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Carmicsa:
I have closed my accounts that I used the most. I’ve set up a reading with Yona for next month and I think that will be it for me. I’ve been anxious I’ve the last couple of days so I’ve had three reading (two of them pretty much said the same thing) and I decided to try leeloo for the one question for $10. I found keeping myself busy helps with the urge to contact someone. It’s when I have too much time on my hands that I get into trouble. Keeping my mind focused on things I need to get done has slowed down the urge.  I’ll pay off my credit cards and use them again. Smh I’m sorry you’re going through this. We are here whenever you need it.

njlady:

--- Quote from: beachgal214 on January 15, 2020, 05:32:00 PM ---
3.  Spacing out my readings. When I decided to quit the platforms, I still booked some higher end "go to" big hitters. - and like many of the none bingers - I sought out "general readings only... this helped tremendously for 2 reasons:  1.  I had to WAIT for the readings. so it prepared me for breaking the cycle.  By WAITING I was able to break the cycle of "whenever I want I can talk to someone". that accessibility combined with money spent and inaccuracy or not trusting the readings (in truth how can readers who log on 12+ hours a day stay fresh and clear minded??) SO in short WAITING gave me pause to realize I could go without bingeing. and 2. It saved me MONEY!! bc I wasnt spending so much on so baby crappy readings.  so spacing them out. - I still was satiating the need to know, but doing it in a more clear and thought out way that made me WAIT between readings.

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I totally agree with this.  I'm a non-binger who has consulted psychics for decades and had overwhelmingly good experiences.  Never went into debt, made multiple calls or any of that.  I rarely ever jumped on the flavor-of-the-month, and the few times I did, I was sorry. Nearly all failures have been when I needed to speak with someone right this minute.  I believe one good reading is worth 100 bad ones. 

One thing I do is keep a list of psychics I may want to try.  As time passes, I see how things go with other people and frankly 99% of them get crossed off my list eventually because the aren't actually psychic.  You have to know how to discern if someone is actually psychic. There are also people I've had on there for years and have never called. I just make a note like "consistently gets hits on employment/ job issues" so I have a better idea of who to call if I have a specific topic I need assistance on.  Be smart about who, why and when you call.  It's a tool to help you navigate and make better choices.

I truly believe that the clearer you are, the better the reading will be. By clear I mean you're in a good place mentally (I meditate twice a day), not desperate, not chasing something unhealthy, toxic  or just plain over, being open to answers you may not like and are proactive and realistic about your situation.  That means you participate in getting what you desire and you confront your own reality.  Nothing is set in stone. You can change your attitude and situation at any time. And the expectations a lot of you have for psychics is totally unrealistic.  No one is all seeing and all knowing.  They can only tell you what they get.  And frankly most of you aren't calling real psychics to begin with.

Blaming psychics and psychic lines for your actions is not taking responsibility for your situation, obsession, anxiety, whatever it is inside you that is encouraging you to make all those self-destructive calls.  You need to deal with whatever made you do it, and that's not I did it because it was a bad breakup, he cheated or any of those things.  Something made you not want to deal with your life, escape into a fantasy of he still loves me and will be back and give all your power away.  He's either coming back or he's not.  That is entirely up to him. Hearing about his new squeeze or how he misses you or anything really is not going to help you and it certainly won't change your situation. It's not healthy.   

Also, all the toxic encouragement around here about hanging on and there's still hope is not helping.  Think about it.  They are people with the exact same situation as you and the exact same problem and they are encouraging you to keep hanging on.  WTF.  It's like an alcoholic telling another AA member his problems and that person tells them to have a couple of drinks to deal with it.  They can't tell you maybe it's time you moved on because it would be too close to admitting that their person isn't coming back either.

When I do make a call, I wait and see how things pan out.  Could be 1 day, could be 3 years but I wait.  I don't keep calling back or start calling other psychics to get their opinion.  Nothing is ever 100%, but unless it's a very high accuracy rate for me personally, I won't ever call them again.

HornetKick:
There is a lot in what you said was some good points, particularly this:

--- Quote ---all the toxic encouragement around here about hanging on and there's still hope is not helping.
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Even when members post about the S.O. treating them worse than any treatment is allowed, they still ask, should they hold on. Isn't it obvious there is nothing there? Is it hard for them to look back and see there probably was nothing there, to begin with?

I'm totally with you about spending a lot of money. I've never done this, plus I've never binged, but I still seek out readers. I read two to three times per month. I know to wait for all the glorious posts about readers people start posting about. I also have years of notes and I even go back to make follow up notes about the reader, how long I spoke to them, how much I spent, the site I called them on. I have great notes and refer to them often. There have been times I forgot I read with someone and failed to make a note about it and then remembered after I read with them again. And was again disappointed.

bee.23:

--- Quote from: Buggus74 on January 15, 2020, 01:59:30 PM ---So I need help big time.  I think this is worse than when I quit smoking 16 years ago.  I’ve spent most of my life savings in this, over the last year and a bit.

It all started on iHoroscope, the chat readers on there.  I went on for just a general overview of what I might expect from my new budding relationship at the time.  No specific questions, just wanted to see what they would say.  In any case, the reader was dead on and right about everything and it was very similar to what I had heard in an person reading.  Because the reader was so good, I was intrigued and started asking other things, and soon he became my regular go-to.  He predicted everything that’s happened, my moving in with my husband, his feelings, us getting married, all of it.  But because it seemed so good to be true, I ended up trying to see if it was really accurate and asking other readers for a second and third opinion.  More and more of my money being wasted.

I ran up my credit cards, I took small loans, it’s been a disaster.  I’ve eaten up all of my savings over the last year because it seemed like I was talking to an old friend.  They really hook you.  Some of the things they say and ask and asking questions before your credits are finished makes you hungry to go back for more.  They kept telling me my husband was hiding something big from me, on his phone.  Which he was, he was having an online affair with someone which I learned about much later.  Needless to say I was devastated and wanted to know what would happen.  I was on daily and almost several times a day. 

My husband doesn’t know what I’ve done.  I can’t bring myself to tell him what I’ve done with all my money.  But I know he’s growing suspicious because he’s asked where all my money keeps going.  I need this to stop.  I don’t know what to do to control my urges to go on and talk to them.  Please help me and tell me what you’ve done if you’re in recovery.

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I bought a deck of tarot cards and started learning and reading myself! Lol! And that aided in me completely stopping my psychic addiction with it. Now I speak to no psychics online and I was an advid binger. Meditate instead! Go for a run!! Delete your accounts! You can do this I am here for you! We are all here for you ❤️🙏🏽 Stay strong

It is not worth the mental strain, the lack of peace, confusion, and financial draining

bee.23:

--- Quote from: beachgal214 on January 15, 2020, 05:32:00 PM ---Hi!

I am in recovery.  I do still go on forum. bc I found talking to and reading others experiences , especially the negative, have helped me.

What helped me the most:

1. Directly addressing the issue I was calling about - for me that meant reaching out to POI for explantation, validation and if needed closure.  We remain in contact so not exactly closure but have come to some sort of understanding of where we are in this confusing world.

2.  Realizing that the readings I was getting on binges were low quality and I never trusted them enough hence the binge to seek confirmation.  finally I realized I felt AWFUL about how much money I spent - and for what?  I didnt know if I even believed the info OR WORSE - it was not something I DIDNT ALREADY KNOW.

3.  Spacing out my readings. When I decided to quit the platforms, I still booked some higher end "go to" big hitters. - and like many of the none bingers - I sought out "general readings only... this helped tremendously for 2 reasons:  1.  I had to WAIT for the readings. so it prepared me for breaking the cycle.  By WAITING I was able to break the cycle of "whenever I want I can talk to someone". that accessibility combined with money spent and inaccuracy or not trusting the readings (in truth how can readers who log on 12+ hours a day stay fresh and clear minded??) SO in short WAITING gave me pause to realize I could go without bingeing. and 2. It saved me MONEY!! bc I wasnt spending so much on so baby crappy readings.  so spacing them out. - I still was satiating the need to know, but doing it in a more clear and thought out way that made me WAIT between readings.

4.  Ultimately realizing there is no new info. that I NEED TO KNOW.  that I have my situation. that I can trust myself to raise my vibration to get into alignment with my highest good. trust that things are working out for me and that by relinquishing control the universe can work its magic.  That ultimately I know the answers to the why's and the how's and asking more people for input is only convoluting what I already know to b e true.   I dont have any interest in calling a reader.  at all.  I do like to read the stories on here and read about good readers in case in future I would -- but I am hoping to one day not even come on the forum.  but for now its like a guily pleasure of sorts and if I can. help someone overcome what I went through id be glad to.

I hope this helps you.  it really did work for me. I probably spent thousands since I started in May.  I never added it up but I feel l it was a lot.  it was easy to blow through 300-500 a week.  I really was someone calling 3-4 a day and hating myself after.

getting through to my issues and questions direct from the source helped the most but the biggest was also. spacing the readings out and petering them out slowly so as not to cut myself off cold turkey. I still had some positive and validating readings coming in. 

I have not had a reading since my reading with Yona last week nd that was booked in November.  I am excited to just things play out.

I wish you luck!!!! I would also probably confront the husband on the issues.

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Aww I love this advice @beachgal!
Such positivity, thank you for sharing ❤️

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