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Buggus74:
So I need help big time.  I think this is worse than when I quit smoking 16 years ago.  I’ve spent most of my life savings in this, over the last year and a bit.

It all started on iHoroscope, the chat readers on there.  I went on for just a general overview of what I might expect from my new budding relationship at the time.  No specific questions, just wanted to see what they would say.  In any case, the reader was dead on and right about everything and it was very similar to what I had heard in an person reading.  Because the reader was so good, I was intrigued and started asking other things, and soon he became my regular go-to.  He predicted everything that’s happened, my moving in with my husband, his feelings, us getting married, all of it.  But because it seemed so good to be true, I ended up trying to see if it was really accurate and asking other readers for a second and third opinion.  More and more of my money being wasted.

I ran up my credit cards, I took small loans, it’s been a disaster.  I’ve eaten up all of my savings over the last year because it seemed like I was talking to an old friend.  They really hook you.  Some of the things they say and ask and asking questions before your credits are finished makes you hungry to go back for more.  They kept telling me my husband was hiding something big from me, on his phone.  Which he was, he was having an online affair with someone which I learned about much later.  Needless to say I was devastated and wanted to know what would happen.  I was on daily and almost several times a day. 

My husband doesn’t know what I’ve done.  I can’t bring myself to tell him what I’ve done with all my money.  But I know he’s growing suspicious because he’s asked where all my money keeps going.  I need this to stop.  I don’t know what to do to control my urges to go on and talk to them.  Please help me and tell me what you’ve done if you’re in recovery.

sexyp:
the first thing you need to do is to close all your psychic accounts. the second thing you need to do is stay off this or any other psychic forum. hopefully other people can give other suggestions but these are the first 2 things you need to do

beachgal214:
Hi!

I am in recovery.  I do still go on forum. bc I found talking to and reading others experiences , especially the negative, have helped me.

What helped me the most:

1. Directly addressing the issue I was calling about - for me that meant reaching out to POI for explantation, validation and if needed closure.  We remain in contact so not exactly closure but have come to some sort of understanding of where we are in this confusing world.

2.  Realizing that the readings I was getting on binges were low quality and I never trusted them enough hence the binge to seek confirmation.  finally I realized I felt AWFUL about how much money I spent - and for what?  I didnt know if I even believed the info OR WORSE - it was not something I DIDNT ALREADY KNOW.

3.  Spacing out my readings. When I decided to quit the platforms, I still booked some higher end "go to" big hitters. - and like many of the none bingers - I sought out "general readings only... this helped tremendously for 2 reasons:  1.  I had to WAIT for the readings. so it prepared me for breaking the cycle.  By WAITING I was able to break the cycle of "whenever I want I can talk to someone". that accessibility combined with money spent and inaccuracy or not trusting the readings (in truth how can readers who log on 12+ hours a day stay fresh and clear minded??) SO in short WAITING gave me pause to realize I could go without bingeing. and 2. It saved me MONEY!! bc I wasnt spending so much on so baby crappy readings.  so spacing them out. - I still was satiating the need to know, but doing it in a more clear and thought out way that made me WAIT between readings.

4.  Ultimately realizing there is no new info. that I NEED TO KNOW.  that I have my situation. that I can trust myself to raise my vibration to get into alignment with my highest good. trust that things are working out for me and that by relinquishing control the universe can work its magic.  That ultimately I know the answers to the why's and the how's and asking more people for input is only convoluting what I already know to b e true.   I dont have any interest in calling a reader.  at all.  I do like to read the stories on here and read about good readers in case in future I would -- but I am hoping to one day not even come on the forum.  but for now its like a guily pleasure of sorts and if I can. help someone overcome what I went through id be glad to.

I hope this helps you.  it really did work for me. I probably spent thousands since I started in May.  I never added it up but I feel l it was a lot.  it was easy to blow through 300-500 a week.  I really was someone calling 3-4 a day and hating myself after.

getting through to my issues and questions direct from the source helped the most but the biggest was also. spacing the readings out and petering them out slowly so as not to cut myself off cold turkey. I still had some positive and validating readings coming in. 

I have not had a reading since my reading with Yona last week nd that was booked in November.  I am excited to just things play out.

I wish you luck!!!! I would also probably confront the husband on the issues.

Bean82:
I agree with everyone, but Beachgal’s #3 was what made me stop and slow down as well. With Yona’s accuracy I knew I would only need readings from her. I always feel content after reading with her. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve read with a few here and there since, but my readings have gone down about 80% since reading with a trusted psychic that has a good record of accuracy.

russianred:

--- Quote from: Buggus74 on January 15, 2020, 01:59:30 PM ---I ran up my credit cards, I took small loans, it’s been a disaster.  I’ve eaten up all of my savings over the last year because it seemed like I was talking to an old friend.  They really hook you.

--- End quote ---

I'm coming to the realization that this is the part that hooked me too.  Part of it is definitely wanting certainty in an uncertain situation, but I don't ACTUALLY 100% believe the predictions.  I really like just chatting with some of my favorite readers about my situation; unlike people in real life, they're willing to listen to the same things over and over again, and it's anonymous, so I can be totally honest with them.

I think that in addition to what Beach said, one tip might be directly linking your accounts to your checking account via PayPal or a debit card.  When I did this on Keen, I was less likely to call because I knew the money would come directly from my checking account, and I couldn't just deal with it later like a credit card bill.

One more thing might be to just take it one day at a time.  Resolve that TODAY you won't call... that's what I'm trying (I slipped the last couple of days).  And hopefully one day will become a week, and so on...

I'm sorry that you're going through this.  Lots of us have a hard time with the same thing.

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