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summertimesnow:
Thank you! Pretty similar experiences. I actually had met my recent ex in '11 by signing up for a 3 day trial on UK match and then emailing back and forth for a month after.
Likewise I'd met whom I thought was 'the one'-tall and dark as you describe, dark eyes,, the POI that dominated all my readings from 2015-1017, who got me on the psychic forums!!! (but who has never appeared as a suit in Yona's cards), randomly when I logged on to OKC just a few months before they transitioned to the app format.
and thereafter it was downloading Tinder and the other apps and it's been the same story-I've 'gone out' on one off "dates" with 55 men.
Sadly I just do not have the networks to meet people through friends. My friends are my colleagues, and they're all paired off. When I first moved here, I had met people from other departments and it was a nice group to go out with but they all had long distance relationships or paired off with each other.
I tried dance classes before covid shut it down but again, it was just 90% female or couples.
In the past 2 years almost all of my 22 dates-if not all, I'd have to check my dataset-were from Hinge.
Yep, the jadedness gets to you and turns you off . I've become completely detached and cold,so much so that anyone on the app is rotten in my view and I'm constantly bracing against the next bad behavior.
Piggynose:
Dating apps are the worst! I’ve tried them and I’ve had the same experience, men just looking to hook up. I live in a smaller town and there just aren’t any good men available. I’m in my forties, so men my age are usually divorced with a bad taste in their mouth for a relationship and just don’t want a commitment. I’ve given up hope in meeting a kind man that wants a relationship and not just a hook up.
Lys:
Same same lol. I’m 28 and I live in a city since 1 year who I don’t know a lot of people.. I have no choice to be on dating app but I’m exhausted it’s always the same thing and the same faces lol. Because of the COVID I don’t know how I can meet someone now
Piggynose:
You’re still young! Have You tried “meet up” it’s a way to meet people that are into the same hobbies/activities that you are into. It’s not necessarily a dating app. It’s a way to meet new people. I believe they even do trips. My town is way too small to do that but my best friend lives in a huge major city and she likes it. The one she does is for hiking.
summertimesnow:
So for anyone who says that dating apps work and they found their current s.o: sure, but for some of us, it's a rinse repeat of the following experiences: ghosting, fizzling convos, insults, unicorn requests, breadcrumbing, submarines, and whatever fancy term the app execs coin to make it sound cute and inoffensive, just so they can get the ad money.
Here's a tally of my last half year of any 'love interests' off all the apps combined.
to preface; like Piggynose I am in a middle o nowhere town so the 'local' guys are those in the same town-they number to maybe 2 % . the rest are an hour away.
2 people of interest who stopped writing after drafting longish emails and countless more fizzled convos after 2-3 messages.
1 person who asked me out, canceled at the last minute and revealed he's polyamorous. He is colleagues with one of my distant colleagues but turned out he is bi, and a cross dresser, and poly, all of which I don't object to, but consider a turn off, sorry.
1 local person who seemed nice but whom I sadly couldn't get myself to meet up-so I'm the guilty party in breadcrumbing behavior here.
1 who was a local guy with whom I texted for 3 months , who still hadn't offered to meet 2 months past lockdown despite my innuendos-and whom I just stopped writing back to.
1 person whose 1 pic was deceptively attractive but came across as creepy in 4-5 other pics, whose height kept on varying between 6 0 and 5 9 (big gap here, sorry. I am only 5 5'' but the fact is the guy was playing around with his height)-he also canceled on me a few times but I was hoping he would cancel.
about 10 people who converted a normal convo-on Hinge, supposedly the serious app,--into sex talk, or attempted to
1 phone call that went well after which the guy sent me a cartoon about 'getting it up' and when I tried to divert the convo back to normal talk about pop culture and the like proceeded to try to sex talk and then was appalled when I called him out on it.
a local guy who asked me to rate my libido.
and finally the local guy who seemed decent but who was clearly hung up on his ex-if that story is true-who stood me up twice..
What a viral petri dish. seems like these people on the apps are pests lacking cognition and intellect who just are programmed to be vermin, much like good old corona.
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