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LiveLaughLove:
I agree Tango! (on your opinion in the last paragraph). I too met someone new and it's going well an be makes me not think about my ex anymore really. I too use to feel anxious and nervous when my ex came to mind but that's changed. And I too believe time heals all wounds even though it took a while for it to happen to me too.

4ever: definitely understand you! I think our gut does tell us what's going on. Sometimes my mind would tell me he's not coming back and I'd tell myself that but for some reason I could never fully believe it....I don't know if that's my intuition talking or what. But nevertheless I'm no longer worried about it.

sunandmoon:
I think the psychics bank on us not needing them as much if we get into a new r/s, which is why they will often tell us that the ex will still come back even if we are in a new r/s. That way they keep us hooked, and hey the law of averages does say that as well. Honestly, almost every guy I dated "long term" has popped up in my life again in some way. One was actually married and somehow found my new phone number and called to tell me how he was doing, maybe 15 years after we broke up. Hadn't thought of him in years!

I have not called any since early September when I started dating my new guy, and it was more of a curiosity to see if they'd tell me different things about him. I'd call and say the same thing about my ex, that I was looking to see where a r/s was going. Or that I was torn between two men. The answers I got were interesting, but again not earth shattering. Any predictions of my ex coming back last fall obviously didn't happen. One told me (and she is highly rated but I'd have to look through my notes to see who she was again) that my ex would come back within two weeks when he got wind of the new guy. I didn't hear from him for about 6 weeks at that point!

Synergy:
I don't even know where to put this, so I'm putting it in my vent post. 

I've shared that Chance and I are dealing with a problem out of each of our control, so I've decided not to see him anymore.  I was crying at my desk this morning, and my ex came by (yes, we all work together; what a mess). 

My ex grabbed my shoulder and told me that whatever it is, it will be ok.  And if this is related to the new man I'm seeing, then it's his loss.  He left, and then came back, and said "grab your coat, let's go".  He told me yesterday that he bought a car this weekend (his motorcycle was a big issue between us).  Well, he wanted to show me his new car, but then when we were outside, he told me to get in, and that we were going for a short drive because I needed to clear my head. 

It was the best 10 minutes we've spent together in a very long time.  This in no way means I want him back.  I don't.  BUT the reason I'm sharing this here is because Kisha told me about a week ago that my ex would do something nice for me.  She said he still cares.  Of course, she also told me we won't be together again, but I can verify that he did do something kind for me. 

BTW, I don't think I'll be calling Kisha anymore.  I love her, and she's been accurate, but she changed her story about Chance, and it really troubled me because I became really excited about what was to come with him.  It's my responsibility, not hers, but it has highlighted how dangerous this psychic addiction is.  This all sucks. 

LiveLaughLove:
Awwwww synergy!!!!! I'm sorry to hear about the break up but it's nice that your ex shows compassion towards you during this times

Hope it all works it's self out:))

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