@RPL, thank you for the information
. It's such a tough decision for me to make regarding who to read with right now between the two considering funds etc. I have renewed my spot in both queues and it's up to whoever calls me first. I appreciate the candidness of your review of both not being able to get some major predictions, right, however.
And if I can offer a little insight about your POI who has backed away due to fear: yes, absolutely re: your question about this "sheer fear of being hurt again or not being healed from the last guy that hurt you and having a hard time trusting that a man who was treating you right be enough to make you fear actually stepping forward to explore the connection?"
I have not been in a committed relationshi
p since 2012. That was the last time I let someone call me their girlfriend or I called someone my actual boyfriend as in a monogamous relationshi
p. Since then, I've never said "I love you" first even after it's been said (I'll reply with "I love you" but even to my current POI I only would say it when he did first. He eventually stopped saying it all together about a year ago, and maybe some of that is due to me). I've never told someone "I like you" first since 2012 or expressed my feelings about them openly unless they bring the topic up--I leave all of the major moves to the male ever since then. Trauma reveals itself in many ways.. I am sure that your POI has also been hurt severely and could share some of the same feelings or thoughts that I do, although I can only offer you my perspective

I hope this helps.. Hugs xo