Yes, mine is truly an ex at this point (more than 8 months of zero contact), so I just ask that question.
For some folks I didnt even ask that question, Like yona/Mattie -- no info provided, and both were able to pick up poi
The only other person I was impressed by was Bridgette on PS - asked "lets see what comes up in love/relationships", she got my situation, poi situation, and all the chaos around this in less than 5min. I know there's not a lot of fans on here, but i felt she connected really well!
Empaths usually just tune into him, and the good readers are usually able to pick up that we are not in contact.. some words from diff readers: he's afar thinking about you/at a distance/far away/you're not in a relationship right now are you?/emotionally shut himself off/etc. Some of these things maybe a "common" phrase, not sure...
In my experience the bad ones usually say "he's hot and cold/he's in and out". I had one reader saying "you should know how he feels about you, he's told you, hasn't he" ummm... ok!!