel for you . Sending you love and healing energies

Rosieroo17:
Can i join this thread as my habit is now out of control
I reading about 4 times a day and I dont even want to know how much I've spent.
Its making me anxious and stressed. I think om just looking for comfort and validation as ive just left my marriage.

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